To be pissed off at being left at the airport....

[evelynj]

...so dh & I arrived in Spain today to spend 2 weeks with his family-fil kindly collecting us at airport.

When we got to our baggage carousel, dh informed me that he thought dc2 had done a poo so I said, I'll just nip off & change her quickly then. He said ok & I went to change her, (she hadn't done a poo so was a super quick change-about 3 mins top I reckon). Got back to carousel & dh & dc1 who is 4 were nowhere to be seen. Thought they must have gone to the toilet so sat opposite our carousel & waited. 10 mins later checked toilets & next nearest toilet, shouted etc & no sign of them.

After walking up & down baggage reclaim for about a half hour thinking there's no way he would have just gone on without me -not in a massive airport that I'm not familiar with etc, I finally found a jet2 lady who tried to help as I didn't want to go out past the 'point of no return' exit point. All I had was a 10 month baby who was getting fractious & half a packet of baby wipes, (so couldn't phone etc as dh had all my stuff & don't know his no off by heart). She kept saying 'I don't believe it' to everything when finally dh shows up trying to get back in from no return point.

I was hot, I was bothered, I was stressed out & pissed off & panicking & had started crying. Seeing dh made me more pissed off rather than relieved as it was obviously just him being completely thoughtless & just going off without me. I really didn't want to see his dad & his mate when I was in floods of tears. I felt like such an idiot.

So I tried to calm over the next few hours-staying at lovely villa etc when his bro brought up dh abandoning me at airport & I tried to give the summarised version with a jocular tone & dh goes on the defensive saying 'I thought you'd gone on' & I didn't know where you were-you just said you'd gone to change the baby-I didn't know which toilets' etc. (I am a logical person-I went to the nearest toilets abou a minute away)

Wtf? AIBU to think he behaved like a dick & should just say sorry? I'm back to being fuming with him.

Honestly, try and put it into some sort of perspective.

You're currently upset to the point of many tears and going to bed to escape everybody because your husband moved to another area of the airport. You weren't left there or abandoned as your title suggests.

Neither of you, as adults, had agreed to meet somewhere (be it back at the baggage carousel or elsewhere) so neither of you were wrong as such. There is good logic in him thinking that as its the only place to go that you may have been there.

In Thailand a few weeks ago I had a similar sort of thing. DH has cystic fibrosis and was feeling particularly exhausted when we were out with my mum and sister, and so decided to head back to the hotel. I said I'd meet him back there shortly. Got to our room and there was no answer. Checked at reception to see if he'd left the key and no luck. By this point I'd been back and banged on the door several times. I was thinking he was passed out in the room. Eventually got a maid to let me in and nothing. Turned out he'd been on the roof chilling out with no phone. I was mad when I finally saw him because I'd been so worried. It went after about 3 minutes, no harm done!

Thanks all for the replies and yes it could've been a lot worse-always good to get the variety of opinions on MN. I meant to say earlier I too like the idea of a travel amnesty. I guess I struggle to see how someone would think it's a good idea to just walk off....

Some great stories so thanks for sharing.

Anyway, yeah we're on holidays & I'll try to get over it, (along with the other stuff I was trying to get over before hols...). And yes - apologies for the slightly exaggerated thread title-I think this is my first AIBU post & 'my husband went past the point of no return' may have been a little more misleading!

I'll get a couple of bottles of wine tomorrow & we'll arrange some child free hours which will help.

I may even add some travel amnesty rules to my massive family packing list!

It sounds like bad communication / listening at the end of a flight in an unfamiliar place = stressful and a horrid way to start a holiday.
Sleep. Forget it as much as you can. Enjoy the break.
Then.
When you're over it laugh very hard about the whole thing.
I / my Dad lost each other at an airport in Greece. I still remind him whenever he's flying and he tells my husband to give me a beeper or something 'funny'.

DH and I never separate in an airport or station without agreeing where to meet, saves a world of pain.

P forgot laptop coming through security once.

We were rushing to the plane anyway. He dashed back for laptop. I didn't know the airport, we hadn't discussed before he left, and he left his bag/phone etc with me. So I just waited with DD where he left us.

When he came back he didn't pass us - he made the brilliant decision to go via the parallel route that normally disembarking passengers would use. So he couldn't find us.

Finally I start looking for him and find him at passport control. Plane was at the furthest gate.

We were "those" people who missed plane/had bags removed etc. Oh the tutting. Oh the shame.

We laughed about it, but I do always wonder why A) he left his phone with me and why B) he went the other way instead of retracing his/our steps and why C) I PAID THE OVERNIGHT HOTEL BILL (mug).

He was very U, but no reason to sneak off to bed with his brother.

I would've got v stressed too and would want an apology

I guess the lesson to learn here is each person needs to be responsible for carrying their own travel docs and phone etc. So in the event the unexpected does happen, it is remedied easily and without stress.

I have a little cross body bag/pouch that I can carry all my essentials in hands free.