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AIBU?

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To wear the same outfit to a wedding over and over again?

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mrscog · 31/05/2014 08:16

I genuinely don't know if this is ok or not!

Basically I have my 'go to' wedding outfit, I have a dress, shoes I'm comfy in, and a wrap type thing. I love it, I feel great in it and it looks nice.
However, I must have worn it to at least 3 or 4 occasions by now (originally bought 5 years ago).

Now I couldn't care less about anyone commenting on the fact I've worn the same thing a few times, but is it considered 'bad form' or anything not to make an effort? I'm trying to find something else, but failing miserably!

MN Jury - I need you!

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OverAndAbove · 31/05/2014 08:18

I think it's absolutely fine! I am recycling two outfits this year for weddings, and really looking forward to wearing them again. All accessories are already there and you know how the outfit works for that time of year and that it looks good. What's not to love?!

Duckierub · 31/05/2014 08:19

Absolutely not a problem, don't guys go in the same suit most times?

Only1scoop · 31/05/2014 08:20

I've got a 'go to' Coast number and a cream Laura Ashley linen trouser suit. They are my wedding staples for the last 5 years.

Nothing wrong at all....maybe a little update....shoes....jewellery just for a little change.

Enjoy the wedding.

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mrscog · 31/05/2014 08:21

Liking your thinking Duckie and if I wasn't panicking I'd have come up with that one!

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PeppermintInfusion · 31/05/2014 08:21

I do the same, bought an lk Bennett dress on sale a few years ago and wear it to most weddings. I usually just mix up jewellery/ colours etc. it fits likes dream and is so comfortable. I then spend a fraction of the money saved on getting a blow dry or something like that.

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mrscog · 31/05/2014 08:22

I am liking all these responses by the way :) I think I might just dig it all out then possibly add an update if needed.

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shakethetree · 31/05/2014 08:23

Is it all the same people at theses weddings?
If it is, then embarrassment would force me to buy something new.

Lottapianos · 31/05/2014 08:24

Absolutely fine. I think its utter madness to buy a whole new outfit for every wedding if you already have one that you love

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 31/05/2014 08:26

I have a few dresses but I don't wear the same dress to a wedding with the same friends. I wouldn't wear the same outfit over and over, no.

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mrscog · 31/05/2014 08:26

This will be the 2nd wedding with a group of friends who've seen it before, although there's obviously photos of me at different weddings wearing it. I won't be embarrassed about it though - in fact 2 of the friends are super green/thrift types who would be more likely to be judgey about buying all new stuff each time. I was just worried it might be some silly etiquette thing.

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YeGodsAndLittleFishes · 31/05/2014 08:26

I think it shows you've found something that is good quality and you have good taste.

The exception is probably when it is your own DC getting married, then you might need to liase with the bride and check you're not going to clash with bridesmaids or other DMum.

MoonRover · 31/05/2014 08:26

YANBU

Unless it's your dress that you wore to your own wedding.

BikeRunSki · 31/05/2014 08:27

I have a "wedding dress" that I bought 7 years ago from Hobbs, the year we had 5 weddings. Got cardy (Hobbs) and jacket (amazingly, Primark) and shoes. Looks lovely. It's all-season fabric (mid weight silk) and colour (pinky purple) and has been to at least 8 weddings and will continue to do so.

LadySybilVimes · 31/05/2014 08:30

Even if it is a silly etiquette thing, I would still do it. I really don't understand the fascination with buying a new dress for every wedding. I can never remember what anyone was wearing at any of the weddings I've been to, so I figure very few people will remember what I was wearing. If someone spots it on wedding photos then so what?
Weddings are expensive enough as it is without buying new clothes each time!

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 31/05/2014 08:30

I think it's absolutely fine. I like buying and wearing clothes so tend to wear a new outfit with each set of friends, but that still means I wear each outfit multiple times.

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 31/05/2014 08:31

I see nothing wrong with it. Just change your accessories which is easily done and doesn't cost a fortune.

shakethetree · 31/05/2014 08:31

Yes, if it's a very important wedding ( immidiate family ) then you have to buy something new to show you've made an effort - but for friends weddings I suppose it's ok, although personally I'd never wear the same outfit twice to a wedding. & you don't have to spend lots of money, you can get beautiful dresses/jackets in charity shops.

Paq · 31/05/2014 08:34

Absolutely fine and a very refreshing attitude.

If I saw a friend in a re-worn outfit I would think "how nice to have a chance to wear that lovely dress/suit/outfit again."

Notso · 31/05/2014 08:38

Both DH's brothers got married in one year and I did buy two dresses. Although I was 3 months PG in one and 7 months PG and looked like a giant berry in the other so probably would have had to anyway.

Otherwise if I get something I like then I would wear it more than once.

Coveredinweetabix · 31/05/2014 08:47

I do this.
However, for those who also recycle wedding outfits, would your view change if you'd worn the dress to a wedding and the couple were now divorced. Somehow, I feel as though it may be a bad omen to wear the outfit again even though the marriages from the other weddings I wore it to are still going strong.

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mrscog · 31/05/2014 08:57

I'm so pleased most of you think it's ok. I find it very hard to find clothes I like which I also like myself in, and we're in the middle of moving house and I work FT with a 2yo DS so I'm extremely time poor at the moment and wearing 'the outfit' will save a lot of time trailing around on a weekend when I should be with DS!

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HippyPottyMouth · 31/05/2014 09:01

That's interesting, Covered. This thread had just reminded me to see if I could still fit into a dress I've had a while instead of buying new this year. Now I think of it, I did wear it for the wedding of a couple who are now divorced and I do feel a bit unsure about wearing it again.

I usually have one dress for all the weddings that year, but they're rarely all the same group of friends.

shakethetree · 31/05/2014 09:13

Mrscog: 'feeling good' in an outfit really is the main thing, if you feel confidant you will shine but as others have said, just update with a few new accessories.

Eastpoint · 31/05/2014 09:16

Don't worry about wearing a dress again regardless of what happened to other couples, they made their own luck, your dress had nothing to do with it.

Rainbowshine · 31/05/2014 09:19

I've worn the same dress to several weddings, Christenings and funerals all involving the same family and friends - no-one minded or noticed. A wedding has the focus on the bride and groom after all. I mixed up what bag I had - mainly due to needing to carry more/less if it was at a hotel we were staying at or not.

I don't get the "bad omen" idea either - a marriage being successful or not is hardly likely to be due to what one of the guests was wearing at the wedding, is it?

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