Haven't posted in AIBU before....
DH and I took the DCs (13 & 12) to concert last night. The music is our era, not theirs but they wanted to go and know it through being on around the house etc. We had all looked forward to it for months and the tickets cost £300+ for the 4 of us. DH came straight from work because of logistics of getting there.
Concert started and for at least the first 6 or 7 songs, two 40-ish men in front of me talked loudly between and through the music. I don't mean constantly, but not just in the breaks either iykwim, loud enough for me to hear them 'remember this one?', 'I love this one', 'Do you think X will come on stage?' that kind of thing. Clearly, other people could hear them too, there was quite a but of head-swivelling and pursed lips going on. I was immediately behind them.
The concert was a 'history of' thing so the band were talking about how they first got together etc. So the in-between-songs bits were a bit more than 'Hello and welcome' chat. Anyway, the talking didn't stop or quieten down, and about 6-7 songs in I leaned over and said (quietly and politely), 'Excuse me, I don't want to be rude or anything but I can hear you talking and it's really loud, do you think I could ask you to keep it down a little bit'?
Oh dear.
Man 1 immediately turned round and started saying that he had paid for his ticket, he would talk if he wanted, he wasn't disturbing anyone, I had no right etc etc etc. I didn't answer any of this because the next song had started.
At the end of that song, while the singer was talking, he turned again and more of the same but this time saying that I was trying to spoil his evening by me 'claiming that he had ruined my night', and 'complaining all the time' and saying that he would carry on talking if he wanted. This time my DH (the mildest mannered person I have ever met), leaned over and said 'that's enough' and it settled down. A repeat at the interval an hour in (by this time he and his friend had had about 4 beers each, they had arrived with a big tray of drinks.
They didn't come back straight after the interval but the one who said I'd ruined his evening arrived about 1.5 songs in, with another tray of beers. Then he got his phone out. The security person (a young girl) came over and the chap sitting beside me said, 'thank god, maybe they will throw him out now', but she just asked him to turn it off. He didn't of course, just explained loudly that he was just checking his texts and wouldn't be a minute. Then the other friend arrived (more beers) and the second half continued much as the first - the music had got a bit louder/rockier by now so the talking wasn't as intrusive but still def loud enough to hear and still through the songs and not just in the breaks between. Also singing along badly although this didn't actually bother me so much.
Anyway, we left before the end, because I was worried there would be any other confrontation and they were now very clearly drunk. None of us really enjoyed it, me because I hate confrontation and my DH and DCs because they could also hear all the talking and could tell I was upset by it.
My DS asked why I had said anything and I said that if you let people act like dicks then they'll just carry on doing it so I felt it would be more unreasonable to say nothing and let it wind me up all evening. But was I right? Should I just have put up and shut up? I only know I would never behave like this and can't imagine my DCs doing so either, even as teenagers, never mind men in their 40s.
Rant over, sorry it's long. Was I BU??