Hey guys have NC for this as not sure if MIL uses MN. Long story short have three DC aged 9, 7 and 1. Had first dd living up north and when I got pregnant with ds said to my dh that I wanted to "go home" to where both my parents and PILs live because as a child I always hated living so far from my grandparents and always felt jealous of the kids whose grandparents picked them up from school and took them home for tea. Anyway fast forward 7 years and whilst my parents are very involved in our dcs lives my PIL are very distant still, they will watch the children if I ask them too but it always comes from me they never ring me to ask to see the children, we see them most Sundays but other than that I never hear from them at all all week. Obviously this week has been half term so I have had all three kids to myself all week and even though they are both retired I have not heard a word from them, I even heard from my dad that he saw them at a local wildlife park on Tuesday (he goes everyday coz he is a birdwatcher) would it really have been that much of an effort to ring me up and ask if the two big kids fancied going? (I have given up on asking them if they want to take the baby, she is too much work) the last time the kids had time off school I very casually said to them "if you want to do anything with dd1 and ds just let me know" and my FIL got a bit huffy and said "well consider us told" which made me feel like they thought I was try to push the kids on them, so this holiday I didn't say anything about them taking the kids just mentioned that they were off for the week and well now it's Thursday night and I haven't heard anything from them. I just feel for them that their grandchildren are an inconvenience that they will tolerate if they HAVE to but that they genuinely don't enjoy spending time with them which just makes me really sad. Maybe IABU and that you will say I should just awaken them but I feel I shouldn't have to ask them to spend time with their grandchildren.