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Original poster

to think parents lie to each other and to those without children?

36 replies

elliebigbellie · 29/05/2014 20:34

No one is going to think you don't love your kids if you are honest about parenthood. The fact that they are alive is enough proof.

"I love my kids but..."

home truths:

*I miss having a shit in peace.
*I didn't invite the food critic
*!

OP posts:
restandpeace · 29/05/2014 20:35

Some may do

Thurlow · 29/05/2014 20:38

I know what you mean. Sometimes you don't entirely tell the truth. I certainly don't to friends who don't have kids yet - some things are better experienced first hand Grin

Original poster
elliebigbellie · 29/05/2014 20:38

*Parks are boring places!
*Mr Tumble .. Argh!
Looking forward to their bedtimes
I just love stepping on legos and cars
*Finding rotten food hidden in odd places...fun!
*Supermarket meltdowns then bloody angels in the car
*Being able to get up and go...oh wait!
*Feeling guilty all the time!
*Sneaking out their bedroom when they have finally closed their eyes only to hear "mum..one more song?"

OP posts:
eddielizzard · 29/05/2014 20:39

because life is shit enough as it is.

Dysfunctional · 29/05/2014 20:40

I like to think I'm pretty honest about how hard I find parenthood

MrsBungle · 29/05/2014 20:41

My friends and I (and dh) talk about the 'truth' of parenting all the time! I sometimes feel I don't talk about the good bits enough!

Ilovexmastime · 29/05/2014 20:43

*arguing about homework for longer than it takes to actually do the homework.
*being told that all the music on your ipod is rubbish.
*never having a bath in peace.

Bunnytheeggrobat · 29/05/2014 20:44

I don't get the 'shit in peace' one. I always manage to have mine in peace.

elQuintoConyo · 29/05/2014 20:46

Because when people went on and on and on and on negatively about children (mostly my DM!) I just thought "shut the fuck up".

I still do, honestly.

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 29/05/2014 20:49

What's that saying...? "Anything you say before the word "but" is a lie".

So for me, I would have to say that I love my kids AND I would like to eat chocolate in the middle of the day without having to share it and then feeling guilty that I'm ruining their teeth because I've had to share it. (The result being that I no longer eat chocolate in the middle of the day in front of dc)

KeepOnPloddingOn · 29/05/2014 20:50

Oh gawd I am a moaner and a groaner! I am deffo of the honest variety. As much as Ido happen to love motherhood, its bloody hard work.

*guilt
*shower in peace
*no more lie ins
*look forward to bedtimes too!

EmmanuelWoganberry · 29/05/2014 20:54

I have recently started having to eat maltesers in frantic handfuls in the bathroom.

glitterandbutter · 29/05/2014 20:57

I have recently started having to eat maltesers in frantic handfuls in the bathroom.

^ brilliant Grin

CloverHeart · 29/05/2014 21:12

Just laze for 5 minutes. Just 5.

eddielizzard · 29/05/2014 21:13

yeah definitely - just for 5 mins have no-one yelling at me.

coraltoes · 29/05/2014 21:17

I love my daughter dearly, but I miss the spontaneity of life pre kids. Jet off last minute for a weekend abroad, pop into a beer garden on way home from work in the summer, drop by selfridges on way home for a relaxed browse ...now it is all planned nights out, online shopping and work to nursery dashes!! But boy do I love it all

toomuchtooold · 29/05/2014 21:25

I try and tell people but nobody wants to hear it. I have twins. They're lovely, but it's still a fucking nightmare. I just went back to work and everyone is like "how are you coping being back at work?" Coping? Coping with what? It's like being on holiday, being back at work. You get to sit down and quietly work through spreadsheets while listening to music and there's a lunch break. I went and had sushi this lunchtime and then went shopping. It was brilliant.

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 29/05/2014 21:35

I don't remember what it's like to not worry about whether my dc are happy or sad, safe or not, hot, cold, hungry, bored, tired, ill... I could go on forever listing the things I worry about.

The worry started the second I found out I was pregnant and it is never going to stop. And that feels exhausting just thinking about it.

I told a childless person in work this and they were really shocked. I don't think they believed me. Maybe it's just me who is like this anyway?

MrsGeorgeMichael · 29/05/2014 21:39

me too PourQuio

i worry about everything!

just heard a car turn at our gate and worried that it would crash though gate and hit house......

never fucking ending

everythinghippie29 · 29/05/2014 21:40

Genuinely laughed at frantic bathroom Malteser munching.

goes and hides emergency stress chocolate behind the u-bend

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 29/05/2014 21:42

This thread is helping me a lot. I now know I'm not the only parent who constantly worries and secretly stuffs my face with carefully hidden chocolate.

skinmysunshine · 29/05/2014 21:45

Shitting in peace
Matesers in bathroom
Arguing about homework longer than it takes to do

These TOTALLY ring true with me

AmazingDisgrace · 29/05/2014 21:48

It gets no better as they get older, the worries and stresses just change. Mine are teens now and it is lack of revision/pregnancy/wanting money all the time etcetc

We also hide the nice biscuits from the locusty buggers

DizzyKipper · 29/05/2014 21:50

I have recently started having to eat maltesers in frantic handfuls in the bathroom.

I share your pain Grin

StampyIsMyBoyfriend · 29/05/2014 21:51

Christ. Besides the LOL at malteaser munching, I sometimes feel I'm missing the 'Cath Kidston' gene.

Ds was planned, wanted, and came after a lot of heartache, but we still occasionally wonder what we did by blowing our lives apart, and having a child.

I love the bones of DS, I'd die for him. But it's hard going. And I don't know how good a mother I am.