to think parents lie to each other and to those without children?

[elliebigbellie]

No one is going to think you don't love your kids if you are honest about parenthood. The fact that they are alive is enough proof.

"I love my kids but..."

home truths:

*I miss having a shit in peace.
*I didn't invite the food critic
*!

I categorically don't, and the testament to this is my BFF saying to me that I am the only friend to give her a real idea of parenthood, and that if she had believed others she would of been in shock.

I wouldn't necessarily have been so honest with just any old one however...

If you complain, you don't get empathy, you just get smug remarks about how they've never had these problems... "you see we are consistent with rules / got baby into a routine straight away / don't watch tv / earned pocket money". Source: Facebook

It's like being on holiday, being back at work.

^ This.

toomuch. I hear you. I felt exactly the same when I returned to work after having twins. Just lovely. I used to have to take a deep breath when picking them up from nursery

NorahBone Facebook peeps are full of it. The worst part is they think because they're friends or family you should have to follow their advice, or that their words hold more weight.

My baby is in a routine because she naturally sleeps better in the dark. It's nothing we've done. But I do like feeling smug every now and again that I get to sleep at night

Let's see... things I miss:

• Taking a shower when I feel like it for as long as I feel like it
• Staying up late and sleeping in all day
• Doing things on MY schedule
• Being able to expect NOT to have all manner of body fluids/waste on me at any given moment.

I generally don't complain though. I knew that sleep deprivation and dealing with hazmat materials came with the territory. I'll get back to you when DD is a toddler though.

Anytime I've been honest, I usually get told its weird or not normal it won't stop me from being honest though! I have a 22 month old China shop bull and a 2 month old Leech - yeh, life's fucking fabulous

I love them to bits but it's bloody hard!

I found myself praying for early onset deafness the other day.
How do children know what sounds go straight through you making you want to take an ice pick to your ears?

There are lovely bits but mostly it's just shit.

I get the worrying as well, which really over shadows all the nice bits.

I think half of my Facebook statuses are proud posts of my DDs and the other half is me bloody whinging and complaining about them! ( not quite true, but you get the gist!) I like to think its balanced .

I know what you mean though, there are some mums who like to make out everything is perfect, life is rosy etc etc and it drives me insane.

Not me! I often work late into the night (like now, for example!) and would normally expect my early rising daughter to be waking me up at 6:30 asking me when she can practise her sodding flute! Thankfully, she's on a sleepover so I've probably got a lie in until 7 am tomorrow when DD2 rudely awakens me with her sodding violin ( played very badly). I'm more than happy to moan

Oh the joys of parenting!!

For me its got to be... I love my kids but.... id like some peace with DH to make another one. Can we please sleep for a few hours straight this weekend (yes littlest one I am looking at you!!)

My old co worker and I got engaged around the same time. We were both 'older' first time brides (mid 30's). Our other co workers, all women, all married 25+ years laughed at us and when we asked why they said nothing but, "You'll find out"!!

Well, "We found out" ! Now we say the same thing...some things you have to experience!