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Noisy holiday neighbours at night vs my noisy early riser children

88 replies

balloondoggy · 29/05/2014 19:53

My children are 6, 8 and 10. They go to bed at around 7.30ish most school nights or 8-8.30 on weekends and holidays. However, this holiday they have been so active with hours of swimming that they are in bed at 7. They are shattered.

However, they are naturally early risers. They are up any time from 6am.

Our villa circles the pool with 7 other villas. These other holiday guests are all adults and up late drinking etc. about 11pm. They are loud, but I've not complained.

The hotel has complained that our children are too loud walking to the restaurant in the morning for breakfast, which starts at 8am.

I'm really pissed off. It's okay to be loud and disturb a family's sleep at night. But not wake a bunch of 30 something's at 8 when breakfast is served.

OP posts:
Only1scoop · 29/05/2014 22:30

11pm isn't late to be up chatting and having a drink on hols but then 8am isn't exactly the crack of either.

I'd just keep the 'whose got the key' etc at a whisper Smile

ardomay · 29/05/2014 22:37

8am is not early. Yanbu, but sharing with other villas I'd expect late night drinking and noise, so they're not being unreasonable in doing this, but they are being unreasonable in complaining, when you haven't complained about their noise!

Private villa with own pool would be the way to go next year, if it can be managed.

ThornOfCamorr · 30/05/2014 00:07

YADNBU!! The people with hangovers are being vvv unreasonable and selfish Grin maybe they should go to bed earlier or the hotel should begin breakfast later.

HelenHen · 30/05/2014 05:22

Who complained? The people or the hotel? Sounds like everyones being u

Jengnr · 30/05/2014 05:33

8am isn't early. Ignore them and crack on.

sarahquilt · 30/05/2014 05:39

Good manners to be quiet while walking past their villas I'd say.

Tricycletops · 30/05/2014 05:46

You sound pretty sanctimonious tbh. It's a holiday FFS. Your children are old enough to be quiet if you ask them - I think you just don't want to because you're thinking "I'm up early so why shouldn't everyone be?"

trufflesnout · 30/05/2014 06:06

There must be more to this if there have been enough complaints for the hotel to talk to you directly. Would it be hard for your kids to stay quiet for the 30 seconds you are near the other villas?

schokolade · 30/05/2014 07:13

OP isn't saying 11pm is late, just the same as 8 am isn't early. 11 pm is late to her, 8 am is early to the neighbours. So if they've complained she has every right to point out that they're being tolerant too!

DoJo · 30/05/2014 09:30

But if most of the people staying haven't got kids and want to stay up late without being woken in the morning, then surely it's up to the minority to try and accommodate the majority rather than the other way round?

ThornOfCamorr · 30/05/2014 21:32

Everyone has paid the same though Dojo and 8am isn't early. The OP didn't complain about the other groups therefore they should put up with a few minutes of children's chatter as the children would have gone to bed hearing all the adults making a noise. It's a holiday! For all.

ThornOfCamorr · 30/05/2014 21:33

How on earth is the OP sanctimonious! Just showed DH he laughed his head off at that seeing as the OP wasn't the one complaining Grin

BellaVita · 30/05/2014 21:35

They need to go to an adult only complex IMO.

ThornOfCamorr · 30/05/2014 21:38

Definitely BellaVita

ExitPursuedByABear · 30/05/2014 21:39

Sheesh. If the restaurant is open you can't dictate what people do on the way there.

hettie · 30/05/2014 21:43

This is why I always pack ear plugs! No one abu...BUT I would shushh my kids if the rest of the complex was obviously not up and about

Randomnessesses · 30/05/2014 21:47

I think you are fine to talk in a normal voice walking past someone's flat at 8.

pictish · 30/05/2014 21:50

I think your neighbours are fine to be up drinking at 11 on holiday, and I also think your kids are fine chatting while going to breakfast at 8am too.

Stop moaning holidaymakers!

StackALee · 30/05/2014 21:51

To be fair on the op she's not complained to the hotel about the late night guest noise and is only mentioning it now to put e erythema into context. 8am is not early and the hotel are being arses.

ThePinkOcelot · 30/05/2014 21:55

8am isn't too early on a morning imo, but 11pm isn't late either.

samsam123 · 30/05/2014 22:40

if the breakfast starts at 8 then it is totally reasonable to be up walking and talking as you go from villa to restaurant at that time - cant believe people think you should be quiet until 11 that's madness half the day has gone by then

SirChenjin · 30/05/2014 22:47

Breakfast starts at 8am? In which case, so does the day. If they've got hangovers and want to sleep late because they are on holiday then they need to find a shop that sells earplugs.

Providing that your DC are not screaming and shouting at 8am (and it doesn't sound as if they are) then it's perfectly reasonable to be making your way to breakfast, conversing as a family. You don't have to be quiet until the people in the other villas have all got up.

Caitlin17 · 30/05/2014 22:52

You are being extremely unreasonable if you think complaining about people on holiday talking after midnight. A lot will depend on the resort but on the whole grown ups in a holiday situation trump your children. I would not be very happy being woken at 8 in the morning by noisy children.

SirChenjin · 30/05/2014 23:03

If adults are silly enough to holiday in half term in a villa complex then they can't complain about being woken at 8am - the same 8am which heralds the start of breakfast.

strawberryangel · 31/05/2014 00:16

I think they're U to complain, 8am isn't early. I wouldn't have complained about night time noise, but I would now, just to be petty! Grin