MIL, dinner guest, out of date gift

[layla888]

I invited MIL and her sister for sunday dinner as it was bank holiday weekend etc. MIL didnt bring anything (which I think is rude as you should always bring a gesture flowers drink anything) but her sister gave us a bottle of bucks fizz that's 2 years past its end of life date. I know its full of sugar and prob ok still (is it??) But AIBU to be a little annoyed at this??? P.s. I dont think ive had bucks fizz since I was 12 one Christmas.

I wouldn't dream of turning up empty handed, even if it's family I see each week. Just thoughtful, no?

usual i also think taking a gift or gesture is a bit formal for dinner with another member of your family. I also don't think it is necessarily rude not to take something to a friends - depending on the relationship. In my close group of friends (4 couples, known each other forever) we often end up eating meals at each others houses and its really not a big deal. If one couple is hosting everyone together then we will all 'chip in' with dessert/drinks/nibbles etc but if its an ad hoc 'you in tonight, we will pop round if ok' and the reply is 'ok, want dinner?' then we just go and have dinner!

but cooking for other people is a pretty expensive undertaking, if you're making an occasion of it. I don't pop round to anyone's house on a regular basis so it is always an occasion. Not formal, not odd, just not everyday either.

Not everyone has family that live locally - that's surely not that hard to understand, is it? MIL we see maybe every couple of months, same with FIL and whilst I go over to my mum's for the day quite frequently, Sunday lunch (which is when I'd be bearing gifts) is pretty rare. And she finds it quite an undertaking these days, and appreciates that we appreciate it, and show that by bringing her some chocs or wine or flowers.

I don't expect it if it's family or take anything to family.

Friends are different but with family you just don't in my world.

I wouldn't expect anyone to bring anything to sunday lunch, especially family. It would be nice to receive a gift at a dinner party, but not a big deal if I didn't.

Family don't do this do they? Strange. I wouldn't expect my family to.

And it's hardly the end of the world that the bucks fizz is out of date! It's the thought that counts and all that.

She was probably given the buck's fizz by someone else and didn't want it, so thought you might like it. Of course I'd never dream of passing on a gift I didn't want

I don't think it is necessary to take anything when visiting family, to be honest most of us have more than enough stuff in our lives and unless it is exactly the sort of wine/chocolates you like you might not really appreciate it. I had long lost relatives to lunch last week and they gave me an obviously expensive, but hideous, pot plant - I loathe pot plants but I accepted graciously .

I don't think family are expected to bring anything. And I doubrt they deliberated brought you a bottle of out of date drink. But I suppose you are entitled to have a moan about it!

I ALWAYS take something if I am going to eat at someone's house - whether it's my Mum or a near-stranger. Normally it's bottle of wine, but occasionally flowers or a candle or whatever. I think it's just polite to do so.

If I pop to my friend's for a take-away, then I might not take anything - but otherwise, if someone has provided and cooked a meal for you, a small gift is only polite. It's usually wine, flowers, chocs - a nice pudding that we can all enjoy pretty well anything really except something out of date--, it's courtesy

I always take something if I'm visiting friends or family for a meal. I wouldn't mind if they don't when visiting me.

I would never expect a bottle of wine I brought to be opened. Fine if it is, but it's not something that normally happens.