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AIBU?

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to be pee'd off with DS's football coach

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befrazzled · 26/05/2014 23:25

DS is in an under 9's football team. They had their presentation evening last weekend and he got Parents' Player and Top Goalscorer. Apparently he also got Players Player but, because the Coach wanted to 'keep it fair' ie he couldn't be seen to be winning 3 trophies, the team had had to vote a second time when it was obvious that DS had won Players Player, the second time they had to state their 2 favourite players. DS is happy that he won top goal scorer but I am secretly fuming that they fixed the awards - why bother asking them who their favourite player is then not give the award to that player? Am fully prepared to be flamed but AIBU?

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Sparklingbrook · 27/05/2014 19:08

Oh Tilly that's great. I do think goalies get overlooked a lot. There should be a 'most saves' award for the team IMO.

teacherwith2kids · 27/05/2014 19:12

Goalie mum here. He got 'Most bruises for the cause' one year...

teacherwith2kids · 27/05/2014 19:13

(He would get the 'most saves' every year - he's been the only goalie since U7, and he's just finished U13s!)

Sparklingbrook · 27/05/2014 19:16

Same here teacher he put his hand up in the Under 8's when they asked who wanted to go in goal and now he has just finished the Under 15s season as the only goalie. I think that deserves an award in itself.

Plus being a Goalie's Mum is no fun whatsoever.

teacherwith2kids · 27/05/2014 19:20

DS has never wanted to be anything else, since he first started kicking a ball around the garden aged about 4..

(I don't go to matches any more, as I do lesson prep on Sundays. I am sure that my blood pressure is now lower.....)

Sparklingbrook · 27/05/2014 19:22

You would think after 7 years I could watch without looking through my fingers if it goes near them. but nope!

sunshinecity17 · 27/05/2014 21:18

In the kids' spoets clubs I have been involved with it is always the coaches who decided the awards.

bigTillyMint · 27/05/2014 21:27

I always feel so sorry for the goalie - they barely get to touch the ball, but when they do, it's a life or death situation! DS is a centre back, so he does his bit to help

BackforGood · 27/05/2014 21:28

One reason that if you must have awards it's a good idea for Parents, or 'spectators' to have a vote, is it gives the Manager / Coaches' dc a fair chance of winning it. If the manager/coach is /are the one(s) who decide, then they obviously wouldn't pick their own child and that would be unfair on that child/those children.

you don't have to in my dd's team, but, in case there were parents like the OP involved, you could state clearly before the vote that you can't nominate your own child.

zipzap · 27/05/2014 21:53

I would have thought that it would have been easier to ask the parents to recast their votes and let whoever won the 'player's player' award stand as it is the all-important peer recognition one at that age. And yes, to set things up at the very beginning so that somebody doesn't get loads of awards, so they are spread around a bit.

teacherwith2kids · 27/05/2014 22:14

"I always feel so sorry for the goalie - they barely get to touch the ball, but when they do, it's a life or death situation! "

I know. DS loves it, though - his absolutely favourite type of situation is a penalty shoot-out in a cup final...

As his centre of excellence coach once said 'All goalies are a bit crazy - and your DS comes right out of that mould'!

hmc · 27/05/2014 23:43

My dc (one boy, one girl) both play in footie teams as defenders - I'm not convinced that being left or right back is any more a glamour role than the goalie! Always the first to be blamed for a defeat. In my dd's team the goalie has won players player three years on the trot - deservedly actually, despite my reservations about that award category.

Lets face it - defence in general is a thankless task (my dc seem to love it though, despite this)

Hakluyt · 27/05/2014 23:53

Top goalscorer is the worst- it means that some kids don't think about playing as a team and looking for opportunities for setting up goals for others- and defenders don't get a look in.

But you should try being the Coach's kid- you never win anything then!

Th go oh thing wrong with the scenario in th OP is the coach telling the OP what happened. That's the sort of thing that should go to the grave with you......ll

Sparklingbrook · 28/05/2014 08:46

In DS2's team the coaches son won Players' Player this year which was brilliant, it was almost a unanimous vote apparently and the coach wasn't even in on the voting it was collated by a parent.

tumbletumble · 28/05/2014 08:52

At my DS1's club they have awards for Manager's Player and Player's Player. DS1 (age 8) is good at football and is definitely in the running for one of them, but if he got both I would be v embarrassed and would definitely expect them to fix it so that doesn't happens.

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