4 year old daughter told off for using the 'p' word! (lighthearted)

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Evening folks
A friend (well sort of, by default as our kids are friends) minded my 4 year old for an hour the other day. On my return, her child told me that my daughter had said 'poo'. The mum responded to her by saying 'yes, but she has been told off for that'.
I was lightly bemused and taken aback, so didn't think to ask what her child calls it! It is of course no big deal and I let it go, but the mum did say that she herself wasn't allowed to use inappropriate language in front of adults as a child, and doesn't want her own to do it.
This I would fully support ... but I'm glad that's the worst my child will say, and not 'shite' for example! She has a real toilet humour at the moment, due to having older siblings, whereas her friend is an only child, so these things are easier to control.
So, was my 4 year old being unreasonable?!

Yeah. Friend might be odd. Poo is a normal word. People use it every day.
My soon likes to announce poos with pride. I laugh.

Well it's poo in our house, that's fine.

But my DD sometimes says 'your a poo poo head' not ok

Your friend sounds a little uptight, why even tell your dd off? If she doesn't like the word, just explain it's not a word they use (am wondering what they do use?!)
Toilet humour is just a stage, better to ignore or laugh it off!

Oh, and mum is American. Might it be a cultural thing?

Well, the usual word here in the US is poop rather than poo. But somehow I don't think that is her issue.

I suggest this book when it comes to our friend's DD's birthday.

ha ha ha!

You SO have to find out what word she uses instead of poo!!! Can't you text her and ask what the context was? I'm intrigued!

I just checked Amazon US to see if perhaps there is an American version called Poop Butt. But, alas, no.

We use the word poo ( like you say what else would you say?) but I often tell my kids off for saying poo in appropriately as well!
They sing 'old McDonald had a poo' etc at the dinner table so they get told off.
If the other kid was telling tales that your 'dd said poo' then she obviously said it in a cheeky way

I think it's more about the context in which shje used it.

You SO have to find out what word she uses instead of poo!!!

If it's the word and not the context she objects to, I will be willing to bet she says "number two."

Mum is nice enough really, just quite serious and earnest. A little off kilter socially, perhaps. I've had a couple of WTF moments in her presence. I don't think the friendship will continue beyond nursery as it's a bit too much like hard work. She may not be my cup of tea entirely, but she has a good heart and does seem to be liked generally. I sometimes think that it would take a more special person than I to appreciate her. But then I think I'm being too hard on myself! Hope that doesn't sound bitchy. Trying to sound balanced!

Surely there isn't a child on this planet who hasn't said 'poo poo head' and thought it was the biggest insult/funniest thing ever?!

As an aside 9yo DS made reference earlier to a TV programme he'd seen where "they used the C word lots". I was thinking OMG what has he been watching and then I twigged that he meant 'crap'!

That's nowt, i used to be on another forum where swear words where blanked out, fair enough i thought, til i was writing about my sons poo issues and it came out as "my son will not in the toilet, instead there is all over his carpet and pyjamas, the whole house smells of *"

I was fuming! Poo a "swear word" for adults?? totally bizzare

(and no, it wasn't nethuns, although that wouldn't surprise me)

I think you should source and send this child the birthday card DS once sent DD. I recall the steamy heapy and the poppets. There were many many more examples.

Think it might be a context issue. I need a poo = fine. That chocolate cake looks like poo = not fine.

And at four they have horrid poo poo, bum head, wee wee phases I seem to remember. Oh the number of times mine didn't get their sweeties after tea.

And yes, I have no doubt that it was the context in which it was used that caused a problem ... and that's fair enough. I had a gentle word with my daughter, and I think she now understands that not everyone appreciates toilet humour!

Did you not find out a bit more detail? I think I'd be very cross if my son was told off by someone for something that isn't naughty in the slightest.

I didn't, Jengnr. I didn't want to blow it up out of all proportion. The mum didn't make a big deal of it at all. It had just struck me as a little odd and I'd wanted to ask others' opinions.

Is it odd to tell your kids off for making poo jokes? I thought it was normal to discourage it?!

Maybe, kitty. I would tell mine off if it was getting completely stupid and out of hand. A few silly jokes I can put up with.

Poo was a bit rude in our family, when I was a child. We used to say "plop".

But I'm happy for my DC to say poo.

Fart was like a swear word in our house. We used to say "pump!"