To get annoyed when people give suggestions on how to hide my daughters birthmark?

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6 month old DD with a stork bite on her forehead above eye. Can't believe the amount of people who say rubbish to me about it, this is what I've had thus far;
Are you going to see a Dr about it?
I think you can get laser treatment for it
You can grow her hair into a long fringe to cover it
It's definitely getting smaller don't worry

what makes people think I'm bothered about it? I actually think it just adds to her beauty.
Give me a good witty response to say when someone says something like this in future.,...
Rant over!

Oh people are so rude! Ds had one for ages above his eyes.

He's still got quite a pronounced one on the back of his neck - as you can imagine, lots of 'helpful' people have said that "at least he can cover it up"... I've actually got an identical one in the same place. When he was born, I'd had an emergency section under GA. When I finally saw him, I knew for sure he was mine when I saw the neck birthmark!

I love his birthmarks :)

No witty response, because I was that child ( strawberry mark on my face), but knowing my mum she must have had a few
It faded by the time I was 5 ish, but I remember mum always referred to it as an Angel Kiss to me.

Say you hadn't noticed it before, look at her then scream 'fucking hell what the fuck is that?' and run off in the opposite direction

Btw I've got quite bad scarring from an accident and always pretend I didn't know it was there when people mention it 'how the fuck did that happen? What shall I do????' They mainly believe me. Thickos.

Dd2 (4 months) has a birth mark on her forehead too and I've actualy had someone ask if I'm going to cover it with foundation for photos! Umm no - she's perfect why would I want to hide any part of her?!! Plus it helps tell her apart from from dd1 in photos!

Hahaha I like that one xvxvxv I have also been also been asked what happened to her like I been banging her head on wall or something! I will now refer to as an angel kiss, I very much like that

Xvxvxvxv, that's great

I know a man with a "port wine stain" birth mark on his face, he's grown a beard to hide it but his mother was so embarrassed by him that she refused to take him out in his pram as a baby

Ignore them.

One of mine has a cafe au lait mark on the bridge of their nose up to and over their eyebrow and lid and I get those comments all the time too.

My DC isn't even slightly bothered by it (and they're the age where they're starting to notice all their perceived flaws). A swift 'did you mean to be so rude' is what's called for in these circumstances

That is so sad FranelandFilly.

My DD has a 'snake' going down the back of her leg and on to her foot. It is raised and scaly and a light brown. We did go to the dermatologist about it when she was younger but only because we were worried she would feel self conscious about it when she got older. They told us if she does, we would have to pay for private treatment.

She is 8 and so far very accepting that she has this, I hope she remains so.

Stork bite and angel kiss are very charming expressions which I've not heard before - how lovely! Just be really cheerful and say it's a birthmark and if they continue to act concerned say I love it. That's what I say about mine when someone asks. I really do love mine. Hopefully your positive mental attitude will rub off on your child and if it doesn't fade they will love it too.

I love Angel kisses. My Dd has one and a stork bite too.

Yanbu

I would say the tattoo ' birth mark' cost a bomb in the first place.

DD1 had quite a prominent stork mark on her face and all I said was 'why?' If anybody said anything like that. They don't know how to answer without being rude .

I have one on my leg, even as an adult I always get people wrinkling their nose in disgust and saying 'eugh, what's that?' When I was a child and teenager it was even worse.

I'm tremendously self-conscious about it even now and usually try and find ways of covering it up.

Being positive about it is great. Wish I could be about mine

I love the reasoning behind the stork bite name for the birth mark - babies tend to have a mark on the forehead and one on the back of the neck, from the stork's beak when they were delivered!

What about a withering look and a "it's a mark on her skin, I am not that shallow" or just a straightforward " nothing about my daughter needs hiding or covering up, she is beautiful"

DS had a raised bright red birthmark on his tummy. The first time the HV came after he was born she said "Oh look, an imperfection!"

You are not being unreasonable. People are so thoughtless.

Angel kisses are the cutest thing ever. I have two birth marks and I think that they are just part of me. People are all different and whatever their differences that's what distinguishes me from you. I find it sad that some cannot see that and have to point out what they consider to be 'flaws'. My in-laws have more than once told me, a left-handed, that they sincerely hope dc is not left-handed, as it really makes life more difficult. I have not replied in any way to that but I pity them.

it's funny isn't it. My dd had a stork mark on her cheek, and ex p wanted it removed privately, he is a perfectionist (hence we're no longer together).
but the responses from the public were always positive- 'oh, i love her birthmark, it looks like a little heart. ' :)

It's faded now and i miss it.

Xvxvxv I think I love you a little bit.

Do you think humans will ever evolve enough not even to notice let alone just accept that beauty isn't just flawless perfect skin and the designated number of everything in the right proportions?

All I can suggest is looking at them quizzically and asking why.

A relative of mine has a cleft lip, when he was a baby some random stranger came up to his mum and said something along the lines of 'eeewwwww, what happened to him?' His mum began explaining that he was born with a cleft lip and random bitch stopped her, saying 'eeewwwww, be quiet, I don't like hearing about that kind of thing! It makes me feel sick!'
It's one thing to be rude enough to ask in such an offensive way (the mum was used to people asking if the baby was ok and being interested in the explanation) but to actually come up to her and ask then refuse to listen to the answer.... Can't quite believe some people!

When I was little I had very bad scarring on my forehead. It always seemed a part of me. At the end of yr6 I overheard my parents discussing lazer removal as they were worrying about bullying in senior school.

I went mad! There was no way I was going to let them erase that part of me!

My point is, if you let your dd know she is beautiful, she will always feel it. My parents did a good job of that and I love them for that. Don't worry about what other people think.

I was born with stork marks, they did fade but DH always knows if I'm ill, angry or upset, as they flare up!

DS has them too, people did comment as reassure me that it will fade, but I always said that he's perfect the way he is. I think people just want to offer advice, and don't consider how hurtful it could be.

Ignore the idiots.

Ds1 had one when he was born, right between his eyebrows. It was like a warning beacon for when he was straining for a poo

It disappeared around 2 years of age.