Mil rang us and dh put her on speakerphone to speak to our 2 year old dd but dd didn't say anything to her. Mil said "you don't want to be shy like your mum!" ie me!!! Am so cross - how dare she speak about me like that to dd!! Being shy isn't a crime but even if she hates that quality in me she should keep it to herself and not tell my daughter that it's bad to be like her mummy!!! God I'm so hurt and angry!!!