to not want our nanny to bring her 2 university aged children along for a day's work?

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Just that really, she asked me if she can bring them along as they are all going to theatre nearby after she finishes work. That will mean them being here with my 2 kids all day, who don't know them. I can't understand why a 19 and 21 year old would want to be here all day. We live very near plenty of public transport, they could easily just come and meet her when she finishes. I think the main reason is ease of transport. But don't want to offend her, what shall I say?

Are they CRB checked?

I'd say no. What on earth would two adults be hanging around their mum when she is at work be doing?

Not acceptable at all.
Of course they could come and meet her later.
How peculiar.

I think asking you this is really out of order, she shouldn't put you in this position.

Not all day?! The ten minutes between their bus arriving and the end of your shift maybe if the weather is bad. It sounds a really odd request.

No definitely not.

She needs to bring her adult children along?

I'd laugh, and then tell her no.

I'd also inform her she should find other child care arrangements

Absolutely agree with comments above. Your childminder must be mad! What are they going to do all day???? CRB is a huge issue.

Why is she asking this?

I can't decide if YABU or not. I don't think you are but I don't think she is for asking either as some employers are fine with this sort of thing. If you're not comfortable with it though, do tell her, your house at the end of the day.

FWIW, DP comes to my place of work occasionally, he doesn't sit around all day though, not really sure why you would A brief pop-in if he's picking me up, maybe staying for an hour or so if he needs to go further in that direction for any reason and coming in the afternoon/early evening if I'm babysitting or doing an overnighter. Bosses idea rather than mine though, it's appreciated but definitely a bonus rather than expected!

Thanks all I just wanted to know I didn't have a screw loose.
I will politely suggest they come and meet her towards end of the day.

Ewie: She's not a childminder, she's a nanny. Big difference.

People do realise that nannies don't actually have to be DBS checked, right? (The new CRB system). Parents may ask for it and agencies usually do them, but it's not that uncommon to have nannies who either don't have one or who have older ones. If a nanny has a CRB these days it's most likely outdated or reaching it's 3rd year.

I wouldn't think it was that odd, maybe they've heard a lot about the kids and thought they could help out for the day, or maybe interested in going into childcare themselves. It comes down to how well you know/trust your nanny really.

Would it really be any skin off your nose if her kids are there? no

CRB isn't a huge issue here as you are all making it out to be, they will be with their mum, and harldy likely to molest or hurt one of your kids and would probly be more of a help than a hinderance at that age.

Would it really be any skin off your nose if her kids are there? no

It would be skin off my nose! I don't want strange people I don't know staying in my house with MY children all day. I don't care if they're the pope's children, they wouldn't be invited into my house.

Say NO.

All day? Why would they even want to do that? I'm pretty sure they don't and it's just their mum being a bit weird.

Yanbu.

While I don't understand why her children want to come, I personally wouldn't see it as a big deal. Presumably you trust her and she does a good job of caring for your dc? In which case is it really that big a deal ? A nanny is in many ways a member of the family so I can't really understand why you would have a concern this one time.

Our nanny sometimes used to bring her similar aged daughter to work in university holidays. The children loved it! She (the daughter) adored them and they all had a lot of fun. It never crossed my mind to object (although I had met the daughter - I'm assuming that you haven't met your nanny's children?).

What does being girls have to do with it

Op, it's entirely your choice...it isn't necassarily strange...your kids may love having them around. a friend of mine has 2 sons aged 17 who often go to work with her...they are adored by the kids and parents!

Why would them being girls make a difference?

And even if they do want to play with OP children, her kids may not be so keen on two random strangers in their house all of a sudden!

I don't necessarily think it's strange to ask. I think it is a bit strange that they would want to be here all day. They are not interested in childcare as a career, have chosen very different paths. I have met them, just once or twice, they have offered to babysit in evenings, that would be fine. Can understand that as there is financial reward in it for them!
I just don't really want them here all day for no good reason. Can't really explain why. My nanny is CRB checked and I am not worried about them with the kids, or wouldn't obv entertain the idea of them babysitting!
Think Alisvolat is probably right.

broken because males can't have an interest in children...

It is a bit cheeky. But on the other hand it's only one day but you'd think they could get a bus into town or do something rather than hang about all day.

It does seem very odd. Can you imagine if the supermarket cashiers or your doctors had their kids in tow?
I would suggest that they could come for her last half hour or so to fit in with their bus schedule

It does seem very odd. Can you imagine if the supermarket cashiers or your doctors had their kids in tow?
I would suggest that they could come for her last half hour or so to fit in with their bus schedule

My nanny has brought one of her kids over several times. They are aged 16-22. She also takes my children past her house every so often to see them. We all love it and they are very sweet with my kids.