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to ask you to help safeguard the privacy of my DS?

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HomeIsWhereTheGinIs · 21/05/2014 16:02

So I'm about six weeks away from giving birth to our first DS (hurrah!). One of the things that DH and I really want to avoid is boring our friends to tears with photos of our offspring so we've decided not to put his photos online on FB / twitter etc. OK, I'll be honest, it's only partly because we don't want to bore our friends. It's mainly because I don't feel comfortable filling the internet with photos of him before he's old enough to dictate what gets cached by google. It doesn't seem fair - I'm really quite surprised by some of what my friends post. Naked photos, videos of tantruming children etc. Each to their own and all that but we think it's only fair that he get to choose what is stored online about him.

However, I would really like to have some way of sharing photos with people who might actually be interested (close family etc). I don't really fancy the idea of MIL being a friend on facebook (we get on well, it's just not ideal). Instagram irritates me with all of the faded shots and it's not private enough. What I'm really looking for, is something like instagram but not. Something I can put photos from my phone onto that only the people I invite can access. I was originally thinking a private group on Flickr but I understand that there are various privacy concerns there too.

Does anyone have any ideas or recommendations of platforms that they like?

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DenzelWashington · 21/05/2014 16:03

Dropbook? I use that to send pictures to family abroad.

EasyTigeress · 21/05/2014 16:04

You can create whatsapp groups and share through that. It's a bit like a group email but through your phone quite easily and locked down on privacy.

WorraLiberty · 21/05/2014 16:04

Just send a monthly email with some photos attached.

StarGazeyPond · 21/05/2014 16:05

Print them off.......and send them in the post?

yellowdinosauragain · 21/05/2014 16:05

You can put photos on photobox and invite people by email to look at albums. And then use the photos you've uploaded to make personalised calendars and stuff if that's your cup of tea. This is what I did before getting into Facebook.

www.photobox.co.uk/mobile/homepage

widdle · 21/05/2014 16:07

Sometimes the old fashioned ways are the best! I like the printing off idea - much more personal and they can stick them on the fridge.

I'm going to do that!!

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HomeIsWhereTheGinIs · 21/05/2014 16:11

Wow, brilliant, I love the hive mind of MN!

All good ideas, thank you, I'll be looking into this! I agree with printing and sending them but both my DF and my ILs live really far away and I know they'd like to feel involved on a more regular basis. My idea was that if I could find somewhere online to post directly from my phone, they could see up to date pics whenever they wanted (MIL, in particular, is very sad that she's going to see her first grandson so rarely).

Any more for any more? There are some platforms here that I haven't heard of so I'll look into them, thanks!

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DuckandCat · 21/05/2014 16:17

Problem with printing them and posting is that it's so time consuming! Especially if you want to send them to more than one person.
I still haven't even got around to printing off DD's newborn pictures and putting them in an album and she's 18m Blush

My guess is you'll do it once, then give up bung all on Facebook or text them to people!

tabulahrasa · 21/05/2014 16:19

I use photobucket, if you set it up as private it is, unless you send a link to a picture

widdle · 21/05/2014 16:19

Also Shutterfly? It used to be Kodak. You can create albums then email the links to whoever you like. Can also create photobooks etc

ChesterCake · 21/05/2014 16:20

We don't put any pictures of DS (2) online, this is seen as really strange by our friends as we're in our early twenties and 'everyone does it'!

We just send monthly emails / texts and regular print outs

EverythingsDozy · 21/05/2014 16:21

I think there used to be something called photobucket which used to be like an online album where you could edit it and other people could view it. This was about 10 years ago though, I'm sure there's something more up to date!!

PeppermintInfusion · 21/05/2014 16:27

I'm not sure how it works for photos, but I share financial docs etc with my DH via google docs where you can grant people access based on their email address. I think you can grant read only, edit access etc.
It's secure and means they are backed up too.

ICanSeeTheSun · 21/05/2014 16:32

Photo bucket.

Asheth · 21/05/2014 16:32

I upload my photos to Snapfish. I use them for printing and making photo gifts. But you can add peoples email addresses and share your albums with them. And they can print their own copies if they want.

GwenStacy · 21/05/2014 16:34

I'm a huge fan of a free service called lifecake - there's an iOS/android app and a website. Takes seconds to upload photos and you can share with people that you invite - they can use the app or the website. All the photos are sorted by date, people can comment and you can create gorgeous photo books really easily!

I genuinely don't work for hem or anything, it's just a great service! My almost 90 year old grandad uses it with no problems at all :)

Vintagecakeisstillnice · 21/05/2014 16:34

To be totally honest even with the hassle I'd do the printing off.

I've no kids, between me and OH we have 16 nieces /nephews a few grand nieces/ nephews and multiple children of friends who were close to.

It's wasn't till one of the younger

WinterHasRuinedMyFace · 21/05/2014 16:34

We bought my parents and inlaws a wifi digital frame each that we can update. We've got it hooked up to a private Flickr account, but there are a handful available which work with various web services or just via email I think. Both love it and are really excited when we send new pics!

GwenStacy · 21/05/2014 16:34

You can also add videos, which our parents love - silly little ones like bath time go down a treat!

Vintagecakeisstillnice · 21/05/2014 16:35

Fucking hell, sorry fat fingers

Anyway it wasn't till one of the younger

bberry · 21/05/2014 16:37

What's app... I group text photos and videos to the families and as long as you are on wifi there's no charge.... Smile

Vintagecakeisstillnice · 21/05/2014 16:40

God damn it

One of the younger ones asked sadly why we didn't have any pictures of him that we noticed.

The 'older' generation, the ones who are in their 20s we have lot of photos of cause we were sent them and framed them etc

The younger ones we still have tons of photos but they're all on hard drives etc.

For us it's too much choice, get sent 2, frame them. Get sent 30… which one?

Sort for the mutiple posts

IdkickJilliansAss · 21/05/2014 16:41

You can report naked photos posted to FB

StrumpersPlunkett · 21/05/2014 16:41

we use drop box.. v easy to set up.
have got into the habit of just uploading all our pics (not censored at all) family and friends can look through them if they have been invited to.

okeydonkey · 21/05/2014 16:44

This could be pricey but upload to one of those disc things which are now not a called disc and send via post.
Sorry I can't for the life of me remember what they are called?