To have said 'so'?

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Friend on the dreaded Facebook shared a post saying '8 year olds now have computers and ipads, when I was 8 I had crayons and an imagination. Share if you agree'....
Well first of all, agree with what? That 20 years ago children had crayons and that now (due to the advancement of technology) many have ipads - yup I would agree that's an accurate statement, but so?
Are having an ipad and having an imagination mutually exclusive? I don't think so. I think that used in the right way, they can stimulate the imagination, engage children and aid development.
Most children I know that have ipads (admittedly not many) also have crayons, and use them.
Why does children using technology have to be a bad thing?
So wibu to have said 'yeah, so' to my friends post?

No, but you will have made your friend feel embarrassed and possibly annoyed.

I would have put "I didnt know ipads and crayons were mutually exclusive" and then agonised over whether id hurt her feelings.

It just sounds a bit twatish tbh

I don't think she'll be either, she's pretty opinionated on facebook herself. I think that when you share something on facebook, you're inviting opinion and comment.

Yes because it's rude.

If you had written what you have written here then Yanbu.

But 'so' is intended to insult.

my friends "share" all kinds of crap on facebook....

it is ok to ignore it.....

sounds a bit passive aggressive to say "yeah, so"

Fair enough, I'll work on how I phrase things in the future, I'm not out to hurt anyone's feelings

I don't think that embarrassing somebody for reposting trite, pious and wholly meaningless statements like that is entirely a bad thing.

I hide people who do that from my feed, though.

And if we're going to debate about ipads, I would rather my children played with something where I have full control over what they watch/do/play, than being subject to the whims of a television scheduler. Surely a problem solving game on the ipad is better than Nickelodeon, or whatever children watched on television 20 years ago? I was 8 much longer than 20 years ago, and I was allowed to watch about 1 hour of television a day. I doubt very much that somebody who was 8 in 1994 in the UK had nothing but crayons and an imagination to entertain her.

I totally agree with you but would have held off from writing 'so' tempting though it would be. It only serves to make you look a bit rude.

Good on you OP. I hate that rubbish on FB , did it have twee writing as well. That said, some of the suggested responses are less aggressive and I do think the episode will not end well.
Me - I'd have rolled my eyes and ignored it like I do the ones where it says Like if you're against Cancer or whatever, so puerile.

Its a beautiful sunny Sunday - don't let insignificant crap like that take up your time, get outside and step away from Facebook

Very true mrssmith off to see some steam trains later with ds

Nope. If you are daft enough to post silly generalised "must-be-applied-to-the-entire-population-and-this-is-my-experience-so-it-must-be-universally-true" judgemental crap then you are fair game for people commenting that you are an idiot. People who post shit like that are swiftly unfollowed.

I think ignoring it is the sensible option.

There's nothing you could post that will make her, or other FB users, suddenly change their opinions.

Twenty years ago, many households already had computers - we certainly did. In addition we had a Nintendo that could be played through the TV. We also had an 8 year old DS who had access to said computer and Nintendo - a DS who really wasn't remotely interested in crayons. It sounds like a trite statement that has been doing the rounds for a good few years and is getting increasingly out of date (without getting into any thoughts about whether having computers and imagination are mutually exclusive).

So, you are not being unreasonable. I would be tempted to ask what she hopes to achieve by posting such trite nonsense.

Hmm...well the younger me would've sided with you, but these days not so much. I see people posting inane bollocks all the time and as much as I think they're being lame, I never say so.

I don't know why people post this crap, can be arsed to respond to it or care enough to be bothered about it afterwards.

I suppose I didn't achieve anything, but it wasn't really intended to. I was just killing a bit of time on facebook on a sunday morning, and so was she.
She saw something that she agreed with and shared it, I didn't agree and so commented (admittedly flippantly, which was the wrong way to go about it).
I probably achieved about as much as she did posting it in the first place.
There are definitely more productive ways of spending a Sunday morning, but I find the attitude towards children and technology interesting which is why I particularly noticed her post.
I'll make sure to be less flippant in the future, but I don't see a problem with posting an opposing opinion on a publicly shared post, its not too different to what we're doing now.

Nothing wrong with disagreeing and offering an opposing view. I have a fb (and rl) friend that posts all manner of sanctimonious parenting shite. I sometimes feel compelled to question her, and do...but in a much less sneery manner than yourself there.

YANBU. A facebook friend of mine posted something along those lines about how terrible it was a mother in the doctor's waiting room was for letting her child play phone games, in her day it would have been crayons and paper. I told her I disagreed, a tablet or smartphone is a blessing in that situation as it's much more interesting for a longer time than crayons and would she rather have a waiting room full of bored kids kicking off.

Got it - I was flippant, sneery, rude etc. Will do my best to make sure I'm not in future!

I think that I would have put: "DS has crayons, an ipad and an imagination - it seems a little unimaginative to suggest that ipads and imagination are mutually exclusive as anyone who has watched a child play Minecraft will know."

But I can understand your irritation - it is very annoying when people share those trite posts. I had to hide one friend who shares all the "share if you are a mommy who luffs your baba" crap.

I was eight twenty yers ago and I had a sega mega drive so you friend it talking pish