to think boys can do Ballet and girls karate

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Basically that. My sil thinks the opposite. We have similar aged children and when she heard my dd's who is only 4 btw, best friend in Montessori is a boy she was shocked,and when I told her that Ballet ,rugby or karate classes were offered to my ds ,she gasped Ballet for boys!!! Hes not doing Ballet but the fact that Ballet classes were even available for him was outrageous.
Really thought people didn't think like this anymore.
She has a ds and a dd. Wonder what will happen if god forbid her dd wants to play Rugby

YANBU. Your SIL must have blinkers on.

Off course you know which way the thread is going to go.

Has she ever seen a ballet? Where exactly does she think the male dancers come from?
Sounds like she's a bit stuck in gender roles to say the least

There were definitely male dancers in the ballet I saw last night

My dd told me a few months ago that she identifies as being gay, my now stbxh told me it was because I let her go to boxing lessons and have short hair

Sounds like he would get on very well with your sil.

Another time she was horrified that my daughter was going into the garden to look for worms,she said that's a very boyish thing to do. I Felt like screaming!! She's a child!!

she sounds like a very silly woman tbh

my stupid ex said that dd should not play with 'bionicles' and when he heard she had chosen engineering for GSCE he actually laughed at her!! these people must have been at the back of the queue when brains were handed out.

YANBU, obviously. My two girls do Thai boxing (as do I). Dd2 also plays football.

Your SIL ha isshoos

YANBU she's got some very funny ideas. Even back in the early 90s I knew boys did ballet too- about 60% of my class were boys.

Carlos Acosta is officially the sexiest man alive. He is male. And does ballet.

The female Olympians in boxing and judo etc were all really admirable young women I thought.

Of course they can. Next question.

My son is a pro ballet dancer. He started when he was 3.
No stereotypes in my house

My DS (5 at the time) had an argument with his best friend, another boy, that men could do ballet. The friend said they couldn't. DS was delighted when we went to the nutcracker that year and saw all the males in it.

I only have DSs and have decided it will be our family tradition to go to the nutcracker every year, I guess some would judge me for that, but I don't care.

Feel like I should put ds in Ballet class just to prove a point,he'd love it just as much as he'd love karate.

DD was practically banned from not suited to ballet. She does a sports class now which has radially dwindled to her and lots of boys. I don't know if that is because the girls have all taken up something else or their parents think like your SIL but it is the case. Sad for DD when she gets a bit older if the friend groups are formed along gender lines.

DS used to do ballet, dd asked to stop ballet and go to Kung fu instead. YANBU, your sil is a prick

YANBU she is being a muppet

Is your SiL living in 1952?

Of course YANBU. It's depressing that anyone still thinks like this - let alone a woman!

You should have known that, Shaky. Boyish pursuits and short hair would turn any girl lesbian.

It's bollocks, OP, you're completely in the right.

YANBU
The best dancer in DD2's ballet school was a boy, she has boys in her gymnastics class (the oldest is very fit, God save us from 13y).

She's played foot ball and rugby over the years and enjoyed them both.

Loads of mud pies in my garden over the years and not a boy in sight. Your SIL is daft.

mmmmm Carlos Acosta

her views were prevalent in the ex mining towns/villages in the east midlands until at least fairly recently. it was most depressing.

I'm East Midlands, and I don't recall growing up with this ridiculous attitude.

DS does Ju Jitsu, and his regular partner is a girl. Half the class is girls.

Me and my brother did both dance and karate for a short bit. We both turned out to be well adjusted people.