To end a new relationship because of bad sex?

[Proudmummy2456]

Hi ladies,
Been dating this lovely lad for a few weeks now, he's really nice good job everything like that but the sex isn't really that good, no foreplay just straight into it until the inevitable happens after about 5 minutes. Plus he keeps stopping and starting to stop himself from cumming. My last partner was absolutely dynamite in bed so I might just be comparing it to that I don't know. I don't mean to sound shallow but good sex has to be part of my relationship but I feel like a bitch finishing him because of this.

my ex was a bit like this (minus the ( im so good in bed attitiude yours seem to be showing i must say though )

he would come with in minutes.. or stop and start every couple of minutes...

think was he is a pleaser.. loads of foreplay.. and most the time he would please him self in the morning before coming to mine at night.. so he had more staying power as it was.

we never really talked about it.. but there was guiding and discussions one what we liked or wanted to try... i think its important to be able to.. maybe after a few drinks and try to make it fun.. and not so "your shit in bed" kind of thing.

and for what its worth ex was orgionally one of the worst man iv ever been (sex wise ) with but ended up being the best after a few months of getting to knwo each other and what each other liked.

31 and he doesn't even go in for any foreplay, I dont think id bother. If he isnt even trying to please you at that age I couldn't be bothered with trying to teach him.

Well the wicked deed has been done, just said that I didn't feel any chemistry between us. He wasn't very happy but never mind. Thanks for the advice ladies!

He's using you as a glorified wank sock. Is that really what you want from a partner?

We'll done!

crikey! you dont mess about do you!

What would happen if you offered a blowjob and tried to make him cum before the deed?

I've got a feeling he would stop before he finished, slow down and move onto pinv.

In which case move on!

If there was a GCSE and A levels in sex that men could take, he'd not even make the level of Key Stage 1 (apologies if the analogy offends). Talk to him and if that fails, it sounds curtains for the relationship.

I once dated a guy who was bloody gorgeous, really clever and built like a bull but he was all bang bang bang (bang bang bang bang etc ). It was very boring. To be honest I'd rather have an enthusiastic 5 second wonder than 20 minutes of punched in the vagina by a penis and being sweated. At least you can get him to finish you off after.

Sweated on . Yuck.

Miggsie, that is what is known as qualititive rather than quantitive research!

Proudmummy2456, better luck next time. Good for you for getting rid.

I got rid of a ONS after about half an hour. Told him he was crap so no point in his staying. That was a long time ago though. I was living in a rough area of Bristol and he was a bit bemused and said 'But I don't know where I am'. I directed him to an all night taxi office.

life is too short for bad sex. you've done the right thing.