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To wonder what your idea of the holiday companion from hell is?

196 replies

Summerbreezing · 14/05/2014 13:55

Just inspired by another thread, but what kind of person do you hate finding yourself on holiday with?

I can't bear the kind of person who wants to frogmarch everyone around to 'interesting places', and think a minute spent relaxing is a minute wasted. I don't want to spend my entire time in Paris up the Eiffel Tower or wandering around the Louvre or catching a train to Versailles. I want to spend some time just 'being' in Paris, wandering aimlessly around, stopping for coffee or wine, people watching, saying 'let's go down here, it looks interesting' etc. Please don't present me with an hour by hour timetable. It's a holiday.

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Summerbreezing · 14/05/2014 14:29

Bit of a generalisation Coventry.

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Nocomet · 14/05/2014 14:30

Also anyone who does more than the bare minimum of grooming.

Even as a teen, waiting hours for people to get dressed up in an evening drove me nuts.

Stinkle · 14/05/2014 14:34

Oh, the more I think about it, the more things come to mind. I could go on all day Grin.

I also hate when people can't go off and do their own thing for a while. While on holiday with nag friend above, in an attempt to get away from the incessant bollocking/nagging, we decided to go off and fly kites, only for them to follow us and continue the bollocking/nagging for stuff like kids putting the kites in the wrong place in the empty car boot/getting ice creams on their faces

They're normally lovely, I thought it was quite safe to go away with them, but they drove me completely insane

DeWee · 14/05/2014 14:35

Amazingly few ILs, many more "my mum!"

Is that because ILs go without saying, or because mum is a more likely possibility? Wink

Cinnamoncookie · 14/05/2014 14:36

Anyone who won't offer an opinion, but then doesn't like what you chose.
"What shall we do today ?"
"I don't mind"

"How about we have an early lunch then laze on the terrace ?"
"That sounds boring"
"Well, what would you like to do ?"
"I don't know, you decide"

Gaaaaaaaaah

SpringBreaker · 14/05/2014 14:37

My best friend is also on my list of holiday companions to avoid.

She has a set daily budget. She never goes beyond it. She more often than not is well under it. Now in my mind that means as you get to the end of the week you can splash out a bit more.. oh not her, she takes it all home with her. Proud that she has saved.

The tantrum because her flip flop snapped on day 2 in Portugal was legendary. They were her favorites and had cost her £5 about six years previously. She had to buy a new pair that cost her ten euro. That night she suggested we get a frozen pizza and stay in our apartment.

I left her to it and went out on my own.

Summerbreezing · 14/05/2014 14:37

I remember someone at work talking about how luckily, when they were in Paris, they found a McDonald's near the hotel where they could eat. I would want to murder someone who tried to drag me into McDonalds in Paris.

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PrincessBabyCat · 14/05/2014 14:50

I like having a loose ballpark of what we'll be doing. Like let's sight see, but there shouldn't be a set time to do it and if we get sidetracked doing something else, no big deal.

So.. I guess inflexible people would drive me nuts.

I get excited and want to see and do everything on vacation, that includes getting side tracked at side streets if they look interesting. DH wants to sit and relax on the beach or wander around the area doing nothing. We never schedule it out because what if I wake up and decide that today is a lazy day to relax on the beach and saunter around cafes? We both just sort of wing it with no plan in mind, which makes it much more fun.

One day on our honey moon we were going to relax at a cafe, but ended up on a helicopter ride instead. :)

BrokenToeOuch · 14/05/2014 14:54

I'm laughing reading this!
We go away every year as a family group of around 20 people, adults and dc. They are dps siblings, spouses and dc.
Its absolutely brilliant, because there is always someone doing something you want to join in with. Sea walk, hill climbing, cooking, drinking, playing games, going to the pub, reading, listening to music, the works. There is also the option to do any of these on your own, or retire to your room for quiet privacy.
Some of you sound very intolerant of human beings in general!

Summerbreezing · 14/05/2014 14:58

That's exactly how I like to enjoy a holiday as well Princess. My sister is the same so we get on well on holidays. When we were in New York we were strolling home from a restaurant at about midnight and walked past the Empire State Building. Realising it was still open we just went in. There was hardly anyone else there and we got the lift up to the top and stood there on a cold December night with the whole of New York lit up below us. It was wonderful and the randomness of it just made it feel really special.

If I was there with my timetable friend our 'visit to the Empire State Building'would have been scheduled in for 3 o'clock on Sunday afternoon, whether we felt like it or not Sad

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ToriaPumpkin · 14/05/2014 14:58

My in laws. I've done it several times back in the days before I wised up and started refusing.

Every day is planned down to the minute, eating out is a huge thing to be made a massive deal of despite them doing it regularly at home, gift shops are the work of the devil, relaxing in the sun with a book is slovenly and should be discouraged despite FIL being an avid reader, wanting to sit in of an evening with a bottle of wine rather than go out for previously mentioned meals out is frivolous and why don't we all just have an early night... I could go on but it's been a rough week and I can feel my blood pressure rising.

ThaneOfScunthorpe · 14/05/2014 15:00

Well with 20 people it's easy to break off into groups. When it's just, say, your family and your parents, and those parents don't like doing stuff on their own, it gets a bit wearing.

Summerbreezing · 14/05/2014 15:00

"Some of you sound very intolerant of human beings in general"

Necessary BrokenToe?

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ThreeLannistersOneTargaryen · 14/05/2014 15:01

Anyone who tries to persuade me to climb hills/mountains or go on walks that are more than five miles yes DH I'm looking at you.

Lucyccfc · 14/05/2014 15:03

A very good friend of mine, who is lovely, but just can't make a decision to save her life. Will get out about 6 outfits out and want my opinion on all of them and then wants me to make the decision on what she wears. We do go away a fair bit (due to a shared hobby) and on the last trip I was just straight with her when she got her whole selection of clothes out. I said, choose what you want and I will meet you in the bar in 10 and I shot out of the room quick.

To be fair, I am also a nightmare to go away with (if you have to share a room with me). I don't sleep well for the first couple of days and often wake up at 3am and then can't get back to sleep for about 2 hours. I like to have a brew, watch tv or read a book, but this disturbs who I am sharing with. I am a real pain, so try not to share with anyone.

CharityCase · 14/05/2014 15:07

For group family holidays, anyone whose parenting style varies from your own, because it makes the whole thing a stressful nightmare with various kids whining "But x is doing Y" constantly.

Re traveling, anyone with no inner monologue, because we've all done the 11 hr bus journey to somewhere that is supposed to be amazing, and it's actually totally underwhelming, and you just need to accept that before someone starts vocalising it.

For group self-catering holidays, fussy eaters and BBQ shirkers.

Summerbreezing · 14/05/2014 15:07

I have to say, if I was sharing a room with someone on holidays and they got up at 3am and started boiling kettles and putting on re-runs of Morse I would throw them over the balcony not be happy.

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babybat · 14/05/2014 15:10

At first I found going away with my inlaws pretty stressful; they're not really the type to plan anything, and they're generally quite indecisive, but they're also big worriers, so when a plan is finally decided on, getting ready to leave is always a massive performance. It took me quite a few years before I realised that if there was something I really wanted to do or see, I needed to plan and do it entirely under my own steam, and present a complete strategy as to how it would fit in with the rest of the group.

Thankfully, DH understands and finds it a bit frustrating to, so since we're going away as a group this summer, he'll be hiring a car and bringing his bike, and I've sorted some places nearby where I can indulge some of my hobbies.

I think basically I'm a bit too antisocial for group holidays.

Coumarin · 14/05/2014 15:12

re-runs of Morse Grin

Sneepy · 14/05/2014 15:12

My mum. She is obsessed with Not Spending Any Money. Ever. Words cannot convey the depth and breadth of her stinginess--and not just for herself. If I buy ice cream for my children it's as though I've destroyed all her hopes and dreams.

OnlyLovers · 14/05/2014 15:15

Anyone who wanted to drink and stay up until 4am. I want to get up at a reasonable hour, go to dinner at a civilised time (like, before 11pm) and get to bed BEFORE I turn into Kevin the Teenager from tiredness. Preferably with a book and a cup of tea.

So sad, I know.

I'd also hate it if I had to spend the whole holiday lying on a crowded beach.

Stinkle · 14/05/2014 15:16

Some of you sound very intolerant of human beings in general!

You say that like its a bad thing? Wink

Seriously though, I'm actually quite laid back and easy going, I like a bit of sight seeing, a laze by the pool, nice meal out, etc, etc, - we're off to Ibiza soon, we might even get a night of clubbing in although whether I make it past midnight is anyone's guess

We tend to take it one day at a time. I want to relax and have fun. I don't want to go to M&S, I don't want to be nagged and sometimes it would be nice, if we're away with friends, to get a bit of breathing space from each other once in a while. I'm pretty easy really

grumblepuss · 14/05/2014 15:17

"Some of you sound very intolerant of human beings in general"

Yes. I am.
This is why I only go away with DP for longer than two nights.

Summerbreezing · 14/05/2014 15:18

I feel tired at the very idea of going away with the same twenty people every year (unless it was an extended family type annual get together). I would definitely be rebelling after about year 3 and saying 'can we not just bloody go away on our own for a change.' Different strokes I suppose.

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