I know most people will say it is non of their business and you are right. They do very little childcare of my 3 and 1 year old. However they are the passive aggressive types and I know would think having 3 is ridiculous. We can afford it ( although private school might be out the window) but I had mild PND with my last and DH works abroad/long hours. I always feel they don't think I can cope. But I am more aware this time and if DH abroad I would get a mother's help if I need to (no other family support). My mum is very disapproving of life choices that she wouldn't make herself. All my life I have felt a bit disapproved of and not allowed to be 'myself' as that doesn't suit (a bit 'what would the neighbours think' type thing).
If I do have a third how do I cope with the passive aggressive disapproval and 'poor DS1 and DS2' comments I am bound to get. Has anyone had this? I would not stop her coming to see us as the boys adore her. Help!