to throw away single one of dp's possessions that I dislike?

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I'm fucking furious, dp threw away my basil plant. He has been saying he wanted to throw it away for weeks and I told him not to throw it away as I use it. His reason for throwing it away was that he never used it.

I am pregnant and aware I might absolutely be being irrational.

Wibu to throw away every stupid belonging that I dislike or think is useless? On my list I have his 100's of DVDs his collection of books that he never intends to reread, some truely hideous ties, his computer games, I'll keep the x-box so I can still watch Netflix. I won't throw them in the bin I'll take them to the charity shop.

Well, you already know that would be childish and unreasonable.

I'd take something he likes and hide it. He can have it back when he buys you a new basil plant.

(and get rid of the hideous ties... play dumb when he asks where they are)

What PrincessBaby says.

Yanbu to be upset. Get another plant, he's being a twat.

I throw away stuff of dh's if he pees me off. He's rarely missed stuff, or if he has I deny all knowledge, he is not very tidy.

I also rag bag his shitey t shirts, if he does miss one I say the washer put a hole in it and I already told him. He really doesn't listen either so he can't argue.

It's all about the PA and sarcasm here. 23years and counting it's the little things that keep a marriage alive.

Has he eaten and enjoyed meals made with your basil plant's leaves?

If so yanbu and he is being a total plonker.

Even if it's only you that eats basil leaf-based yumminess he is also being a total plonker.

Hiding the hideous tie collection sounds like a plan to me!

Why on earth had he been wanting to throw it away?

He has eaten food with basil in but it mostly me who uses it in salads for myself.

He wanted to throw it away as he couldn't see the point in it, we have lots of junk that he could have sorted out if he felt in the mood for a clear out.

When I was pregnant with ds I was so loved up with dp, I used to sit and gaze at his eyelashes and smell his t-shirts whilst he was out, now I just feel so angry with him all the time

He throws stuff out that you use on the grounds that because HE doesn't use it - it is useless?

And he knows it is something you use? But that has no value at all because the only thing that makes something have a 'point' is if he uses it? Is he aware of how ridiculous that sounds? How it makes him sound?

I went to bed in a grump last night and dp stayed up and did all the jobs I was going to do today, he rescued the basil plant from the bin and washed it, i'm not convinced it's going to survive but at least he tried.

He is nearly forgiven, I am considering a tie clear out anyway.

Make him replace it.

If I was going to go down the passive agressive route I’d buy 20 basil plants and place them everywhere he goes. Don’t chuck his stuff. I wouldn’t be satisfied with rescuing it from the bin!

If I was going to go down the passive agressive route I’d buy 20 basil plants and place them everywhere he goes.

I had the exact same thought.

At least 5 in every room.

Yes to the tie carnage, to get ultimate satisfaction, pick your two most hated ones, sit on the sofa and cut into teeny tiny bits :)

The only reasonable response would be to go out and by some sort of giant Basil tree. i realise there isn't such a thing but the equivalent

I'm glad he fished it out of the bin, otherwise it would definitely be a LTB scenario.

Perhaps fashion a basil tree out of his ties? And sit there weeping at it as if it’s a shrine to the one you lost.

yy to basil tie tree

go out and buy 2 new Basil plants oh and maybe some cress have ALL the herbss on the window sill silly selfish man

Why didn't he take his eyelashes with him when he went out OP? Are they special false ones?

Oh, definitely chuck out his past-sell-by-date clothing.

Share your pain. You know how occasionally, you get a decent basil plant that lasts ages and produces lots of lovely new leaves? My partner threw it out yesterday as I had found insects from an adjacent houseplant on two of the leaves. Poor basil is in the bin whilst houseplant remains, gloating on the windowsill.

Ahem LTB

I share your pain. DH throws stuff away when 'he doesn't know what it is'. This means most things. He cleared out the food cupboard the other day. And then requested lots of praise. Over and over. Pretty much everything went. Including stuff like the couscous I had just bought, ditto my noodles, the soy sauce, the cornflour, oh and everything else. There WERE things out of date, but he just couldn't be bothered to check everything. He then took it to the tip immeidately. (normally I rummage throught the bin bags to retrieve anything I really need)
I was fuming. He was not praised.
But don't chuck his stuff. It'll end up in all-out-war.

Yes, all out war is the usual result.

I shoved all of his festival tshirts into a bin bag. The only ones that have room in the chest of drawers. The ones that he never wears, or even looks at. The ones that mean new clothes sit on the bottom of the wardrobe, sulking.

He didn't even ask, he just saw the open, empty drawer and went absolutely ballistic. When he got to the point of no return, "they were my memories, man", I handed him the bin bag and suggested he 'made like Kerouac and hit the road". He did not see the funny side at all. Not ever. Never.

Even now, about 10 years later, he is instantly enraged if I mention it. It may not help that I am usually giggling when I do