to refuse to stop putting nappies in this bin?

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My elder dd goes to dance lessons on a Saturday morning. They also hold baby ballet classes that morning, which begin at age 2 so obviously many of the class are still in nappies. There's a waiting room/cafe attached to the dance studio where parents and siblings wait.

A few weeks ago I changed my toddlers nappy and put it in the bin in the bathroom. The following week there was a sign above the bin saying: 'do not put nappies in this bin, take them home.' When I was leaving the bathroom a member of staff went in and approached me a couple of minutes later saying could I remove the nappy in the bin and take it home. I hadn't changed dd so said the nappy wasn't mine, she looked disbelieving so I asked the reason for the no nappy rule.

She said the bin is small so nappies get squashed and it isn't pleasant for staff to empty. I said surely the answer is to buy a bigger bin as many paying customers of theirs are nappy-wearers. She said the rules stands and walked off. Thee following week there was a more aggressive sign with capitals and underlining and to be honest, I feel like just ignoring it. We usually go out for the day straight from dancing and, particularly in the summer, it's not great to have a dirty nappy in the car. There are no other bins nearby and, like I said, I feel if your service caters for toddlers then you should also cater your facilities to them.

Aibu to ignore whatever sign she's dreamed up this week and use the bin anyway?

I'd be more bothered about the lack of sanitary bins then!

It isn't a hardship to take a nappy home

Can you not change before going or just leaving?

Surely 30 minutes won't make a huge difference to a 2 year old.

First of all it's a Cafe restroom. They could just start saying only paying customers to their cafe can use the toilets. Or they could change it so you need a key to get in. They are not the dance school and are not obligated to provide toddler services. Doesn't matter that they're profiting from dance costumers, they picked a good location that makes good business sense. They aren't profiting from those toddlers unless you buy their food or drinks, and it's not an obligation to.

Personally, I wouldn't want people putting nappies in a bin where I go to eat food. That's disgusting. Who knows if they're changing their kids on the sinks or wherever else, but that's besides the point.

However, the dance school should provide a separate bin somewhere to put nappies in. A nappy trash bin isn't that expensive to get. Put it somewhere to the side away from the cafe so diapers can go in there. Or, can they just put a general waste bin out around the parking lot?

Not All two year olds can be easily trained but lots can ! Lots more than currently are .
Late training is a huge money spinner and a huge land fill issue .

I paid £12 for a 30 min baby swimming class - in hotels or local swim centres and we were always expected to take nappies home - you leave it there it becomes business waste which is charged for disposal as far as I am aware - you take nappy bags and dispose of at home is a v normal occurrence and I didn't mind doing so

YABU. Massively.

And I say that as someone who's two year old, nappy wearing dd does two baby ballet classes and one toddler tap class a week and we go to a playgroup at a church with NO sanitary provision at all - everything must be taken home.

From your posts the toddler who's grotty nappies you want to dump in a normal bin doesn't actually go to dance classes, so you are complaining that there is no provision for a class your child does not attend?

As I said, dd goes to three dance classes a week, I have NEVER needed to change a nappy there, I change her before, and then at home or wherever we go next. If you go out for the day from dance class then clearly your dds class isn't exactly a long one. How often does your toddler need changing?!

At playgroup I double bag. It can be a bit whiffy in my bag or boot, but they don't have the provision and it's MY CHOICE to take my child there, so it's my problem to deal with.

It is wrong, unhygienic and just plain disgusting, not to mention selfish and fucking entitled to dump YOUR CHILDS dirty nappies in a normal bin. You don't want to smell it in your car but it's ok for everyone else to have to smell it? Why?

They do not have to have a nappy bin, it is their choice. It is your choice to send your dd to a dance school with no nappy bin.

You can either plan ahead so you don't need to change your toddler in the hour or so you are there, or you can take your child's dirty nappies with you - or find a new dance school.

Leaving YOUR CHILD'S piss or shit for others to smell and deal with is not an option. Your child, your shit/piss - you sort it out.

Is there a changing table in the toilet facility? If there is then I would leave my nappies there. If not then I would probably take them away if that is what the sign said.

Yabu

Most toddler ballet classes cater for 2.5- 3.5 year olds most if whom will be toilet trained unless it is a parent/child class & at the most would generating pull ups.

If its anything like dds old dance school the bins will be emptied once a week by the owner/someone who does the admin/a parent who helps out.

At £6 per class they won't be making much profit.

I'd double bag them and take them home so IMO YABVU and rude to ignore the sign.

I do however agree that if the majority of their customers will be parents with children in nappies then it makes sense to provide a bin for nappies.

YABU

I've been to lots of places where they ask you to take your nappies home. We used cloth, so not an issue anyway, but I wouldn't have had a problem with it, if it had been relevant to me.

Nappies stink and it's far more pleasant for everyone if they don't have to hold their breath when using the toilet.

I used to pay £6 for DD's dance lessons 35 years ago.No parent would have dreamed of changing their childs nappy in the dance school let alone leaving a used nappy behind.

Take it home. You shouldn't be disposing any nappy with poo still inside anyway. At 2 it's not likely to be liquid poo.
Just empty poo in bin and wrap nappy and put in bag ad take home

What do you think people with reusable nappies do? They don't carry shit around all day, they empty it down toilet.

Op you are just looking for excuses to justify your laziness.

Your toddler isn't even doing the dance class but you expect everyone else who attends to either put up with the nappy stink that you yourself will not put up with in your own car or subsidise the additional cost of nappy disposal through their fees and you insist on changing a wet nappy (not a poo nappy that obviously needs a quick change to prevent soreness) during a half hour dance class. You can't be in the building for more than an hour even allowing for slow changing and a post class drink!

Ridiculously entitled, lazy and selfish behaviour.

Bring it up with the dance school office, if you want them to provide a nappy bin.

Don't keep using the waste bin out of rebellion/selfishness, do something proactive about it.

So there is no sanitary protection bin? That I would complain about, but not the nappy bin.

The staff who are having to empty the bin are not the people making a decision about whether or not to have a nappy bin. Please consider them and deal with your own crap (no pun intended)

I'd be more upset at having to use a cafes toilets and the area by them that stunk of dirty nappies. Is it really that difficult to take with you?

Just take it home. All my dc's were in cotton nappies so I regularly had a dirty nappy in a plastic bag to take home. It's really not a big deal!

Either bag it and take it home or be prepared for a hike in fees when they realise they need a proper clinical waste service for nappy bins...

Actually, yes - good point whoever said human waste shouldn't be going in the bin.

Flick the poo into the loo (i.e. the place intended for such waste), double wrap the bag and flush the loo.

No nasty smells anywhere and no difficulty

YABU to consider flouting the rule. It's no skin off your nose to take a dirty nappy home, but pretty unpleasant for a staff member to have to deal with it.

WTF take them home ??

No chance ! I would not be walking about with a stinking nappy in my bag . What if you were going back to the cafe to eat ?? I'm sure all the other customers would love to sit and eat their food with nappy stench coming from the next table

Do you use a nappy sack to put it in first?

I have worked in cafés etc popular with families with small children.

The shit (literal shit) people leave behind has to be seen to be believed. Sometimes people are utter pigs but apparently it is ok, as if we have highchairs and a kids menu we should be happy to out up with food smeared on the walls, shit smeared in the toilet, entire meals dumped on the floor and trodden in, nappies shoved into a tiny bin so hard the bottom ones pop open and ooze mingled crap all over the place. Shitty wipes in the sink, nappy changes on the table, you name it.

If your child uses nappies the nappies are your property to be cleaned or disposed of by you. Not by somebody else unless that person is in loco parentis.

Taking a nappy home with you is utterly normal and an everyday occurrence for a large amount of parents. Seriously unremarkable.

Olaf, really, you have never put a used nappy or had 'nappy stench' in your bag? Never? You've never used a non-disposable nappy, wipe or cloth? Never changed them anywhere other than a dedicated changing station with sanitary bin? Never in the park or on the floor or in the passenger seat of the car or at a friends house, kindly declining their kitchen bin? Never carried a set of pooey clothes home? Or been pooed on and not had a change of clothes with you? Never used a nappy bag? Never emptied the nappy into the toilet (ridding you of a large portion of the 'stench')?

I must be doing it wrong.