To think it's out of order to announce the birth of someone else's baby on their Facebook page

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NC as I've been ranting about this all day at work!

A very good friend of mine had a baby yesterday and she texted a few friends and family to announce this and tell us the name.

Another friend then went onto the Facebook Timeline of the new mum and basically said congratulations on the arrival of 'baby's name' before they'd had a chance to announce it publicly themselves.

I understand that some people hate Facebook full stop but isn't it out of order to publicly announce someone else's very special news like that?

Easy answer - stay off the bloody thing. Facebook is not necessary. At all. If you are on it, you take the risk.
It amuses me that someone would break the news 'to get attention' for themselves. Just grow up.

Yanbu!

This happened to me with dc1. I have a particular friendwho loves doing this kinda thing so I 'foiled' her plans by disabling my timeline! So she posted on her own wall congratulating both of us and tagged us both. So everyone then posted congrats on her page cos my timeline was disabled. I'm still really bloody angry nearly 2 years later

Oh really, who cares? people will know eventually; you can't prevent it in this era of social media and constant interaction.

I pretty sure I had congratulations on FB before I'd got home from hospital. Didn't bother me at all.

I did this when my nephew was born because I was SO excited I didn't think it through (I did my own update, not on her wall). My sister was pretty grumpy about it. I get where she was coming from now and admit it was in poor form, but still feel weird that something I did from a place of excitement and love for my new nephew could have been misconstrued as trying to "steal" her thunder. Because, hand on heart, that's all it was - not some sort of race to steal her news. Just me celebrating something that excited me without thinking it through. I suspect that many of the above cases are the same.

I got text messages from people congratulating me on my DD within hours of her being born when I'd only told my parents and sisters and thought it was lovely that people cared so much about my DD's birth. It never occurred to me to worry about how or when they'd heard, or about who had been the one to tell them. But then (obviously) I'm clearly not as down with baby-news sharing etiquette

Question for those who minded people doing this - would you feel the same if someone you'd told did a ring around of people or texted them, or is it just placement on FB that's annoying? Just wondering. I know in my parents generation they call and text, and I've found out about my cousin's children that way in the past.

I'd have been just as annoyed if ex-sil had texted/ rung around.
I was still in the delivery room, when I had to deal with calls from my irate sister. A colleague of hers had seen it on FB and congratulated her, and my mum was upset, as I hadn't even told anyone I was in labour and she felt slighted/excluded. I just wanted to get to know my new baby :/
I didn't even have FB then.

I'm with indigo18 on this one.

Womanscorned how on earth did it end up on facebook if not even your mother knew?!

My eldest is older than Facebook and when mobiles were still a rarity so you rang parents to let them know and they then did all the ringing around to tell everyone.Even with my youngest it never occurred to me to actually announce it on Facebook I just told those who are important to me and everyone else found out by word of mouth. If someone had posted congratulations on Facebook I would have thanked them and thought no more of it.

I stopped people being able to post in my timeline a week before having dc#2, and when I announced her arrival on fb allowed posts again.

MrsD I do see your situation as slightly different, as your friend found out your baby had been born pretty much by accident. I do think it's a little different when everyone close to the baby has already been told, it's just the people who might not be as close to the person giving birth that hadn't.

YANBU. My sister did this to me when DD was born. And got DD s name wrong so instead of congratulations I ended up endlessly explaning that DD's "name change".

YANBU that's totally out of order! I had DD at quarter to midnight, and by the time I'd been stitched up and had a bath it was 3am, so we decided to let certain family members know the next day, and so we weren't putting it on Facebook until the next day either. We actually had to plead with all the close family we called at 3am not to put anything on Facebook until we had

This happened to my dsis with her second. DH's cousin put it on before the sun had come up. I was staying at my parents due to work on our house so was there with the middle of the night call. If i hadnt been there i would have seen it on fb first as was up with DS1 at the crack of dawn definitely before my dsis would have thought it appropriate to ring.

I was pg at the time so when DS2 was born, i rang parents, siblings and my BF with them already knowing my plans re facebook so they kept it to themselves (through all manners of communication). I then prepared a text to all those i wanted to let know personally and a fb message. I sent the text, waited a minute or 2, then posted. It worked well.

last night Ex phoned his dad, who arrived far too early to drive us home, so took a photo and left. The photo of brand new baby and me, still shiny with sweat was on FB within an hour. She also spelled his first name wrong and only included one of his middle names - their family name - in the 'announcement' :(

yanbu

i have been to a few celebrations where people have had to be reminded that not everyone wants to be on facebook and reminding people to ask others for permission before posting pictures of them

i can not understand why people think it is ok to do this

One of my friends has just done the 'excited uncle' thing - didn't think anything of it until someone commented. Facebook wasn't such a thing when mine were born (youngest is 7), but I would've been a bit pissed if others posted first I think.

I had this the other way around... We announced DD2 on facebook within minutes of her birth with pictures etc, DH family got pissy because we didn't call them/text/send pictures to them first, we just did a generic status update with her pics on for everyone. Reason being most of my family are pretty far spread around the world and ringing them costs a fortune, so we do most of our communication through face book. Its quick and easy and everyone has access at the same time.

I also announced the birth of my great niece with pictures and all details on facebook within minutes of her birth. To anyone on the outside I suppose I looked as though I was stealing thunder, but my niece asked me to do this as soon as I had the info on her behalf as she couldn't get on line in the hospital and she wanted our family to 'meet' her asap!

Yanbu. I was left trying to explain to my sister why they heard about it on Facebook from a member of DP's family before I'd had a chance to tell them myself in person. They felt bad, I felt bad, so fucking inconsiderate and easily avoided.

I don't really understand how news can get out before you want it to.

Surely if you want to tell people, you do, and you can include social media in that. If you don't want to tell, don't, and social media will not find out.

I use Facebook, I even like Facebook. I even did a birth announcement (single picture, date, name, time and weight) on there.

I suspect this might be because I am technologically impaired or blessed with a sensible family but I can't see how anyone could get to your baby and get photos APEC and muck around with them before you do. Surely you are right there with your baby and anyone else only gets to see it or know about it if you tell them?