AIBU to report my housemate for harrassment?

[BabyGwyneth]

My housemate is very unfriendly, she ignores me often, and will leave the room when I enter. She will also occasionally close doors after I leave the room, with more force than needed.

AIBU to report her to the police for bullying and harrasment?

Housemates are weird.

I had one who kept stealing my bed linen and hiding it in her wardrobe. She once used my global kitchen knife (left behind by ex boyfriend, I was a penniless student) to open MY metal change jar because she needed change for gum. When I moved out she reported me to the police for stealing my own possessions

Then she flew off the handle and called me an "f*cking bitch"

Yes. I'm sure you were in the kitchen quietly sipping your tea, and she just randomly started shouting like a crazy person with no provocation on your part.

How were the other house mates treating her? Were they ignoring her and leaving when she walked in too?

Everyone in this situation sounds childish. You for playing stupid passive aggressive games, and her for calling the police over a petty squabble. If someone was being passive aggressive like this with me and slamming doors around the house, I'd break lease too (and I'd be spiteful and make sure everyone lost their deposits like she did). You obviously don't want her there, you're purposely treating her poorly, and you're confused as to why she's moving out?

Next time you want to have a harmonious household try acting like an adult and show each other a little respect. You don't have to like each other, but you can act like adults and be cordial.

Am I missing something?

The OP may or may not have been a little PA and awkward, but her housemate called the police and reported her for harassment FGS.

How is that anything other than completely deranged and disproportionate to the OP's behaviour?

How is that anything other than completely deranged and disproportionate to the OP's behaviour?

I have no doubt she's leaving out convenient details. If they were fine with this house mate before she started avoiding her, I highly doubt she just suddenly snapped out of the blue. They were probably subtly bullying her, playing games, and she had enough.

There's likely not just one thing that upset her, it was probably a combination of poor treatment over a period of time that finally grated her last nerve.

Not saying she should have called the police about it, but I think anyone that's gotten bullied before can tell you how maddening those passive aggressive games get to be after a while.

My uni housemate was worse. Sorry. We actually did our best to help. And what hurt was I used to spend hours chatting to her and listening to her issues with others etc. one time I spent (literally), 3hrs consoling and listening and the next day she said she was leaving because we were all bullies who ignored her and drove her to suicide. She would eat in her own room, cook her own (limited range) food, refusing to share meals when we did them and keeping all her cutlery etc in her room. Not only that but she was cruel to a fellow housemate (rooms adjoined), and once squeezed dish water onto someone's cooling batch cooked food, because she thought it needed washing (we washed up after each other, she never did). She then went to myself and another housemate's group leader and said we were bullying her (tho to be fair she says she blamed two other housemates and not us...). We said (to a uni councillor because we were all getting depressed about it) we were concerned for her mental health and had been struggling to help but had then had the above thrown at us.
After she left money did not go missing and the atmosphere was much better.

I sympathise but we didn't actually do anything to exclude our housemate....

Yeah, I bet Famzilla's housemate didn't just steal her bed linen and kitchen knife either. Famzilla had probably set fire to the housemate's goldfish and is just leaving out that detail.

There are no totally unreasonable people anywhere in the world, so anyone who claims that anyone else behaved in a completely unreasonable manner must be lying and the sensible thing to do is to make up a complicated chain of events that "probably" happened whether or not you have any evidence to support it.

She's already admitted to playing passive aggressive games with her. It's not like she was doing her best to get along and this house mate went mental.

They had a fight, and since then she's been make a show out of avoiding her, and slamming doors after she leaves a room, making it clear she dislikes her after having a fight. I haven't heard anything that the housemate did to her except call her a bitch (and I'm inclined to agree given her behavior).

Yes, there are unreasonable and crazy people out there.

The housemate clearly over reacted to the situation, but it doesn't sound like OP is exactly innocent in all this either. Was she being treated poorly, yes. Did it require police intervention, no.

Seriously, why can't you just put the problem up for discussion accurately instead of playing bullshit 'reverse' games?

Oh grow up OP. What goes around comes around and all that.

What sort of tenancy do you have?

When tenants of mine have separated in the past they are all still liable for the rent either sole or jointly, exactly why I like to have as many adults on the tenancy agreement as possible as I have a better chance of getting any money owed if it all goes tits up!

At the end of the tenancy (for assured short hold) you can then chose not not to renew but need to inform the LL in which case the remaining tenants can ask for a new agreement minus that person, or if nothing is brought to the attention of the LL then a monthly rolling tenancy begins unless a new agreement success the existing.