To want my money back!

[Missy1501]

So last year a group of friends decided to book a girly holiday for this summer. I was invited at the time I was pregnant and knew my lo would be around a year old by the time the holiday came round so I said I MIGHT come will know definitely nearer the time. So I said I would book mine separately.
A few days later they had booked the apartments and said can I pay £100 towards apartment cost and then book flights separately nearer the time, so I did this.

Now the time is here I have decided not to go , I've told them this and asked for the money back - only to be told that no I can't have it back coz it was a set price for the two apartments and only if someone else goes do I get my money back!!
Surely they should all now pay the difference between themselves - why should I pay so they all get a cheaper room? Aibu ?

Another one saying YABU. I've been on plenty of group holidays and this is the way it has always worked. If you can't go then you don't get the money back unless someone else can go in your place.

Think of it like a concert ticket. If you'd all bought & paid for tickets to see Take That, would you expect your friends to pay for your ticket if you couldn't make it to the gig? Thought not. It's the same thing.

Missy i think its good that you haven't said you expect your money back yet. Please don't. I'm sure if someone else goes they will give you your money back as is only right but if the space remains vacant then you will just have to swallow the loss. If they were willing to pay the extra if you didnt go then it would have made sense to fo it the other way around, i.e. they pay upfront and if you do go then you pay a portion back to each person or throw your share into a kitty for the apartment etc.

You say that you don't know what is right in this instance and now you know its rightly your loss not theirs.

YABU.

Aren't apartments normally booked as a set price whether 2 people go or 4?

No, extra linen costs and stuff bump it up per person. Even things like extra cleaning needed, someone putting out a sofa bed or something bump them up.

YABU.

Sorry Missy , but you seem to be wanting to have your cake and eat it. On the one hand you paid the deposit, thus keeping hold of your option to go, on the other when you finally decided not to go, you want your deposit back. Can't expect to have it both ways.

YABU

Apartments aren't booked at a set price - what happens is there is a set number of beds eg 4, 6 etc and if there are less people than beds available an under occupancy supplement is chargeable. OP a but confused about why you didn't book time off work before paying?

So the £100 was full cost and not the deposit after all?

Hard lesson to learn, but now you know not to commit to anything unless you know for certain you can go. You can't expect them to cover the cost because you flaked.

Also, never make assumptions when it comes to money, make it very clear what your intentions are and what you expect. Had someone give me money once then asked me to pay back what I assumed was a gift because that's what he implied. I paid him back of course but was a bit irritated.