To be annoyed that FIl commented on my not drinking today and last week?

[PilauMice]

I'm 7 wks pg and we will tell people when we are ready. Asking questions like that are just awkward and you won't get a straight response. MIL and GMIL just stayed silent, thankfully. FFS. AIBU?

To be honest I think yabu. You admit to being a heavy drinker normally and for 2 weeks on the trot you have not had a drink. That is going to be suspicious and cause questions to be asked.

should they be asked out loud though wheresthelight? I mean, if the OP wanted her pregnancy announced she'd have announced it, surely? I would never try to barge in like that.

I suppose it depends what was asked?

"ooh, not drinking Pilau"? maybe just requiring "no, don't fancy it" or some throw away remark.

Or was it a big dig for a reason?

The man isn't psychic and it's a perfectly normal question!

Congratulations by the way!

And Martorana -

It is so annoying! It happened to me! Months before I even was pregnant my ex-MIL broadcast to the family that I was because I had asked for a lemonade instead of the offered wine on arriving at her house in mid summer, with a raging thirst after driving for over 3 hours in intense heat.

I had one lemonade and then moved onto wine but obviously that showed I was pregnant and she wouldn't accept my denials but proceeded to immediately phone family and tell them the news as we were being "mardy and miserable" for not sharing.

Loved the look on her face when we eventually broke the news with the 12 week scan picture about a year later.

Know how it feels but you must get your cover story ready as people will jump to conclusions and love to "out" a pregnancy if they can.

Antibiotics
Cutting down
On a diet

all work. People may still wonder but you've brushed it off.

Congratulations btw!

I read the title and thought he was asking because he thought you had a 'problem' with drinking! 'Not-drinking-today-dear?' is asked of me when I have had too much the night before -if you drink 'a lot' then it is not unreasonable to imagine that not-drinking has been spurred by something. I doubt very much he was thinking about his wife's m/c from decades ago. Poor man probably didn't even give your possible pregnancy a single thought.

YABU - but I get that your 'big reveal' has now probably been let out, certainly to MIL and GMIL. It was an innocent remark - though I'd wonder about my drinking, if FIL commented like that

Why shouldn't it be asked aloud? It's not necessarily rude I see it more as concern

interesting wheres, I would have thought it was a very rude question. it's very personal news that people share when they're ready, imo. He's not "concerned" she might be pregnant...

I think it's common knowledge that when women stop drinking or claim to be on anti biotics they are pregnant. The only way round it is to pretend to drink if you really want to keep it a secret. Make a glass of wine last all afternoon, trip over spill it say you think you've had too many etc etc - it's easily done!

It is common knowledge,

It wouldn't ever occur to my husband (prob age of the OP's FiL) so that's not necessarily the case.

Maybe he's, you know, quite excited at the idea of a new grandchild. People get like that. Unreasonable, obviously, but one of those things you have to put up with. What with the fact this isn't actually a passing stranger making a comment.

Its really not common knowledge. We dont all exist in babyland, Is she or isnt she pregnant speculation. To some of us pregnancy would be the third or fourth guess after hungover, cutting back, antibiotics etc.

Give the man a break. He probably just asked an innocent question with no underlying motive and he's being accused of prying, being rude and wanting to ruin a big reveal

How can he be, motherinferior- don't be silly! He's an inlaw and therefore has no emotions or feelings- or at least, none that anyone need take into consideration.