I know I'm being petty, but AIBU also to not do this person a favour?

[SumBex]

This concerns a woman whom I met through baby groups several years ago along with several other women. We had a bit of a run in at one point where she basically screamed in my DD's face after she pushed her DS over. I've never really forgiven her for this but remained civil for the sake of the wider friendship circle.

Fast forward a couple of years and our DC are in the same class at school. The friendship circle splintered a little while ago and I found out through a mutual acquaintance that she has said some things about me that aren't true to another ex-friend from the same group. All sounds pretty childish right?

Anyway, she's asked me for the details of a children's entertainer I used for DD'sbirthday party last year, but truthfully, I don't want to do her any favours. Plus we might use him again as DD has asked for the same party.

Now don't get me wrong, I know this is super petty but AIBU to not give her the details? I just don't feel like doing her any favours given our history. If IANBU how do I politely say no to her request?

[Pigglesworth]

I think your decision not to give her the details is fine. I don't understand why others are getting worked up about you not helping her and judging you for it. It sounds like your choice not to provide the details is a liberating one for you. You're under no obligation to help someone who persistently treats you and your family badly and takes no responsibility for her behaviour. In fact doing so perpetuates her apparent attitude that her behaviour towards you is acceptable.

[mimishimmi]

It's a bit petty. I'd probably tell her the number but I'd never do a childcare favour for her.

[DioneTheDiabolist]

YANBU OP. But you know it is a petty and ineffectual thing to do.

Give her the number this and save your vengeance for another, better, time.

[musicalendorphins2]

I'd have no qualms over deleting the text and totally forgetting about it.

[UncleT]

Tell her that the entertainer no longer works in the trade after complaints about him screaming in a child's face.

[PrincessBabyCat]

You're being petty and passive aggressive. But you already know that.

If you don't want to give her the info, don't. But don't think you're any better than her when you do it.

[ComposHat]

Sorry can I check, this whole scenario involves adults not a collection of spectacularly unnuanced 14 year olds?

[partialderivative]

Will you really feel better about yourself if you are deliberately obstructive about her child's party?

To use well worn a cliche; that says more about you than it does about her.

[Happyringo]

Just as an aside, why does she even have your mobile number if you dislike her so much? I think I would ignore the text and then if she asks say oh I have a different mobile number now, so that she won't try using it again. Really, you don't need to give people you dislike your private number!

[SumBex]

Unfortunately yes, we are all adults . In my defence, I did acknowledge at the start this this all comes across as very childish. We do behave like adults for the most part.

I've had the same number for years so she's probably got it from when we were friends. Maybe it's time to change it though as there's many people who have it that I no longer speak to.

I don't feel like I'm being deliberately obstructive, as I said, I think she's being lazy. She could easily find himself with minimal googling.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

I am also a fellow grudge holder judge away

I'm in your camp and wouldn't go out of my way to help her, she can google the information herself

[TondelayoSchwarzkopf]

140 odd posts for this?
Just give her the fucking number and move on.