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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To have a treadmill in a first floor flat?

96 replies

NickiFury · 03/05/2014 21:17

I wouldn't use it after 8 at night or early morning obviously.

Is it too unneighbourly though? So as not to drip, my neighbours do like to share their music with us Hmm but do turn it down if asked, I just would so love one and I would use it most days. I know this because it would be replacing a cross trainer I lost 8 stone of baby weight on over the years.

Opinions?

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brdgrl · 05/05/2014 12:00

And are you as obtuse and stubborn in RL?
And why exactly do you post on MN if you think that people cannot comment on a situation based on the information presented by the poster?
Enjoy your treadmill. I am sure you will, no matter what. :)

Pipbin · 05/05/2014 12:01

I'm so sorry that my decision and the outcome hasn't been determined by AIBU, but honestly it doesn't have to be, it really, really doesn't.

So why bother asking?

Tbh if I was your downstairs neighbour and you came to me and said that you were going to be using your treadmill for half an hour a day I would most likely be ok with it because you had said and I knew what it was.
But that's just my opinion, which doesn't seem to count as I'm not you or your neighbour so I don't know why you bothered asking it.

NickiFury · 05/05/2014 12:07

I would love it if you would explain exactly how I am obtuse and stubborn? I am afraid I must return that description to you. As you you've yet to explain any of your opinions on this and have responded to none of the points I have made regarding your accusations towards me. It's clear you're not able to though so I won't keep pursuing this.

I'm off for lunch now, have a lovely bank holiday all.

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NickiFury · 05/05/2014 12:09

So I can only ask opinions if I am going to believe and act on them rather than use them as part of my decision making process pipbin? Confused

I think MN must seriously consider a warning in AIBU along the lines of "only post here if you're going to do what we tell you".

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Pipbin · 05/05/2014 12:10

Because you have invited opinion, yet not only refused to listen to it, but said that everyone else's opinion is not valid because they are not you or your neighbour and are not familiar with the lifestyle lead by everyone in question.

Pipbin · 05/05/2014 12:12

But you didn't seem to use anyone's opinion as any part of your decision making process.

Do what you want, I couldn't give a fig. But don't ask people's opinions and then tell them that they are unwanted.

NickiFury · 05/05/2014 12:17

Where have I said no one else's opinion is valid? I haven't at all. Please point that out to me.

Their opinions are valid for them in their situations, I have only pointed out why they might not apply to me. That seems to annoy people for some reason Confused

NOW I am going out to won't behave for a while.

OP posts:
NickiFury · 05/05/2014 12:18

Behave?! How appropriate Grin

Won't be back

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maddening · 05/05/2014 12:21

if you have a cross trainer and it doesn't cause a problem why not stick to a cross trainer? Probably better for joints than a treadmill anyway.7

Pipbin · 05/05/2014 12:22

And yet again, you can have no possible clue of the dynamic and set up I have with my neighbours. A tread mill in a first floor flat would annoy YOU. Are you really so limited that you can't see that there may be a situation where it wouldn't be an issue.

That says to me 'your view is wrong and mine is right'.

maddening · 05/05/2014 12:24

pippin - surely she isn't obliged to act upon any opinions - she has considered them and knowing her own situation can decide if it is a useful suggestion

Pipbin · 05/05/2014 12:28

She doesn't have to act on them but all opinions that haven't agreed with hers seem to have been dismissed.

whois · 05/05/2014 12:28

Why bother asking then OP if you dismiss any vibration and noise issues and say your neighbours are totes cool with the awesome dynamic?

fascicle · 05/05/2014 12:28

Some bizarre attitudes towards the OP here, about not listening/not taking on board the opinions of others on the thread. A few thoughts on this:

  1. During the course of the thread, the OP talked to her neighbours, who said they would be fine with her proposal. This is an important factor in her decision making, and something she didn't know at the beginning of the thread, when she invited the opinions of others.
  1. By contributing an opinion to a thread does not give anybody stakeholder rights in the OP's decision making process.
  1. As for the OP not listening to others - several responders to the thread do not seem to have absorbed the critical information about the neighbours being fine with the proposal since they are likely to be out.
  1. As a general point in life, even if you don't go with the opinions of others, asking for those opinions can still be a useful part of the decision making process (even if the result is to affirm what you believe, rather than others).
brdgrl · 05/05/2014 12:36

I've explained my opinion. If you want me to do it again, even though you've said it (and everyone else's) is irelevant to you, here goes.

A number of poster who have had a treadmill themselves, or who have lived under one, told you YABU. Others raised new concerns.

My opinion of the original question, as I said in my first post, was formed through reading the posts here. If you'd asked me two days ago, I'd have said I had no idea, and certainly didn't know treadmills weighed that much, made that much noise, or irritated people's neighbours so often. Now I have made an opinion, by reading the information and views presented by others. Which I would have thought would be a good strategy for the person actually asking the question, too.

I also ventured to say that your neighbours may be as ignorant of treadmill realities as myself. If my upstairs neighbour asked me, two days ago, if I would mind if they got a treadmill, I would have replied just like your own neighbours did. Because I wouldn't understand what I was actually agreeing to.

But if the person asking has more knowledge and actually knows there are reasons why it is inconsiderate and un-neighbourly (for instance, they suspected they might be being un-neighbourly by doing it, asked around, and had numerous replies telling them it would in fact be un-neighbourly!), I would think it was pretty unpleasant of them to write off those concerns because after all, I'd said it was OK.

And yes, Pipbin has it. Because you have invited opinion, yet not only refused to listen to it, but said that everyone else's opinion is not valid because they are not you or your neighbour and are not familiar with the lifestyle lead by everyone in question. and But you didn't seem to use anyone's opinion as any part of your decision making process.

NickiFury · 05/05/2014 15:29

I haven't dismissed or invalidated anyone's opinions or thoughts on here if anything it's been the other way around by a couple of posters who absolutely refuse to consider that my situation may be different from anything they could imagine. I could go into a long diatribe explaining my point again but it feels a bit pointless.

Fascicle thanks for your post, you have understood exactly what I was trying to say Smile I can't really add to it.

I've an essay to write now so won't be back to the thread for a day or two but thanks for all the input, especially brrdgrl who really seems to have got her teeth into imagining all parties involved in RL, how they might be feeling about it, their ability to understand the issues involved and how selfish I may prove myself to be in the future........it's been entertaining reading that if nothing else Grin

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maddening · 05/05/2014 16:23

and the op did listen - accepted it would be noisy and considered whether she could restrict her timetable to times they were out (as suggested) and, having lived there and knowing their general times of coming in etc thought she could. Also as suggested she went and spoke to the neighbours.

Theodorous · 05/05/2014 17:16

I have a vision of someone coming through the ceiling, perplexed elderly people to a chorus of especially cheesy evangelical gospel in a big cloud of dust.

Joysmum · 05/05/2014 18:07

There really are a buch of weirdo know it alls on here!

She's asked the neighbours. They have said they are out most of the time.

She knows their habits so can so if when they are out.

Her neighbours can approach her if there's an issue. She can approach them again after starting up to make sure there hadn't been any issue in practice.

That's reason enough to try.

Theodorous · 06/05/2014 12:51

joysmum sums it up in a nutshell

iggymama · 12/05/2014 17:05

OP have you now bought this treadmill?

I am considering buying one and this one being lightweight and foldable could be ideal. I would love to know if you are happy with it.

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