to ask if you think bad behaviour at school is punishable at home?

[dollsmouse]

Dd is in year 1 and impeccably behaved at school. However, at home she has a tendency to be awkward and not listen. Her best friend who is in the same class is well behaved at home but struggles to listen and concentrate at school, which she gets in trouble for. Their teacher is much 'softer' than their reception teacher and has struggled. Each day she speaks to 6/7 parents about their child's behaviour at home time.

Dds best friends mum has began banning screen time/pudding/days out until her dds behaviour at school improves. While I think parents should support teachers, I think concentration and not listening are things the teacher needs to work out strategies for and that it makes it pretty miserable for the dd who's punished all day at school and then at home too. I wouldn't go into school expecting dds teacher to punish dd for not listening at home, so why do many people think that a 'partnership' is vital when in reality it's only one way?

The clips are topic related but three is excessive I feel. Dd says it's always when teacher has work to do for after lunch.

It depends on how often this is happening and how long the clips are.

Sometimes I will sort stuff out with my TA quickly while the children are doing Activate.

Absolutely YABU. If you're child's behaviour is unacceptable its up to you to remedy it, not pass the buck to teachers and others. You brought them into this world and its your responsibility to raise them into young adults

I'm surprised at how many people think the only way to manage children's behaviour is to dole out punishments on top of punishments.

Positive behaviour management strategies work far better and you can back up the school's actions by talking to the child about what happened in school and how they could have behaved differently.