H left me about nine weeks ago. No affair just a general breakdown of communications and him having ( in my view) some sort of breakdown (which he has had before).
We have both been good friends with a couple, the husband is lovely but she is known as a bit of a drunk and says really inappropriate things ( she made very sexual comments to DSS a while back, which upset him and she didn't like that I told her I wasn't impressed). Anyway he chose to disclose how he felt to these friends, giving his version of events and not mine. Fair enough. Only she has gone and blabbed this to one and all - with bells on. H was warned what she was like, she has made me out to be a mad phsychotic bitch without even knowing what happened ... H had made a really awful comment to me which led to me being awful back - in her version it was me that just blew up at him for no reason.
As a result I have asked that H does not allow DS to spend time alone with this woman - no problems in a crowd, but worry that if she babysits (she does a lot for others) or is in a small grou she will get hammered and repeat story to DS .... With even more embellishments than the last time she told it.
AIBU to ask that DS is not alone with her? h thinks it shows me as paranoid ....