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Original poster

To go away with out DC

49 replies

ICanSeeTheSun · 29/04/2014 18:49

DH and I haven't been away together on our own for over 9 years.

DC have been away with family member, plus we take them out a lot.

We are going away this weekend to the other side of the country and staying with friends to have an adult weekend. Lots of nights out and having DC there will change the dynamics.

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ICanSeeTheSun · 29/04/2014 18:50

Sorry to add on but have had a few negative responses saying its selfish and they couldn't leave DC and go so far away.

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loveableshoulder · 29/04/2014 18:51

YA so NBU.

They will be fine. Have a good time :)

Lilaclily · 29/04/2014 18:53

Yanbu
Just ignore the comments
Who comments anyway? None of my friends & family would be so rude, is it colleagues?

Mrsjayy · 29/04/2014 18:56

oh for gods sake they sound feeble and meh go away your weekend have a ball and come back refreshed yanbu I never when mine were younger i had no sitters did when they were old enough to be left it is great

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ICanSeeTheSun · 29/04/2014 18:56

Colleagues.

It was a conversation about holidays, I don't normally talk about my personal life. I was asked of I was going away and then said.

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DaffodilsandTruffles · 29/04/2014 18:58

Goodness me! A weekend in the UK and people are being snippy?

Nonsense!

I probably would go abroad without my DC just yet and Zi don't think we'd leave them for a week but what you are describing is fine!

meditrina · 29/04/2014 18:58
Envy

Have a marvellous time!

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ICanSeeTheSun · 29/04/2014 19:01

Thank you.

Up until that I was really looking forward to it.

I'm at this moment washing, drying and ironing the stuff to go away.

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LadyRochford · 29/04/2014 19:03

How old are your kids? I think it sounds lovely but I do wonder how people can leave babies for a weekend...only because I wouldn't enjoy that ...not that I would ever say anything in real life! It's just that it makes me wonder why I can't, so maybe they are rudely wondering that out loud.

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ICanSeeTheSun · 29/04/2014 19:06

Ds is 8 in May DD 5 in June

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CoffeeTea103 · 29/04/2014 19:09

Gosh the kids are old enough! I thought you were talking about babies. Your colleagues are probably jealous. It's healthy to have adult time, and kids should also learn that too. Go have fun Smile

Flexiblefriend · 29/04/2014 19:09

You haven't said what the DC are doing while you are away. If they are young children, and you are locking them in a cupboard to go away then YABU. If they are staying with a responsible adult that they know and love, then YAdefinitelyNBU. Go away, have a great time, and don't worry about what anyone else has to say!

Applespearsorangesandlemons · 29/04/2014 19:11

My Dc are similar ages to yours plus an older one and DH and I go away together every year for 3 or 4 nights abroad to somewhere totally unchildfriendly. It's heaven.

slev · 29/04/2014 19:11

DS was 2 when we first went away without him - and that was to Europe for 2 nights. Then last year he started Kindergarten and had stayed with his grandparents for a week each holiday so we've had a long weekend in Spain and are going away again in May half term.

He doesn't care as he's having a whale of a time with his grandparents (who are MUCH more fun than Mummy and Daddy), they have asked to have him because it's the only way they get to spend much time with him (they're too far away to see him regularly during term time) and we get a nice break doing something we definitely wouldn't do with him. Win all round. And we do child friendly holidays for him so he's not missing out on a holiday.

With all due respect, your colleagues are taking utter bollocks.

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ICanSeeTheSun · 29/04/2014 19:12

PiL are having them.

I don't know exactly what they will be doing, but they always have fun at their grandparent house.

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MamaPain · 29/04/2014 19:13

I've done this since my DC were very young, babies even, you will have a great time, feel referees he'd and be pleased to see them when you come home.

On mn and in real life you get all sorts. People saying their 8 year old has never had a night away from them etc. Let them live that life and enjoy your holiday instead.

OverlookedConfection · 29/04/2014 19:15

It will do you good. I have been away since DC wre babies and it has done me so much good. Kids are pretty much unharmed. Of they are with someone they know well there is no problem. Enjoy.

LadyRochford · 29/04/2014 19:15

Gosh I'd leave my 3 yr old for the weekend and not feel bad for a second. Maybe they are jealous of your nice grandparents?

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ICanSeeTheSun · 29/04/2014 19:17

Perhaps it is jealousy.

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KeepSmiling83 · 29/04/2014 19:19

My DD has stayed out at her grandparents once a week since she was about 5 months old. Before that I used to stay with her. We have also been away about 5 times for long weekends without her (she is almost 3).She absolutely loves it (as do my parents) and is spoilt rotten. Sometimes I think it is a bit of a competition about who never left their child until they were the oldest. If you don't want to leave you baby then that's absolutely fine and is your choice. But it doesn't make you a better parent than someone who does leave their child IMO! Go away and enjoy yourselves!!

LadyRochford · 29/04/2014 19:20

I'm already making plans for when the baby is off the boob and we can leave them both with my parents! probably not til he is at preschool if he is anything like his brother

Somepercentagenotcool · 29/04/2014 19:23

Who the fuck has been saying its selfish? They are officially bonkers so take no notice of them - sheesh!

Slainte · 29/04/2014 19:27

Pack your case and run like the wind Grin

meditrina · 29/04/2014 19:29

"If ... you are locking them in a cupboard to go away..."

Even that sounds like a plan. Then perhaps when they are 10 an owl will arrive and solve all you admissions worries.

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ICanSeeTheSun · 29/04/2014 19:34

Very HP meditrina.

Well off to iron some more.

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