To email the local school about these girls.

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Today I was in the charity shop with DS, I am not at all snobby about charity shops at all and used to volunteer in one for a year before I got my job. 4 girls from one of the local schools came in wearing their school uniform. They were loudly shouting, "I have never been into a charity shop before, I hope nobody sees us" "Ergh be quick" etc etc, they then proceeded to roughly handle the clothes on the rails all the while shouting "ergh look at these sexy jeans" "All these clothes are disgusting why would anyone shop in here" "lets get out it's minging". They were shouting so loud that everyone in the shop could hear. I just thought this was such awful behaviour, from my experience volunteering I remember what a lifeline charity shops are for people who are short of money and the people I volunteered with (mostly elderly people) and of course the charity. They can think what they like about charity shops but they should keep it to themselves and not enter one to be so disrespectful. I am not really one to complain but I am so tempted to email the school and inform them of their behaviour but I am unsure if it would do any good, but I am just so disappointed that some of their pupils would act this way. Should I just let it drop?

I think you should probably let it drop. We all acted like arses when we were teens and this is no more than being an arse - it's not illegal, not dangerous, not directed at anyone.

I complained about seeing a load of local school children dropping litter in the local town. There were bins right next to them. The deputy head was very interested. I'd complain, yes.

It's just silly teenage girls.

I'd complain. I've complained before about anti-social behaviour of school pupils (spitting etc) and the school was interested. It damages their reputation if children in uniform are behaving badly.

It's freedom of speech isn't it? I agree it's snobby and annoying but they'll (hopefully) grow out of it, and they haven't really commited an offence. I doubt the school would be impressed about wasting resources to track these girls down just to tell them they were being a bit insensitive and rude.

You could have said something yourself.

It's 6 of 1, half dozen of the other. Our secondary has made it very clear that all the time they are in uniform the students are representing the school. On the other hand, they were silly teenage girls, rude and obnoxious.

They sound like typical mouthy teens showing off because they think other people will be impressed. I'd let it go.

If you felt that strongly why didn't you say something?

I agree, silly immature teens, showing off to their mates. Hardly something their HT can tell them off for.

Yes agree that letting it go it best here. If they had been rude to an individual, then it would be worth complaining.

The school have no way of knowing which pupils disgraced them so why go to the school over it? The only way to tackle this really was shaming the group of them at the time. I understand that this type of confrontation does take a certain kind of person to initiate but it sounds like the girls needed to be taken down a peg or two before they behave like that in front of someone more vulnerable or even someone particularly volatile

Many schools would be interested in hearing of pupils and anti social behaviour in the local community, especially if they were in uniform. Whether the children like it or not if they are in uniform then they are representing the school all the time on the way to and from school.

I have emailed about bad behaviour from two local schools in the past.

One was pupils on a bus shouting and swearing, and just generally being annoying, and potentially intimidating especially as the bus route is also used by much younger pupils and also the elderly. They were not in uniform but I knew which school.

The other was at local shops - again anti social behaviour and behaving in an intimidating manner towards some younger children - probably Y5 or Y6 from nearby local primary. They were in uniform.

Both times the HTs were interested and followed it up in assemblies - or they said they did/would.

Often schools rely on good relationships with the local community.

I think noting it with the school is an excellent idea. I certainly would have been reprimanded for this behaviour at my school - in school uniform, you represent your school. I don't know if they would be dealt with similarly but perhaps a nice opportunity to suggest an assembly on charity-giving/being kind/acknowledging economic hardship.

I called a secondary school about bullying and racist remarks made at a bus stop. The head held an assembly about both. I would call the school

I wouldn't. They are just being silly and immature.

email the school saying that sadly their pupils are no longer welcome in the shop. explain about the behaviour and how upsetting it could be for other customers who have no other choice but to shop in charity shops.

I wouldn't. I would call for other things but they were just being silly teen girls. They'll grow out of it.

complaining to the school would be very OTT I think. They just sound like typical mouthy teens messing about.

My grandmother worked in a charity shop when I was at secondary school and I remember being both terrified and mortified when I was spotted by a group of girls (that I was terrified of) leaving the charity shop once. I hadn't even bought anything but I thought that having been seen in one was 'OMG lyk the worst thing evah'!

Now I adore them. We all grow up someday.

Omg what a big deal. Yes they are just being silly, let it go.

I doubt the school will be very helpful unless you know who they are.
I also think they were just being childish and have seen and heard a lot worse behaviour than this from local school children.
They will grow up one day and all they did was make themselves look a bit pathetic.

To all those saying I should have said something, yeah I probably should have done, but I am not a very confrontational person and had my baby (PFB) with me so I would rather not as you never know what people would be like.

I wouldn't be able to identify the girls but I remember as a kid having assemblies on things like this if the school received complaints so if my email/phonecall whatever gave their pupils just a gentle reminder to be respectful that would be really good.

Let this go. They were being silly girls.

I'd complain. School will be interested because, as they were wearing uniform, they were bringing the name of the school into disrepute.

If a member of the public rang us about it we'd talk about it in assembly.