My DS isn't a typical toddler, he is 2 and a half; the HV is keeping an eye on him at the moment but he can be quite challenging at times.
What I mean by this is that he will repeat everything all day; a word out of a book, numbers or just a random word that he likes the sound of.
He will repeat his play routine also so if he wants to read a book and then count to 10 he will do this morning until night and he will get distressed if you try to play something else. At the park he will have his routine, where he runs, what he plays on and he will repeat this until we leave.
He is not communicating yet and cannot do many things for himself.
He started pre school a couple of months ago and he attends two days a week.
I have noticed a few things which concern me and I'll list them below...
When we arrive the pre school staff do not greet DS but they pick up the other children and show them how excited they are to see them, they will only greet DS if I happen to catch their eye as I am walking in.
I had to stay for half an hour and list all of the things that DS may need help with and whilst I was there they were taking the register. They called DS to sit on the mat and he went over but had a toy in his hand, they took it off of him and told him to sit down. They were going through the names and when it came to my DS they repeated 'good morning DS' about 10 times getting louder each time they said it. DS can be very withdrawn and shy in front of people and they knew this as I told them everything I had discussed with the HV before he attended. DS sat with his head down and eventually the staff tutted and carried on with the register.
When I came to pick DS up, again he has a routine. He sees me says 'Mummy' and then goes and fetches 2 numbers to show me. The other children who were staying later were playing with toys and DS walked over to pick up the numbers he wanted to show me. A member of staff snatched the numbers off of him, bent over him and made the 'cut throat' sign and said 'finished' in a menacing way. DS then tried to hold her hands and jump up and down to play and she pulled them away, she was not aware that I was watching as I was collecting his extra pair of shoes.
As I was leaving another member of staff came out from the toilet area and said to another member of staff 'DS is sitting on the potty' (he is still in nappies and no where near ready to potty train yet) to which she replied 'bless'. I found this quite unusual too.
He is very excluded and all of the other children ignore him when we are lining up to go in whilst they play together, DS has tried to join in but they make no room for him.
I feel so sorry for DS and we are keeping an eye on him.
I formed the staff about DS straight away and they said that it was fine.
I just think that DS is being excluded. Maybe the staff get fed up of repeating themselves I'm not sure but I think they are not treating DS the same as the other children.