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To the assholes who stole my kid's Spiderman...

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PedantMarina · 27/04/2014 15:58

... if you want the web with suction cups that came with it, please do drop me a line and I'll put it in the post for you.

Free! Postage Paid! Because why the fuck should you pay for the postage so I can reunite the accessory with the beloved figure my DC (4) was playing with mere minutes earlier?!?

What stupid sillies we were - dashing out to a film. You found it on a table at Spur (steak place) at Lakeside last night and decided you needed it more than my heart-broken child.

Mind, just for the record, we're not best pleased with the Spur staff who cleared the table - how they failed to spot a 5" screaming red-and-blue action figure whilst apparently cleaning a table (to a level food hygiene chappies would like to see) I'm not sure, but that's another thing.

But the people whom I'm really addressing here are the colossally selfish gits who (at best, merely colossally stupidly) thought that maybe a Spiderman comes free with a meal in a restaurant completely unaffiliated with Marvel.

Bottom line, it's called Theft by Finding. Hope This Helps.

OP posts:
ChaosTrulyReigns · 27/04/2014 16:03

I understand your angst, buy perhaps the nob who took it did so before the staff cleaned the table?

Are they still available to buy? MNers can normally search anything out.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 27/04/2014 16:05

Alopogies, I mean anger not angst.

[multitasking]

Fooshufflewickbannanapants · 27/04/2014 16:08

Or perhaps you should lo

Fooshufflewickbannanapants · 27/04/2014 16:11

Gah! Stupid phone!

Perhaps you should not have forgotten a screaming red and blue 5" figure? It may have been taken before staff cleaned, maybe if things are precious they shouldn't travel with you?

HaroldLloyd · 27/04/2014 16:13

I think it's a bit harsh to blame the staff I would imagine someone saw it and whipped it before they cleared the table.

Maybe he is trying to get back to you, woody & buzz managed it.

Do the staff have your details on the off chance it gets handed in at a later date?

It's very very mean to take a toy though.

SpiderNugent · 27/04/2014 16:17

Perhaps you should not have forgotten a screaming red and blue 5" figure?

Exactly, but never taking personal responsibility is very trendy these days I believe

LynetteScavo · 27/04/2014 16:21

Wow you are angry! Even when we lost tontus (Thomas the tank engine) I was nowhere near as angry. Desperate, yes. Sleep deprived, yes. But really, you need to let go.(and search the net for a replacement)

AgaPanthers · 27/04/2014 16:22

Honestly it sounds like something out of a Happy Meal, perhaps the cleaning staff binned it?

LynetteScavo · 27/04/2014 16:22

Spider nugget said it first.

LynetteScavo · 27/04/2014 16:22

SpiderNugent*

RahRahRasputin · 27/04/2014 16:24

No need to be rude about the staff or their hygiene, especially as you've named the restaurant. It's not their fault at all. You left something behind.

It's a shame that your son has lost his toy. Hopefully this will be a good lesson to both of you so that things do not get left behind in future. It is a shame that someone did not hand it in (have you checked the main lost property at the shopping centre?) but unfortunately that's the way things are.

It could have been taken by another child so it may not have been deliberately stolen as such. Children often wander about in restaurants so perhaps they saw the toy and picked it up and ended up taking it home without their parents realising.

SpringBreaker · 27/04/2014 16:25

Blimey... It's a toy.. You should have checked when you walked away from the table.. Calm down.

AgaPanthers · 27/04/2014 16:28

And personally I don't see any problem with another child picking it up. It's been left behind, chances are you aren't coming back (petrol would be more than the cost of a new one surely), it's not a £500 handbag, it's just a plastic toy, another child is probably playing with it now, not 'theft by finding' at all.

ChasedByBees · 27/04/2014 16:32

And personally I don't see any problem with another child picking it up. It's been left behind, chances are you aren't coming back (petrol would be more than the cost of a new one surely), it's not a £500 handbag, it's just a plastic toy, another child is probably playing with it now, not 'theft by finding' at all.

Of course it's theft! Theft isn't determined by how valuable the item is. It would have been nicer for someone to hand this in rater than stealing (yes, stealing) a toy.

Catsmamma · 27/04/2014 16:34

I am not one of the world's most organised people but I have managed to raise three children without losing any of their special toys.

It is possible for them just to go awol over the side of the pushchair, but as for leaving them behind...totally avoidable, emergency evacuation situations aside.

It's called Carelessness and Lack of Attention to Detail, if that helps at all. Hmm

Icimoi · 27/04/2014 16:35

Second Chased, if somebody did take this toy it very definitely is theft.

WyrdByrd · 27/04/2014 16:37

Well you have my sympathy as the same thing happened to us half way through our stay at Butlins when some selfish twat one decided there was no need to hand in my DD's much loved, named Build a Bear

Thankfully we managed to replace her (just, she was discontinued a few weeks later) but 2 years later DD still gets upset if the subject comes up and I'm still fuming.

I hope you manage to replace Spiderman soon.

LynetteScavo · 27/04/2014 16:38

It was probably thrown in the bin, tbh.

ICanSeeTheSun · 27/04/2014 16:41

If the child who may have took it is under 10, then they are exempt from criminal responsibility.

Your own fault for not making sure precious toys where put away safe.

mymatemax · 27/04/2014 16:41

bloody hell love, keep your hair on! Its a toy... nobody died!

Yes its not great, it would be lovely if the staff picked up spiderman & put him to one side, but they didn't.

Don't go hating the world because between you, you can't keep tabs on Spiderman.
get over it!

SauvignonBlanche · 27/04/2014 16:41

The staff probably binned it.

AgaPanthers · 27/04/2014 16:42

If the item has been permanently abandoned it is NOT theft.

If I left my £5 Spiderman toy behind in an out-of-town shopping centre, I wouldn't go back for it, I'd just order another one:

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/The-Amazing-Spiderman-Night-Mission-Web-Line-3-3-4-Figure-New-/151217196417

So if someone else picked it up, it wouldn't be theft, because the object was abandoned, rather than merely temporarily forgotten.

Obviously the price matters because if it's sufficiently expensive then you wouldn't abandon it. E.g., if I left my £1000 camera in the airport in Singapore, I'd try and have it shipped back to me. If I left my £10 umbrella behind, I wouldn't.

differentnameforthis · 27/04/2014 16:43

Yes it is theft, but sadly others don't think so.

We leave toys on house arrest, or in the car when we go out. Now help now, op...but what's done is done.

Oh & always have a little look around before you depart the table

JeggingsHateMe · 27/04/2014 16:43

The toy was your responsibility and you're just venting to relieve your guilt of not looking after your belongings properly, understandable.

What is horrible about your post is the slagging off of the staff in a restaurant you have named.

lollilou · 27/04/2014 16:44

This happened to us at Longleat we had just spent ages with dd(then 4) choosing a lovely soft white tiger. We went to a picnic bench when a dressed up character person came into view, we took dd over, when we came back to the bench the leopard was gone. Who would do that? It was obviously new and even if a child took it wouldn't the parent/adults notice. I was very cross.