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To find Sundays the loneliest day of the week?

61 replies

Normalisavariantofcrazy · 27/04/2014 10:05

Friends are all engrossed in their own families
My family are all engrossed in each other and don't want to know me
The kids are at their fathers
DH goes and sees his FIL (who I really do not get on with so don't go)

And that leaves me. On my own. Yet again.

I hated Sundays when I was a lone parent for the same reason but expected DH to want to 'do' family things with US, he started to when we were dating but now we are married he's changed. Says he hates going out for the sake of it, doesn't like going for walks for the sake of walking and doesn't like going to the park with the kids (when we do have them)

So here I am, 10am on Sunday morning, wishing it to be Monday so I can go back to work for some company.

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balenciaga · 27/04/2014 10:11

Aww I don't like Sundays too

In our house it's because it's the one day we are all together and the expectations are too high to "do something" iyswim

My dh also doesn't like typical family stuff like taking dcs park etc which makes me sad :(

Could you compromise with your dh? Maybe he could see his dad earlier or later so you still have time to do something together?

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Normalisavariantofcrazy · 27/04/2014 10:12

I've tried asking him before (usually once every couple of months) but he won't.
I'm a very outdoorsy person and hate being inside. I'll happily go for a wander down the waterfront in the rain just to get out the house whereas he'd prefer sitting on the computer

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Rinkydinkypink · 27/04/2014 10:13

I hate the idea of people being lonely and on their own. Where about a do you live op?

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Normalisavariantofcrazy · 27/04/2014 10:14

In the south east.

I think I'm going to get back into going to church again, if not for the spiritual side of things then at least it's sociable

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missmagnum · 27/04/2014 10:14

Uanbu Sundays can be quite lonely. Can you make it 'your' day to be something to look forward to? Pamper day, can you go for a swim, sauna etc? Or join an exercise class?

drinkyourmilk · 27/04/2014 10:16

Normal- I'm near Brighton if you want company. Have waterproofs and pennies for tea and cake!

Rinkydinkypink · 27/04/2014 10:17

Well you couldn't be further away from me which is a shame.

Church is an idea. I'm not religious at all but can see the community attraction.

I wonder how much call there is in your area for a Sunday meet up? Get like minded people together.

Rinkydinkypink · 27/04/2014 10:18

I wish I lived in Brighton nowGrin. That sounds fab!

Thetallesttower · 27/04/2014 10:19

I love Sundays because it's the one day a week we don't all have to leap out of bed, get ready and be busy. I am peopled out by Sunday.

Why not go out and get the Sunday papers and a little treat from the supermarket, so you feel you have had human contact, then go home and watch Poirot on the telly and fall asleep? oh no I'm not going to do that obviously because that would reveal me to be a very middle-aged lady who needs a nap

Thetallesttower · 27/04/2014 10:21

There are walking groups that walk every Sunday if you like a proper ramble, they have ones for single/unattached people or just people whose partners don't like walking.

Plan a day out yourself?

Church is good and nice to sit and contemplate the week.

Blossum123 · 27/04/2014 10:22

What about asking friends who's partners do shift work on Sundays to go out - or use it as ur day to treat ur self and do what u enjoy doing x

HomeIsWhereTheHeartIs · 27/04/2014 10:35

I'm currently sat in my car outside of church waiting for DS to wake up so I can go inside.
Sundays are my most sociable day of the week seeing all my friends at church. Everyone likes a good up of tea and a chat together afterwards, and we often have picnic style lunches after the service. Get yourself to church OP!

susiedaisy · 27/04/2014 10:44

Yanbu op as a single parent I find Sundays hard. I dont have the money for meals out cinema trips shopping etc but need to stay local because I have teens and all my friends have partners so are busy doing family stuff. I try to remain positive and find bits to do but it's hard. Shame your dp won't compromise. If you booked something for the both of you would he go?

YellowStripe · 27/04/2014 10:59

Check out 'MeetUp' in your area - bound to be something on there for you!

MrsCaptainReynolds · 27/04/2014 11:14

The whole weekend is fairly busy family time for me -I kind of miss my single and childless Sundays. I used to go to the gym in the morning, have a half-assed Sunday work out, a sauna and then go to the cinema to watch whatever I pleased and eat pick n mix. You don't really appreciate the bliss of selfishly pleasing yourself (and choosing and eating all your own pick n mix) until you can't do it anymore. Can you think of how you can turn your uncommitted Sundays to your advantage?

Laymizzrarb · 27/04/2014 11:44

Why don't you see if there is anyway you can volunteer every Sunday at a local hospice or homeless centre? I 'm sure they would welcome an extra pair of hands to chat to people without visitors or friends.

onlyjoking9329 · 27/04/2014 11:54

I second the volunteering, you'd meet people and do something completely different.
It is a difficult day if you're single, It was known as shunday here when I was widowed. Shatterday wasn't much better.

2Kids2Cats1Dog · 27/04/2014 11:54

Drinkyourmilk what a lovely thing to offer Smile

OP hope you went somewhere nice!

MegBusset · 27/04/2014 12:09

Church is a good idea if you're that way inclined. Though personally I would pack my walking kit and take myself for a long walk wherever I fancied, stopping for a picnic or pub lunch along the way. In fact that sounds like my idea of bliss :)

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Normalisavariantofcrazy · 27/04/2014 12:11

Oh you are all so lovely!

drink thank you, I'm a fair way from Brighton (several hours) otherwise id be there like a shot.

I took myself off for a drive with the radio blaring round the local country roads until I got lost with the aim of seeing what weird roads would take me where. That was a nice thing to do.

I'm going to watch crap tv until the kids come home with the aim of joining the local church congregation from next week.

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crispyporkbelly · 27/04/2014 12:12

God, it sounds like bliss. A whole day to yourself. But I have a toddler so never get a minute alone all weekend. Hope you find something nice to do.

Have you actually asked your friends what they're up to? They might be bored too. I'm meeting a friend who would usually be in church but fancied giving it a miss for some lunch. You never know until you ask

subtleplansarehereagain · 27/04/2014 12:14

Is there a walking group where you live? Perhaps you could get one going?

Church is great for getting out of the house and many of them will make it a point to welcome new faces.

Lilaclily · 27/04/2014 12:15

I would get some good boxsets on netflix
& get lost in them
Drink fizzy wine in the bath with candles
Go to the cinema - I'd love to go & see Love Punch

crispyporkbelly · 27/04/2014 12:22

A girl after my own heart, Lilac :)

Yambabe · 27/04/2014 12:22

I love quiet Sundays, it means for once I get some time to myself!

DH is currently building a dragracing bike with a couple of his oldest mates so tends to spend most of the day in their workshop, DS who is adult but still lives at home works shifts in Sainsburys and Sunday is one of his regular shifts so there's just me and the dog and the cats at home.

I like to get up late, potter at a bit of housework, have an indulgent brunch (often american pancakes with maple syrup and bacon), then a nice long shower with smellies and plenty of moisturisier etc afterwards.

What happens next depends on the time of year or the weather. If it's nice I either go out on my motorbike for a few hours or take the dog for a good long walk. If the weather is pants I can curl up with a good book or my knitting, or catch up on some tv, browse the net for a bit.

I usually then order a takeaway to be delivered in time for everyone else to be home, and have a couple of glasses of wine before bedtime.

I guess it depends on your personality but I am comfortable with my own company and don't need human contact to have a contented day Smile

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