We've been together five years, married one. When we got together, I'd just started WeightWatchers and proceeded to lose 6st (from 16.10 to 10.10) over the next three years. I joined the gym and was pleased with it. Two late miscarriages and various life stuff meant that my weight increased to around 12.10 but I was still exercising and fairly healthy when we got married this time last year. DH has always been average height, average build but not an exerciser. In the last year, our relationship (bar sex) has improved loads. We're on an even keel with regard to money, which had been a sticking point in the past and we've agreed a loose plan for the future about which we're both optimistic and I feel like he's my best friend and teammate in all this. But, we've both put on a lot of weight in the last year and we're each 14st (and 5'8). This is the biggest DH has ever been, but he's never really mentioned it as something that bothers him. DH regularly tells me he finds me sexy and initiates sex. I enjoy sex when he initiates it but I never look at him like I did before and think that I fancy him. I can't remember the last time I initiated sex but I do masturbate alone so I don't think it's a hormone/libido thing. I don't know what I can do to 'make' myself fancy him. I haven't talked to him about this and he probably had no idea anything is wrong which makes me feel even worse. All I can put it down to is his gaining weight in terms of physical attractiveness, but what can I do about that?!