In pub... Partner talking football!

[Friedbrain]

AIBU to be bored and fed up and wanna go home.?????????

Don't normally come out with DP for this very reason....

Shoulda stayed at home

Get drunk and chat up the barman?

Lol Cat I like you're plan

Helpfully comment on the players' legs and how much of a silver fox Jose Mourinho is.

The conversation will move on very quickly

Or you could ask them to explain the offside rule using shots and then drink the shots?

I love football. I've had an evening in watching Star Trek TNG on DVD - nights down the pub are non-existent for me. Wanna swap?

Change the topic?

Loudly announce that the conversation is actually quite boring?

I'm well seasoned in doing both.

Do you smoke? I only ask because I do and I've found me going out for a cigarette with no warning usually jolts my dp back to reality...and that what he has been talking about is boring.

My ultimate trump card is to look like I'm listening and then at an opportunity moment casually say "I wasn't born then...". Everybody wants to change to subject instantly.

To clarify my last point, my dp is significantly older than me, as are his friends.

I just learned the offside rule and used to join in tbh. But football was preferable to the ex talking about work.

An evening of Star Trek sounds like bliss.

And you are chatting on here on your phone which is more anti social ..

springbreaker

I quickly wrote a post.. 30 seconds

But the next few weeks are brilliant, the title race for winners of the premier leagues is slow close! It's not boring.

Boring to you perhaps Alis, but then I'm sure that not everyone finds everything you say stimulating either. Demanding everyone changes topic to something that suits you is pretty damned rude as well.

Why can't people talk about what interests them with their partner? My ex used to prattle on about the finer points of computer networking, which held no interest to me. Likewise, he was happy to sit and let me go on about dogs which he couldn't care less about. It's just what happens in a relationship, sometimes you need to let the other person talk about what is important to them.

You might even learn something.

I was suggesting ways the op could deal with her current situation Midnite. That was the context in which I wrote my post.

Sorry if that passed you by.

To be clear, in real life I am quite capable of holding intelligent conversation that does not exclude others.

HTH

Just go home then?
He's having a good time, you're not. There are a few ways to rectify that, but the ones I could think of include making a bit of a scene/awkward conversation, which I wouldn't recommend. Just go quietly and leave him to talk footy.

So you "just wrote a post"
Messing with your phone in the company of others is still really rude. And you complain about the conversation? Do you always sulk when it doesn't revolve around you? If you don't share the interests of your partner and his friends perhaps you should have avoided this social situation by staying at home or going out with friends who have similar interests to you.

It was a light hearted thread....

Wow!

Some people take life way to seriously!

I stopped going to a certain pub with dh for this very reason . Drove me insane

Yes I always think if a partner in a relationship has any interests independent of their partner it's always a good idea for them to totally give up such interests and be banned from discussing them.

This is why you never hear any women boring on about shoes and make up and the suchlike.

Oh.

Much prefer an evening of sci fi than football. I hate football and if my dh mentions anything football related I just say 'I don't care' and he stops straight away. I won't even allow him to watch it at home unless I'm doing something else.

It's good to have interests but when you are sat around a table and they talk about it all night it's very rude! I wouldn't sit talking about make up all night and expect dh to be able to join in!

Look interested and during a pause say "this is the game with the big round ball, right?".

Sadly you have picked the wrong day and time to be in a pub of you don't like football. The ending of this season is the most exciting in years so it will generate even more conversation. (I am off to a pub to watch match soon and DH will babysit).

If you can't bring yourself to show polite interest or have tuned out completly have you a friend/ally in the pub who doesn't like football? if so club together and buy a bottle of wine and chat? don't worry the season ends 11th May........(then the world cup begins, hurrah!!)

RedFocus does your husband also ban any programme of yours he has no interest in?

"I won't even allow him to watch it at home unless I'm doing something else."

Blimey, can you imagine the flood of LTN if a poster said their DP didn't 'allow' them to watch Strictly or Eastenders or whatever because he didn't like it?!