WIBU to ask guests to BYOB to my wedding?

[mrso123]

DP and I are hope to get married next year and have just started planning the day. His parents own a farm and I would love to get a big gazebo and hold the reception there. I like how personal it would be and most of our friends and family are quite local so there would be no travelling costs for them.

We would be getting married at the local church which is 5 minutes away then go up to the farm and have everything else there - photos, bubbly, canapés, speeches, sit down meal, evening reception with band...basically everything that would happen if I booked a hotel/country house type venue.

Obviously there would be no drinks license, and I had hoped to not have to go through all the hassle of getting one and arranging a bar. So I thought of providing some drinks for my guests and saying that they can bring a bottle(s) with them.

Do you think that would be ok or is it a bit cheeky? How/where would you word it on invitation? Not sure if it would be appropriate on the front page

As a guest I personally would love it as it would mean I'm not spending £££ throughout the day!

Sounds like a great reception. I'd have no problem being asked to bring a bottle, I'd probably bring 6.

Do you have a sibling, or good friend that you could suggest a they buy a barrel of beer / cider, instead of a pressie ? Do you have any local brewers?

Why don't you have personalised corkscrews/bottle openers that double up as wedding favours? I'd be chuffed with a byob wedding, if I was invited to one.

That would be my concern - everyone would under estimate and the booze would run out half way through the evening

The wedding I went to where they did this everyone brought at least half a case, It was ace, everyone had something they liked to drink and it stocked the bride and groom's kitchen for months.

we just provided it. cheaper to provide a bottle of wine per person than two glasses with a meal. We kept an eye out for decent offers.

2 glasses with a meal paying hotel prices in comparison with supermarket, totally clear as usual

check out getting a barrel or two of beer, needs to be brought in a couple of days before the event to settle but usually goes down well. could a friend with a big car or van collect (labelled) booze from guests on way into church and do a run to the venue with it all? otherwise it will be a pain at the church, bottles clanking etc, plus photos, what to do with the mountains bottles / bags of booze. if you can afford it get a load of wine boxes perhaps look for a discount booze shop that could deliver ready chilled on the day or night before?

YANBU.This is a great idea! Congratulations too.x.

Wow this sounds like my ideal wedding.
I just wish I lived more rural and could borrow a barn

I'd be more than happy.

I go to a wedding expecting to buy my own, and dreading the cost of the bar. Especially as one of us is usually driving and the cost of non-alcoholic drinks require a second mortgage. I'd love to beasked to bring my own.

We tried to arrange transport via a bus company. 'Twas mega expensive. Instead we booked (and pre paid) a fleet of taxis. Perhaps not as much fun, but I think our guests appreciated the effort nevertheless.

Ps - I think byob is a great idea. A very "proper" older friend of mine went to a wedding like this and, years later, still raves about it.