For wanting to stick pins in my eyes when people write "on route"

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If you don't understand how to write something then don't try and be clever.

Everyone who knows my eldest DD (dyslexic etc) loves her, she has always work in Care, worked harder than anyone else (to overcome her literacy problems etc) to make it to Manager, mainly through her commitment to improve the lives of others. So no-one would dare point out her mistakes on FB etc. she can fight her own battles, though.

Unlike my youngest with moderate SN.

I tell myself that she will be able to integrate in society, but then I remember that somewhere there will be someone feeling smug and finding something to criticise/piss take her about.

You all need to get the fuck over your issues, you've got nothing to feel smug about or annoyed over.

Someone actually started a thread about a specific poster's grammar? Wow. Wish I had that much time on my hands!

Oh, OP, they are both "clever", beautiful (in reality) and decent people, they just can't put things correctly on paper.

Please do defriend, those that you have so little patience for, really don't need the likes of you in their lives.

DD1 and me/I (delete according to taste) are both dyslexic. Just because we have seen something written down many times does not mean it sticks.

Either we write like five year olds, or we risk making mistakes.

However, just because our spelling and grammar aren't perfect it doesn't mean we aren't as clever as you. It just means we can look down on you for your unpleasant smugness.

Nocomet, it's such a shame isn't it?

Because as we pass through this realm, what really matters is the ability to put things on paper, isn't it?

"daffodils" you don't pronounce it draw-ers do you?

Dyslexic or not, I'm glad that some people get to decide what offends or annoys them, because I certainly don't. Maybe, just maybe, this thread was started jokingly and your self-righteous bitching is as bad as jokes made at the expense of unspecified others. I don't remember anybody even remotely implying that dyslexia made you less intelligent than anyone else. Maybe people just need to rant somewhere anonymous rather than offend people that actually know.

They actually know*

Well technically, although "try and...." can be used in some contexts, your OP should have said "don't try to be clever" .....

This is AIBU, so everyone is entitled to an opinion.

I have given mine.

It has been said that these mistakes does gives others the right to feel smug.

As for "less intelligent", again the work done around hidden disabities and SN/LD's might as well not happened.

"Maybe, just maybe, this thread was started jokingly and your self-righteous bitching "

The definition of "self righteous", Self-righteous individuals are often intolerant of the opinions and behaviors of others.

But it's me that is self righteous?

Pacifically

Gives me the bloody rage every time!

Mind you, we have a family (verbal) usage of fox pox after a pseudo posh family acquaintance misread faux pas.......

silly me this was just one of the hilarious threads that goes over my head

even I noticed that mistake of the op's must be deliberate, tongue in cheek surely

Just because you believe you are in the right does not change the fact you are being intolerant.

These mistakes give others the right to feel smug? But you're allowed to look down on us?

I'd say that constitutes self-righteousness.

My comment was not aimed at you specifically, just at anyone who felt the need to flame what was obviously light-hearted camaraderie. I'd apologise if I offended anyone, but then being offended is subjective so in order not to offend I would have to be constantly quiet. Nothing was compelling you to either read or comment on this thread.

tut tut tut being intolerant to those that take the piss out of others who may struggle with a learning difficulty

I am a bad bad person

I'm not looking down on anyone, in the same way that I don't look down on Racists etc, my point was, perhaps those "feeling smug", should think abit more about their reasoning and may find (if they are decent people) that you should be thinking and behaving differently.

I think that I am a more decent person that's lots of others, but that isn't being self righteous.

Right wing groups, BNP, National Front, Hard Line Tories, Nazis always bleat about the "self righteous", when others call for decency, interestingly enough.

So, Freudian, what if the people who are botheed by these errors have a form of Austism or OCD, and actually find the errors distressing?

What if this is an outlet? What if finding it amusing is a lot better than finding it distressing?

(Yes actually, I do have OCD. One of my earliest symptoms was a very high level of distress at misspelled or mispronounced words. I would burst into tears, and then some fucker would come and deliberately mispronounce words to upset me more. I used to correct people to help them, so they wouldn't make the mistake again, even though I knew I would be hit by my parents for it. I found errors so embarrassing that I thought people would want to know, like letting them know their flies were undone.
Some things still bother me a lot. Some things are cute (I actually like fo pah, but fox pox is even better!)

I still don't understand why correcting things is so bad, or makes me smug.

But don't worry about any of that - carry on with your judging!)

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Ici some people read more widely than others. No-one knows everything anyway.

This thread is just smug and spiteful and nasty.

really is that what this thread is about laughing at ourselves

now that I have no problem with

now this may be hard for some to believe, I am not so stupid I can not see through a post that is mainly sneering at while adding hilarious antidotes such as I get so annoyed I want to smash my screen in

sneering at others .....

Hi all,

We'd love it if this could avoid becoming a thread-about-a-thread so if folk could refrain from directly linking to other threads that would be great.

If you've had the benefit of an excellent education, you're good at using language and enjoy doing so, hearing/reading it expressed incorrectly can make you wince inwardly in the same way as a skilled musician might feel about a novice picking up a violin. In one of my previous careers I used to be an editor. Old habits die hard and I can understand the irritation some feel.

However, you can be a literary genius and a cunt, or practically illiterate and wonderful. I know whose company I'd prefer.

Ultimately, language is a fluid construct. It changes almost constantly. There is no real right and wrong, just acceptance of the prevailing custom. That's why words such as "kowabunga" and "hashtag" have entered the Oxford English Dictionary. There is just as much legitimacy in using those (and probably more relevance to the masses in terms of using "hashtag") as there is in the correct use of en route or c'est la vie.

The purpose of language is to communicate effectively. As long as you can make yourself understood, that's all that really matters.

I think Pounding's music analogy is spot on.

To some people these mistakes really jar and grate, to others they are of no consequence and they don't even notice them.

I don't think it's bad to grumble about them in a general way but would say that pointing out errors in individual posts or threads is just mean.

I point out these kinds of mistakes in my DC's homework but I try to refrain from correcting DH's emails.