To judge someone on their toilet ?

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I know I probably am...

I am no snob, but ...

Jesus Christ, what is it with folk and not cleaning their shitters?

I immediately lose alot of respect for someone who has a filthy toilet. Ok, so a one off fine. Esspecially of kids live there. But I have been to a few mates houses and their toilet is always filthy. I now cannot eat there and always equate them as being grotty :/ its awful, I know.

Am I abnormal? AIBU?

Agreed Fiscal. Yes men "should" be doing it as well but they often don't and we are literally wiping up their shit for them and then judging each other on it.
I think OP has a good point too though about just general cleanliness and what is comfortable/acceptable.
For those who leave bleach in the toilet brush holder though I'm assuming you don't have toddlers? Surely getting hold of a manky toilet brush is better than getting hold of a bleach soaked one!?

My toilet brush is 'hidden' behind my toilets - plus I simply so not let dd play in toilets unattended. I always shut doors as my lil monkey is into everything !

I'm surprised at the almost unanimous judging on this issue. Yes it 'only takes a few minutes' to clean a toilet and bathroom, but the reality is that it needs doing once or twice a week daily is ridiculous and that's along with all the other necessary aspects of housework.

Some nut cases people seem to enjoy cleaning, but for those that don't, particularly if it is others that are making the mess and dirt and are not doing their share in dealing with it, the relentless grind trying to keep up with it all is so miserable that I can see why people don't bother.

But as a comparison, anyone who can't be bothered sourcing and preparing decent food day in and day out for themselves and their families and lives on processed junk as an alternative, is judged far less, with posters in the main being supportive and sympathetic.

In my mind, if you can only manage to do 'just enough' instead of 'everything', putting decent food on the table is far more important than cleaning to such a high standard.

"I actually cannot believe nobody else picked up on this! Gloved hands down bog, and then WASHED in the basin, for the toilet remnants to be liberally scattered all over the basin and surrounds - hand soap/gel? Hand towel? Toothbrushes?! - and then hung up to drip dry onto the floor.....?

And people think this is better than a brush?!?!?!

I can see that a brush is not perfect, but this is so not the solution, right? "

Ok, firstly- i dont know about anyone else but my bath hand rails are on the inside of the bath. No floor dripping (of clean water )

Secondly, where do you wash your hands after using the toilet? I use the basin. Do you go outside or something?

Also, yuck to keeping toothbrushes out in the bathroom! Mine are in the cupboard. Even the children get why! And the handsoap- the one you touch after using the toilet? The one you touch directly before washing your hands?

Lastly, considering that my toilet (and basin) is washed at least twice a day and only after soaking in cleaning products for 15 minutes and being flushed, and that it has a constant presence of bleach both in the bowl and in the flub water (flushed after every use) do you honestly think my gloves are more germy than your hand after you've wiped your shitty arse? Really? Or do you use disposable glove to wipe?

get a tiolet duck thingymagig. the manky bit goes down with the flush.

i don't clean mine as much as i should, but i do if i am expecting visitors. I would not expect anyone else to have to put up with our shittiness.

And yes it is me that cleans it. No way would me DH think to bother although if i ask him i would. TBH i'm happy for him to take the bins out so all's fair

I just want to add... My dh cleans the toilet after use. I would never , ever clean up his shit.

I run around picking up after him screaming at him as I do but I would never clean his shit. I cannot belive people would leave shit stains in the toilet anyway. Let alone do someone else to clean. To me it just shows no dignity or respect ...

got nothing to do with dignity or respect. Blimey, i'm a bit more 'natural'. I don't like bleach and chemicals particularly, hate loo brushes, and i'm not going to have to 'touch' anyone elses poo (the seat i agree has to be spotless). You only have to look at it! How would you cope in an 'eco-loo' with sawdust and a hole in the ground??
I would have far more respect for someone with an eco-loo than someone with a bleach stinking super shiny modern one.
How is it undignified to 'poo'. We all do it love, it's called being human.

Honestly, got better things to worry about

It's disrespectful to the other toilet users to leave your shit for them to have to smell and see and use the toilet, never mind leaving it for someone else to clean?! Thats a pretty clear message you are sending someone if you leave your shit for them to clean. I have no DH or DP but both dcs know to clean any mess they leave or to ask for me to help them.

i honestly don't agree.... use the loo and at the end of the day if it's 'dirty' a squirt of bleach overnight and it's gone. respect doesn't come into it for me

Nobody's allowed to clean my toilets unless I'm training the teenagers. I had to untrain the husband even.

Leave my bogs alone.. I have a system and really don't give a toss about skiddies

How are poop skids even a problem? Can't you just... you know... poop in the water and avoid all that? Or turn up the water pressure/flush twice so that it washes everything down?

Respect and dignity come into it because why should other people hve to wee /poo in someone else's muck?!

Excrement is waste - hence it needs disposed of properly. As for an Eco - loo. I wouldn't cope. Simple.

Princess - you are lucky, some toilets are designed differently and how you sit in them and the strength of flush can all determine skidders!

Wow! what a thread! that I've read in its entirety

My loo is nearly always clean, but we have limescale probs which seem to change throughout the year; who knows why! but I do deal with them.

I use a variety of cleaning stuff and a brush which is never cruddy! my Dc's don't usually leave skids and I've never taught them to use the brush (it's mine!! and mine alone...bit OCD about it).

Ds sits to wee and although when about to go off to secondary, I said he could stand if he wanted to, he said he prefers to sit. Good lad! he still sits at nearly 16 and I have never ever had urine spills from him.
The only thing I do get that I can't seem to avoid at all are green screws in the toilet seat/lid hinges.

Once stayed with a bf who had crystallized urine on the outside of the bowl and on the carpet. Yuk!!
My original bathroom had carpet in when I bought the house and when I pulled it up, it absolutely stank! and took a lot of floorboard bleaching to get rid of the stench! filthy. And I'm not at all a spotless princess.

Please please please can people stop saying "i'm a bit OCD about..."

For starters it doesnt even make sense- you are a bit obsessessibe compulsive disorder? How can you be a bit disorder? That's like saying "i'm a bit autism"

Secondly- it really grates on those of us who do actually have OCD and struggle with it on a daily basis. Being particular about your bog brush is not anywhere near te same as having OCD.

Actually, not that it's anyone's business, I do have it. Some parts of it are not about lining everything up in a straight line though!

So yes! I am a bit OCD about my toilet brush. Or maybe it's just another facet to my personal OCD tendencies.

And that! has just set off another of my repetitive ones! don't assume everyone is 'jumping on the bandwagon' of just saying something for the sake of it!

Yy sillybilly.

I never understand why someone who actually has it would use the old "I'm a bit OCD" about such and such. It's annoying enough when people who don't understand OCD say it.

On a whoooooole other note ... Carpet in a toilet makes me wanna vom

"Some parts of it are not about lining everything up in a straight line though!"

I'm aware of that. I have it.

It surprises me that as a sufferer you use that phrase because it's really well known as a phrase used by people who are very ignorant about OCD and believe it to mean people who are very houseproud.

"don't assume everyone is 'jumping on the bandwagon' of just saying something for the sake of it!"

The people who use that phrase really are.

princess I poop in the water but still leave skids. And those of you saying you don't need a brush because a squirt of bleach left overnight will sort it, not if it's under the water line it won't! I accept that I'm probably slightly unusual in this aspect (thank you Crohn's) but can't be the only one in the world! surely?

Well clearly you are wiser than I am. And why did you pick on me? I wasn't the first to use the term.

I come from a family of autistic males and OCD sufferers (both sexes). We try not to take the OCD too seriously amongst ourselves though, so perhaps I am less sensitive about it than others are? I understand that there are varying degrees of it, but really, I wasn't trying to make light of OCD for others; it was just that I am funny about anyone other than me using the brush.
In real life, I never tell anyone that I have it and I doubt they realise I do.
And just in case you are wondering: I count, I do things in 4's (was in 3's up until age 7, but I decided it should be an even number as evens are prettier than odds), I hoard things and I am overly possessive of certain things. That I know of, my Dad had it, my Brother has it and I have it. I'm hoping my children don't have it and so far, there is nothing to suggest they do, but I hid it as a child, so who knows?! currently our family has 4 autistic children (well, the youngest generation, 2 severely) and two adults (my generation). The other two adults are now deceased.

I didnt pick on you solo.

"Please please please can people stop saying "i'm a bit OCD about..." "