MN is the same as NM

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I have lost count of the threads that have:

hubby
preggo or preggers (except preggers and pen cuz ]
hun
mummy
daddy
poor grammar (I done it or I was)

I have never been on NM. So AIBU?

Jen.

I don't say Mom plus I'm not confused much

Exactly TillyTellTale.

They say: "confused" and we say "adding richness to the language with new-minted, mercurial articulacy."

Except for "mom".

Which I still think is an Americanism.

I've spent two weeks listening to "Diary of a Wimpy Kid" as dd has played it. "Mom ... mom ... mom ..." It really doesn't sound at all like a midlands accent.

I get the impression that American motherhood, or "momhood", is expected to be a whole lot better-groomed than British mums, mams, mas, mummies, and mothers. I think they go around with handkerchiefs and bacterial spray in their handbags, neat creases in their chinos, and well-brushed hair. They always have a reasonable way of explaining (and remedying) complex moral situations (whilst simultaneously advancing the autonomy and individualism of their child). I have a sneaky suspicion that is is a sense of cultural inadequacy that makes my lip curl at "mom".

I will now imagine all American mothers as Jennifer-Aniston-with-a-pram, except for the ones on my facebook list, whose photo albums I have seen.

The thing I find irritating about NM are the moderators that come on threads and give patronising advice with over usage of the OPs name found it really strange and claustrophobic.

I was banned from NM

My understanding of the Midlands Mom thing is that it's from a specific part of the Midlands - area south of Brum perhaps. Possibly around Worcester (if that is indeed where I think it is ...). I need a map to be sure. And in fact I've never heard it said, only read it years ago on an online forum. No, it wasn't NetMoms!

And, yes I have encountered one or two bewildered American moms. Less sure about 'scruffy'though. Kettles and pots etc.

I think scruffy And bewildered coups describe any mother, mum, mummy mam or mom in the first couple of weeks after birth. In a "what the fuck just happened there and I could fall asleep standing up" kind of way.

My lovely friend from Walsall says (and writes) "Mom".

MN used to deal very effectively with grammar issues.

That's now been dismantled, with the key tipping point deletion from "Pedants' Corner" this weekend.

Far too many twee vocabulary choices these days. The MN acronyms - like the acronyms of any site or indeed any other community slang or idiolect - are a marker of a unified community.

When there are lots of newbies who aren't interested in joining MN in the full sense of becoming part of the community, and instead just expect the community to change and fit them, thn the community changes and (counterintuitively) becomes less inclusive. MN has been pretty unpleasant in the last week or so. I'm getting close to flouncing, or at least having a break.

Does MN have 'grammar issues?'?

Oh and sorry for too many question marks.....

I've got family in the Black Country who write and say 'Mom'.

I wasn't aware grammar issues needed to be dealt with very effectively . Most posters have always just read past the spelling and apostrophe and paragraph mistakes to give help and chat to the poster and be generally nice and friendly?

Haven't they?

No idea Juniper, I was unaware of any grammar issues of great importance on here.

I would much rather have nice and friendly than perfect spelling and grammar.

Exactly. Life's too short to strop at people for not being as clever as you.

I just like to have a laugh.

I thought originally that the Hun in nethuns was a weird reference to ww1,as in they dictate to posters in a rather dictatorial fashion.
I went over once,came back to the grown ups' table. Bounty adverts? Ffs

There are no grammar issues on MN that I'm aware of.

Pedants' Corner, has, however, changed over the last year or so. Before it did use to be a little place where the finer points of language could be discussed. Now, sadly, it has rather been overtaken at times by the kind of poster who thinks it's funny to take the piss out of others.

NM, MN, Babycentre. Of course they are all more or less the same. A ticker here, a biscuit there, an ad for Johnson and Johnson round the corner.

Netmums are way more chilled and easy going than Mumsnet. They don't seem to attract the same volume of uptight excuse-me-while-I-polish-my-parenting-medal posters as Mumsnet.
It's not as interesting or varied as here, so I prefer MN, but I do post on both, and find them to be far less judgemental of other parents. They're a nice bunch imo.