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Thinking it's crackers to change your name.

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MNwidowed · 18/04/2014 13:35

I've been trawling through the vastness of planet mumsnet the last few days and something I notice alot is people change their name when they have something, generally controversial to say. Why? I know people like to keep up appearances so they look better, different etc than what they are, but in a virtual world? Come on! surely thats going a bit far. It seems people have a pseudonym for a pseudonym. It just seems a bit crackers to me.

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MNwidowed · 18/04/2014 16:38

Yes I was mnwidow. someone told me I can't an MNwidow so I thought I changed it to the correct spelling, apparently not.

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MNwidowed · 18/04/2014 16:39

She's said go on MN and ask. She likes the fact I get virtually beaten up. lol

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Sparklingbrook · 18/04/2014 16:41

Well that's not very nice. Does she know your NN and you hers? You could send her a PM.

fluffyraggies · 18/04/2014 16:43

Welcome to MNwidowed Grin

Apparently ''A widow is a woman whose husband has died, while a widower is a man whose wife has died.'', so you need to be MNWidower really.

One more name change and you'll have it down! Grin

Love it.
Genuinely.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 18/04/2014 16:46

Because you're provoking sarcasm and animosity.

HTH.

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MNwidowed · 18/04/2014 16:48

Yes we know each others NN. I don't think I'll PM her, I think I'll shout down at her that I'm getting ripped apart again, I imagine she'll join in on one of them one day. I'm sure she will not change her name lol.

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Sparklingbrook · 18/04/2014 16:50

So you are upstairs Mnetting and she is downstairs doing the same? Confused

If you think this is 'getting ripped apart' you have a lot to learn about MN.

MrsMNWidowed if you are reading this have a word will you?

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MNwidowed · 18/04/2014 16:56

Have to be honest I've re-read what I wrote and I really don't think I'm provoking anyone but what is in my head, doesn't always get written down to well. So if you feel provoked then I apologise.
As for my name change I think I'll just change it to Bob (formerly known as MNwidowed) seems a lot easier, or just Bob. This is harder than I thought. Lol.

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StickEm · 18/04/2014 16:57

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Sparklingbrook · 18/04/2014 16:59

You are making it way harder than it needs to be.....

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MNwidowed · 18/04/2014 17:02

Well if I go downstairs she will stay on MN and I'd probably just stick the telly on, so not much different really. Plus she's getting some peace 1 of our little tonks are with me and the other 2 outside, all good for the time being. Oh and I know this is not being ripped apart. I maybe dyslexic but I'm not naive :D

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MNwidowed · 18/04/2014 17:03

just a forum novice, I think thats my problem here.

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fluffyraggies · 18/04/2014 17:10

Keep plugging away 'bob'. You wont be a novice for long. (maybe you'd find ''Chat'' gentler for starters?)

member · 18/04/2014 17:12

I'd NEVER suggest dh joined the same forum as me & can't imagine he'd want to either Confused

Burren · 18/04/2014 17:12

Forum novices, like new kids at school, generally keep their heads down and absorb the atmosphere and figure things out for themselves, rather than claiming established users of said forum are 'crackers' for doing something widespread and commonsensical

I see you say you understand the rationale behind name changing now, but surely it was obvious all along? Did you really imagine people were somehow trying to make themselves 'look good' in an anonymous online world? You sound as if you have some very strange ideas about women and female-dominated online spaces.

Sparklingbrook · 18/04/2014 17:13

So there's 3 DC in the house and you are both busily Mnetting MNWidowed? Confused Maybe one of you should take them out or something? Just a suggestion. Confused

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MNwidowed · 18/04/2014 17:18

For you not to suggest to your husband to join the same forum is your opinion, not everyone's. But anyway funny you write that Burren, I've just spoken to my wife and she has told my MN/forum etiquette is all wrong and to start it off with my opinions being put first before any useful advise i could give to other MN's is wrong. So i shall start again and wait to open a thread until I feel i'm deserving of it.

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MNwidowed · 18/04/2014 17:22

Ha ha, does sounds a bit dodgy that. Not at 17.20, tea's on now and they have been out playing most of the day. Lazy day for husband and wife. Not a usual thing may I add.

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TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 18/04/2014 17:23

Tip from an old timer: you may want to avoid Bob in your NN.

RyvitaSesame · 18/04/2014 17:24

It's not crackers, it's protecting your anonymity. Anybody that doesn't do it is crackers because on mumsnet, posts remain there for every and you've no control to delete them like on other fora. That is scary.

SanityClause · 18/04/2014 17:26

Why's that Doctrine? Is it something to do the The Vagina Monologues?

Sparklingbrook · 18/04/2014 17:29

I don't mind my posts remain forever (or 90 days in Chat). I am not crackers i don't think.

BlueSkyCrystal · 18/04/2014 17:40

I should think Ryvita was the authority on crackers

RyvitaSesame · 18/04/2014 17:42

Ha ha! very good.

Suzannewithaplan · 18/04/2014 17:43

I dont think it's at all crackers.

The ability to be anonymous is often blamed for much of the nastiness that goes on with the internet, vile comments posted on news web sites, you tube etc.
I find it interesting that even though we can name change with impunity on here people are largely convivial