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Sally40000 · 18/04/2014 10:04

Does anyone else have the problem that their husband always has a canteen, and plus often eats out at lunch with friends. I am part-time and work in a tiny firm, no canteen or sandwich shop near. So I ALWAYS make the effort to take in something to microwave.

A further problem! A recent email he sent to a very old friend of his about a b/party has elicited the response from her "If you cannot come, we will of course meet in the Swan" !!! er.. nothing was mentioned to me.

I don't think there is anything going on between them as such, only we are trying pretty hard to economise, two children at uni and one with a huge mortgage - so we never never get to eat out in the evening and it doesn't seem fair that he has turned out to have been eating some lovely pub lunches without even saying - because I thought he was at the work canteen.

Should I start packing him sandwiches please??

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firesidechat · 19/04/2014 17:03

I think she's just treating them to other things SoleSource because of the high mortgage etc.

I must admit that I wouldn't be treating my adult children to stuff that I couldn't afford for myself. I will sometimes treat my grown up children to a meal out, but that's because we can afford it and their dad and I eat out regularly.

I also don't have a clue who my husband has lunch with, although I suppose he might mention it if it was a mutual friend.

I have a slight tendency to martyrdom myself OP, so I can sympathise a bit, but honestly I think you need to find a way to do something that makes you happy and stop worrying about what everyone else is up to.

Obviously ignore what I've just said if there are bigger concerns than pub meals and packed lunches. Is there?

firesidechat · 19/04/2014 17:04

Oh and when I say treat them I mean we all go together.

Sally40000 · 19/04/2014 22:38

No definitely not paying their mortgage, Solesource, and not taking them out to meals, just got them a few treats now and then.

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