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I clicked yes to a Facebook invite, without asking someone has bought me a ticket

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SuzzieScotland · 18/04/2014 09:00

I clicked yes to a Facebook invite, without asking someone has bought me a ticket.

I didn't ask them for this ticket and I had no idea it would cost 60 quid and now they are asking me to transfer the money.

60 is too much just to spend on two hours out.

Does clicking yes on a fb invite expect someone else to buy a ticket? The description was just basic and asked if people wanted to go.

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QOD · 18/04/2014 09:13

Oh dear. Sort of see both sides, was there no mention of price?

londonrach · 18/04/2014 09:16

I would thought the person buying the ticket would email those expressing interest with full details and firm they didn't press yes before buying. Doing it via fb is ur.

sooperdooper · 18/04/2014 09:18

I'd expect the person to ask before buying you a ticket, did it say how much tickets were? Yanbu

BlackDaisies · 18/04/2014 09:21

I would simply post, sorry, if 60 had been mentioned I wouldn't have said yes. This is too much for me, but enjoy your night out. Buying you a ticket without checking with you first was not on at that price.

Sirzy · 18/04/2014 09:21

Why did you click yes?

But yes they should have checked first unless it said in the event "When I have numbers I will buy the tickets for you all and you can pay me back"

annielouisa · 18/04/2014 09:22

Thats why I avoid clicking Facebook invites and speak directly to the organiser.

Wishfulmakeupping · 18/04/2014 09:25

A friend brought the ticket without checking first? If you didn't know there was a cost involved then just say wouldn't have clicked yes if you'd have realised it was 60 quid you can't afford it

OnaPromise · 18/04/2014 09:25

It depends what it says on the original invitation? If no mention of ticket price or buying of tickets then you are nb.

Can it be sold to someone else?

BiscuitCrumb · 18/04/2014 09:31

Why did you click yes. You accepted the invitation. Lesson learned I think - you won't be doing that again.

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SuzzieScotland · 18/04/2014 09:44

Well I clicked yes as it was a "anyone fancy going to see this at this date and time", didn't mention the price at all.

I value the friendship, so will no doubt just pay it go out and probably be thinking about the price rather than enjoying it.

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OldVikingDudeHidMyTubeSocks · 18/04/2014 09:47

Whoops.

That's why there is a 'maybe' button to click!

BrightlyColouredFish · 18/04/2014 09:47

The invitation was 'asking', wasn't it? That's what an invite is.

Agree with others, lesson learned.

ihavenonameonhere · 18/04/2014 09:50

How was the invite worded?

I get invited to lots of events, even if I clicked yes I wouldnt take that as go ahead and get me a ticket!

Shallan · 18/04/2014 09:50

Tbh if they specified what it was, date and time, they probably assumed you'd google it for details before accepting the invite. I think if you click "yes" it's reasonable for them to assume you want a ticket. If you wanted more details first you should click "maybe".

Might be worth just mentioning to the friend that it's a bit more expensive than you'd realised, and asking whether anybody else might like to take that ticket? I think though if there's nobody else, then you probably have to just suck it up.

BlackDaisies · 18/04/2014 09:53

Why don't you privately message the person and say that if anyone else wants to go can they have your ticket as 60 is too much for you really, but if not you'll go. Then add "that'll teach me to check first". Although I still think really that your friend should have checked first, especially at that price and your message might make her think twice next time too.

RedRoom · 18/04/2014 09:57

Asking if people fancy going is not the same as asking if people want a £60 ticket buying on their behalf. The former is only an expression of interest. Firm bookings and costs should be double checked. YANBU.

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SuzzieScotland · 18/04/2014 09:58

Thanks, I'll try to see if anyone else can make use of ticket.

Annoyingly just looked up the prices, and I'm entitled to a concessionary ticket at 25! Maybe its a money thing, 60 isn't a massive amount for some people.

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CrushingCandies · 18/04/2014 09:59

Of course you shouldn't pay. The person booking should have confirmed before. What if you had bought your own tickets?

BlackDaisies · 18/04/2014 10:02

In that case, you could simply reply "that's ok, I've already got a ticket thanks" and get your concessionary one. That's a perfectly reasonable response!

BrightlyColouredFish · 18/04/2014 10:02

An invite is pretty clear.

If it was a 'fancy this', then I imagine your friend would have just posted that. They didn't, they sent an invite.

LineRunner · 18/04/2014 10:03

Agree of course you shouldn't pay. Tell the friend that if you want a ticket you'll get your own at the concessions rate and they will need to sell it on to someone else.

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SuzzieScotland · 18/04/2014 10:05

Thanks, I'll try to see if anyone else can make use of ticket.

Annoyingly just looked up the prices, and I'm entitled to a concessionary ticket at 25! Maybe its a money thing, 60 isn't a massive amount for some people.

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MarysDressSways1 · 18/04/2014 11:56

Just tell them you've already got a ticket and get one at the concessionary price. Simple.

FracturedViewOfLife · 18/04/2014 11:56

Of course you shouldn't pay her.

I have been invited to all sorts on Facebook. This has never happened. Even for things like festivals and gigs that are going to sell out. Everybody sorts themselves out.

The only time someone buys all the tickets is when there has been a detailed conversation away from Facebook about it.

rollonthesummer · 18/04/2014 12:06

What is it for? That might us give some sort of idea? Of course you shouldn't pay £60 if you qualify for a £25 one. I can't think of many things where the discount would be that much.

I also can't imagine organising an event where I fork out £60 for tickets (how many has this person paid for) without checking that a) they definitely want me to buy them (and haven't already got them themselves) and b) they don't qualify for such massive reductions!

What is it?

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