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I clicked yes to a Facebook invite, without asking someone has bought me a ticket

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SuzzieScotland · 18/04/2014 09:00

I clicked yes to a Facebook invite, without asking someone has bought me a ticket.

I didn't ask them for this ticket and I had no idea it would cost 60 quid and now they are asking me to transfer the money.

60 is too much just to spend on two hours out.

Does clicking yes on a fb invite expect someone else to buy a ticket? The description was just basic and asked if people wanted to go.

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SuzzieScotland · 18/04/2014 12:12

The drowned man, an nt thing.

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Thomyorke · 18/04/2014 12:15

It depends on what the tickets where for, if it was for a quick selling event then by saying yes I would expect to pay, had similar for a beyonce concert and for 1D tickets for DD and her friends. If however it was for an event where timing not so important, I would see the first invite as a numbers request and a second to confirm before booking.

rollonthesummer · 18/04/2014 12:15

I think the person was daft to buy tickets without checking. Are you a student? Say that thanks but you qualify for a discout so will get your own ticket.

ScrambledEggAndToast · 18/04/2014 16:44

I definitely think saying you already have a ticket is a good idea. Then you have the option to either buy a concessionary ticket or not go. Depending on how it was worded, I think the person buying should have definitely checked before buying tickets. It's a lot of money and people could actually have bought the tickets anyway and not need them.

cathyandclaire · 18/04/2014 16:49

Oh I've seen it and it was fantastic, a real experience, so worth the money if you can possibly justify it :)

nostress · 18/04/2014 17:08

I know its not the same but I get really really angry about people clicking yes to FB invites then not bloody turning up. For my 40th I booked a function room/band/food in a nice hotel. The buffet price was £15/head. I sent out a number of messages asking people to confirm/or not for numbers for the buffet. Then so many didn't turn up after saying yes that it basically cost me £300. Fuckers. Then what really pissed me off was the fact that afterward I had FB messages saying things like, 'seen the pics, looks like you had a great time' FUCK OFF! The food didn't get eaten and the hotel had to chuck it away as it was a hot buffet to start with.... I didn't mind the people who had genuine reasons for not coming (flooding & relative had a heart attack) but the rest. Grrr

WhoAteAllTheEasterEggs · 18/04/2014 19:02

No way should you pay that! I get invited to 'events' and all sorts on nights out, you either click yes, no or maybe. Clicking yes you want to go does NOT mean someone should pay for a £60 ticket on your behalf if there's been no mention of money on the invite, that's outrageous!
If the money had been mentioned when you clicked yes, then fair enough you should pay. If it hadn't been mentioned though then no, it shouldn't be bought without confirming with you first. Bloody cheek.

CoffeeTea103 · 18/04/2014 19:13

Are you sure the price wasn't mentioned and you just didn't see it. I don't think people would just go ahead without asking.

diddl · 18/04/2014 19:22

Gosh!
That just sounds like a general enquiry to me!
And I'm surprised they got a ticket without asking for sure.
Get you own discounted ticket.
If it's that good, the other will be snapped up somehow!

UrethraFranklin · 18/04/2014 22:29

Can't you just say you had already sorted your own ticket out?

MostWicked · 18/04/2014 22:59

There is no way that accepting an invitation should commit you to an unspecified amount of money!
I would buy the cheaper ticket and say thanks, I've already got a ticket.

Howmuch101 · 18/04/2014 23:25

This is shocking. No you shouldn't pay. An invite on FB IMO is kind of a test to see who has the intention of going somewhere if they can.

Howmuch101 · 18/04/2014 23:26

Very very very informal - and FB users know this.

HopefulHamster · 18/04/2014 23:30

Maybe they already had an extra ticket and are just hoping you'll swallow the price. Don't! I would never imagine expressing interest on facebook (to something you could buy your own tickets to), would lead to someone else automatically buying them for you. Nuts.

thefruitwhisperer · 18/04/2014 23:31

The Drowned Man is amazing. Take the £60 and sell it nearer the time, you will easily make money on it. In the meantime buy your own £25 ticket!

cerealqueen · 19/04/2014 00:30

Agree with others, they had already bought and trying to sell it on!

sykadelic · 19/04/2014 00:53

Are you sure the ticket has actually been purchased?? Maybe the person is asking for money BEFORE buying... I know I couldn't lay out £60 per person for an unspecified number of people and I certainly wouldn't and then just hope to be paid back...

I would reply and say - I can get one for $25 so I'll get mine separate.

MrsWombat · 19/04/2014 05:27

What sykadelic said. I would message back, assuming the person wants money upfront and say your ticket will only cost £25 so you will get yours separately.

They also do group discounts. Buy 9 tickets get the 10th free. Is the facebook organiser passing on the discount?

lottieandmia · 19/04/2014 05:39

There is no way you should have to pay this if the person on facebook was not explicit that those clicking yes would have a ticket bought at £60. I think they are trying it on tbh.

justgirl · 19/04/2014 07:30

I would never in a million years take a "yes" on an FB invite as gospel, and I wouldn't expect tickets to be bought. What if you'd clicked yes, and then bought a ticket yourself like a normal person for crying out loud?

RedFocus · 19/04/2014 08:39

What kind of a person just buys a bunch of people tickets when price or payment hasn't even been discussed? Op just tell them they'll have to find someone else to go as had you known they were £60 you wouldn't have agreed so it's their own fault.

rollonthesummer · 19/04/2014 10:09

How many tickets has the person bought?! I would say that's extremely daft!

Topaz25 · 19/04/2014 10:57

If I clicked yes on a Facebook invite to an event I would expect to buy my own ticket. I wouldn't want someone to commit me to a £60 spend without even asking, they are BU! Can't they sell the ticket?

ShatnersBassioonOfChrist · 19/04/2014 11:09

The invitation didn't mention price, or even that tickets would be bought for you? It won't even be awkward telling them you don't want it.

CeruleanStars · 19/04/2014 13:05

I wouldn't expect to pay no, I'd expect to get my own ticket. That said whenever I respond to an invite on FB I'd also add a comment to say I'd got/was getting my own ticket to avoid any confusion.