Aibu to ask my husband to stop playing football?

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Dh has come home from football with an injured foot which he suspects may be fractured - I am beyond angry! 2years ago (almost to the bloody day) he broke his leg at football, really bad break 2 surgeries months apart with lots of metalwork. Off work for nearly 8 months. Big financial implications as, at the time, we were saving for a deposit for our new house so this massively affected what we were able to save (now in debt to cover shortfall). Afterwards he promised no more football, couldn't risk another long period off work for the sake of a hobby blah blah! But obviously he gradually got back into it " just a bit of training to get my fitness back" Now this! We are now living in new house with considerably bigger mortgage and now have a Dd. Aibu to ask him to stop his hobby as we just can't afford him to be off work again? I genuinely don't know if I am because this is something he loves.

Yabu. Sport should be a part of life. Injuries can happen in any aspect of life. You can't control him and demand that he doesn't play a sport he loves.

As someone with a fairly dangerous hobby, I would find anyone trying to stop me doing it to be highly unreasonable. However, you clearly need some better solution with regard to ensuring an injury doesn't scupper everything...

Can you afford some kind of income protection insurance?

It's a worry but there is an injury risk with any kind of exercise, and exercise is good for you, I can see why you are worried in view of the history but in the long term it could be just as bad to stop him playing.

I think you both need to consider the risks and come up with a plan to deal with them so that you feel secure.

YABU

He could injure himself stepping off a kerb and so could you

At least he's getting some healthy exercise.

Yabu

I agree with you, but I started a similar thread about my DP playing rubgy and being injured yet again recently and got told IABU.

DP broke his hand and had to take time off work. Someone stood on it. He said he would give up then. He did for a while but gradually started playing again.

A few weeks ago he bruised his ribs badly so had time off work again!

YABVU

I think YABU as well, for all the reasons others have said.

I put an end to the football

If the genders were reversed I reckon many posters would deem that controlling.

YABU. Far better for him to be fit, and also part of a group that relax and socialise together, for his overall wellbeing, than being resentful at being 'made' to give it up.
He could injure himself doing DIY or, as others have said, simply tripping of a kerb just as easily as playing sport.
My dd plays a LOT of sport, but the only break she has had was when she wasn't doing any of her sports, but just tripped and fell.

Yabu. Exercise fends off all types of medical problems, both physical and mental. I imagine that DHs life is heavily enriched by playing and the injuries he does sustain are minor in comparison to the benefits.

I'm also not of the belief that an adult can give or remove consent for another adult to do something they want.

I don't think the words I put an end to and mutual cooperation and agreement sit too well together personally.

withdraw consent to play football

Jesus Christ on a fucking bike. I really have heard it all now.

Ok, when, I'll rephrase. Have no right to consent regarding another adults individual hobbies. If someone tried telling me I couldn't go out with my friends and do what I want to do, I'd be long gone.

May I refer you to my first post on this thread.

When, then you and I are incompatible if we were to be in a relationship. That is fine. Good evening to you.