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To be wanted for more reasons than just my breasts?

43 replies

Writerwannabe83 · 17/04/2014 10:14

The man in my life is obsessed with them. Always grabbing them, appearing to think they are his property etc. I'm pretty sure my breasts are the only things that matter in his eyes. He very rarely looks at my face when I'm talking to him and he is always gazing at my chest - sometimes he's discreet about it but other times not. I'm pretty sure he loves me but sometimes I wish I was more to him than just a pair of boobs.

I'm hoping that as our time together progresses he will realise there is more to me than just my breasts and will enjoy spending time with me just for being me, but as it is right now nothing seems to appease his bad mood unless he has access to them and I can't help but feel he's just using me.

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PeachTrees · 17/04/2014 10:18

Hmm your partner is vile

MrsBennetsEldest · 17/04/2014 10:19

The joys of breastfeeding.:)

Loopylouu · 17/04/2014 10:19

I have a woman in my life who is the same.

She doesn't even have to be touchig my breasts, as long as I pop one or both out and she is within range of them she's happy.

She never gazes at my face either, just my chest.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 17/04/2014 10:19

He's a twat and you should dump him right now, he won't improve.

He sounds grim, sorry.

exexpat · 17/04/2014 10:20

If the 'man' in your life is more than six months old, you have a problem. If not, don't worry, the breast-feeding usually gets less obsessive a few months down the line...

MrsBennetsEldest · 17/04/2014 10:20

It is your baby you are talking about, right? Or have I read it all wrong?

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Writerwannabe83 · 17/04/2014 10:20

Oh loopy - I feel your pain. We should start a support group or something Smile

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 17/04/2014 10:20

Oh fuck,I've misread that.

I am a tit!

BuzzardBird · 17/04/2014 10:21

Ltb...leave the baby Grin

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 17/04/2014 10:21

please don't dump your baby, he will improve Grin

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Writerwannabe83 · 17/04/2014 10:21

Definitely talking about my baby Smile

I was just curious at whether I'd get any LTB responses by bring vague Smile

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LeBearPolar · 17/04/2014 10:22

Harsh description of OP's DS, StillStaying! Shock Wink

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Writerwannabe83 · 17/04/2014 10:22

Cross post buzzard Grin Grin

I just need to plan now where I can leave him.....

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HillyHolbrook · 17/04/2014 10:23

Can't decide if you're being clever about a baby, or if your partner is a twatGrin

I wish my boobs were appreciated more! They're great, they're big and perky and basically my best feature, but DP is a 'legs man' and I have chunky thighs and super muscular calves from years of dance so if mine are his 'type' he has terrible terrible tasteWink

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 17/04/2014 10:24

My name is StillStayingClassySanDiego and yes I didn't get it.

I am a tit x 2.

I'll get my coat < leaves Blush >

HillyHolbrook · 17/04/2014 10:24

X-posted! Glad you were talking about a baby, else it'd definitely be a LTB from meGrin

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Writerwannabe83 · 17/04/2014 10:27

lemony - I used to have breasts like yours Grin Now they are just hard, veiny, and leaking half the time. not that I'm jealous..... Grin

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technosausage · 17/04/2014 10:29

I feel your pain.

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Writerwannabe83 · 17/04/2014 10:32

I hate it when DS fall asleep at the breast and his latch loosens because as soon as I try to remove my boob from hid mouth he automatically clamps down on my nipple!! Ouch!!

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Loopylouu · 17/04/2014 10:36

writer from the pregnancy threads I think there are only 5 days between our babies.

I was being used as a human dummy at 3am, so wasn't hungry, just wanted to 'chat' and suck away now and again!

She's currently asleep on my lap, if I try to put my boo ds away she wakes up. So I'm sat here, boobs out drinking tea!

squishysquirmy · 17/04/2014 10:37
Easter Grin
ikeaismylocal · 17/04/2014 10:39

My ds is 16 months old and still boob obsessed, when I walk into a room he says "mamma" in such a loving way and then says "boobie boobie boobie!"

I was so looking forward to hours spent gazing into my baby's eyes whilst he fed, but nope, breastfeeding is a serious business, a baby can't let himself get distracted.

When it is time for a feed ds actually squeals with excitement.

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Writerwannabe83 · 17/04/2014 10:39

I spend my days wandering around with my boobs out now - I just completely forgetful pop them back in after feeds. Thankfully my DH will tell me if I'm swinging free Smile

My DS was born on March 21st - is your baby younger or older??

I too hate the Human Dummy moments - don't they understand we want our sleep??! There's nothing worse than nipples/breasts just being played with in order for them to entertain themselves when all we want to do is crawl under the duvet.....

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Writerwannabe83 · 17/04/2014 10:41

ikea - the thought of your squealing child just made me smile!! I suppose there are worse things to be excited about Smile

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Loopylouu · 17/04/2014 10:42

Dd was march 26th.

All the angst I had when I was pregnant about finding feeding bras, all the threads I started asking for help - I needn't have bothered! I just wear a best top, she feeds so much that there is little point even putting a bra on at the moment.