WIBU to not tell DD to change?

[Catloverandmum]

My 21 year old DD has severe anxiety and depression as a result of an incident in her teenage years. She also has low confidence and self-esteem which we're slowly working on building up.

Today I asked her to go the corner shop and then to take MILs dog for a walk. Both times she went out wearing her bfs navy blue v neck jumper which he gave her to help her feel safe and reassured when they can't be together due to him working. It seems to be working, although it's a little bit to big for her!

Anyway, when was out with MILs dog my SIL saw her and realised she was wearing P's jumper. She text me and told me that I should tell her not to wear it in public, as people might think she has "issues" or that we're too poor to afford proper fitting clothes for her.

I told SIL to leave her alone, and that I was willing to support my daughter to get better, even if that means she dresses slightly oddly for awhile.

The jumper is similar to this one www.clothingattesco.com/knitwear/f+f-asnew-v-neck-jumper/invt/es412103&bklist=icat,4,shop,catgmens,mens-knitwear.

WIBU or should I ask DD to take it off next time I send her on a confidence building exercise to buy me bread?

I wear DH's stuff all the time, for no reason other than I chuck on whatever is closest to hand to go dog walking.

SIL is being a pleb.

Sometimes mens clothes are so much more comfier than women's anyway!

Your SIL is insensitive, rude and meddlesome - I'd be tempted to tell her that.

SIL is aware of some of the issues but I think she makes them seem less of a problem in her mind, even though she's a nurse and has seen DD's prescription for Antidepressants and Anti-anxiety meds.

I haven't, and won't be telling DD what SIL said, she for some reason likes her aunt. I'll also continue letting her dress how she feels comfortable.

Ignore sil comments. I wore dhs jumper when we first started going out and when I need a hug and hes not here I still wear it.
Next time you meet up with her wear your dh jumper.

Your SIL should mind her own buisness .What does it matter if DD wears her BF's jumper FFS .I've been with DH for 45 years and love wearing his fleecy shirts and jumpers . Tell her to bog off ;silly cow . I'm glad that DD gets comfort from BF's clothes . Nothing odd about it at all .

So glad you're letting your daughter wear the jumper! SIL is being very unreasonable, actually it sounds like her own insecurities are shining through!

If your daughter feels like the jumper is too big, you could perhaps suggest wearing it with skinny jeans/leggings with heels to balance out the bulk. Maybe a long necklace too.

SIL can fuck off.

1.the jumper is fine, given some of the sights you see walking about with their camel toes on show I'd say the jumper is totally non-newsworthy

1. Even if she was walking about dressed like cruela deville or a hooker, if it makes her feel better, who the hell cares?!
2. Your SIL needs to get a life

I wear my DP'S jumpers and hoodies out in public all the Time! I'm a size 8-10 and he wears mens L

Tell your sister in law to fuck off and make sure she does NOT say anything similar to your DO. It will not help the anxiety.
So long as she's clean and decent (ie not going out in just her pants!) then who gives a stuff what anyone thinks, not that it looks like anything anyone would bat an eyelid anyway.

*DD

Well, your SIL would love my 15yr old dd, she is like a magpie, lead any item of clothing unguarded and on it goes'. Mine, dh, her brothers, her boyfriends, no big deal at all. She also finds it comforting.
Tell your SIL to naff off!

Tell the SIL to f*k right off then fk off some more. What a btch. Not sure what's wrong with the jumper either.

Sounds like SIL thinks it might reflect on her or her family. Issues - what complete nonsense. And who isn't a bit financially stretched at the moment. Pah.

I wear my OH hoodies, rugby tops ect all the time as they are comfy and practical

I suffer with severe anxiety and depression and I fully understand your dd wearing her bf's jumper. I often wear dp's jumpers when I am having a bad day as it comforts me and makes me feel protected. Your dd is lucky to have such a thoughtful bf and such an amazing support network in you all!!

As for your sil - what a prize idiot she is!!! No one has the right to try and take away anything that your dd needs as a crutch! If I were you I would explain to your sil that dd needs to feel safe and if she has any further concerns youbwoukd be obliged if she kept them to herself.

I hope your daughter continues on her recovery!

Your SIL is being ridiculous. Your DD needs the comfort but even if she wore his jumper only to show that she has a boyfriend (or because she hadn't done any washing), that would be fine. She can wear what she likes, and if it gives her comfort and confidence, so much the better.

I don't really understand what the issue with the jumper is? I've worn similar things and am around your DD's age and no one I know would think it was a weird thing to wear.

Just because SIL is a nurse doesn't mean she has any sensitivity to mental health issues, or any sensitivity at all. She sounds like a prize cow.

I'm sure your daughter looks just fine, probably pretty cool in fact. But what she looks like is hardly important. I hope she's feeling better

Your dd could wear her bf's pants on her head if that made her feel better. Your SIL should mind her own business. My tiny dd often wears her bf's Xxl hoodie thing and nobody looks twice...

Your daughter should wear the sweater if it makes her feel better. A baggy sweater is better than the woman in white leggings and purple thong I saw in Wal-Mart last week. As long as it's clean, no worries.

Oh honestly, your SIL should fuck off keep her opinions to herself.

If your DD wants to wear the jumper, that's her choice. She is an adult! Even if she were a child it's none if your SIL's concern.

As long as your DD is happy that's really all that matters.

Gosh I stopped being able to dictate what my daughter wore when she was two. I can't imagine anyone thinking you should tell your adult daughter what to wear.