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AIBU?

To feel sorry for children who are not allowed to get dirty?

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Falconi · 14/04/2014 13:04

The sun is finally shining, children can finally have fun at playgrounds and parks and I have seen to many parents getting streesed over their kids getting their clothes dirty:(.
My friend didn't allow her daughter play with chalk the other day and now my neighbour just screamed at his daughter face that she is FILTHY but she isn't....she just has been playing at a very clean playground however with a long white skirt and flip flops on... And she does look clean!
Just put old 'primark' clothes on your kids and let them play on their holidays ffs.

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NickNackNooToYou · 15/04/2014 06:25

I made the stupid mistake of telling my DSs that I love to see sweaty dirty children as they look like they've had loads of fun. Not my best idea as they get filthy but once bathed are back to their angelic selves

I'll neve forget my batshit crazy SIL taking my nephew home as 'he was getting dirty', his poor little face

I also have shares in washing powder

Delphiniumsblue · 15/04/2014 07:14

Children should be dirty by the end of the day!

RachelWatts · 15/04/2014 07:45

I took DS1 to the park on the first sunny day after almost 2 weeks of solid rain. He spent over an hour in the waterlogged sandpit, digging channels for the water, then another hour in a muddy puddle. He was soaked, and filthy!

A little boy in a pristine puddle suit and shiny wellies watched him as if he couldn't believe his eyes. His parents were stood over him saying "No! Don't you dare!" Poor child.

IdkickJilliansAss · 15/04/2014 07:49

Several mums remarked on how messy my toddler was getting at a messy play session, I was

Falconi · 15/04/2014 09:08

I am taking the kids to the common today. Looking forward to the washing and bathing at the end of the afternoon.

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DogCalledRudis · 15/04/2014 09:16

There is time to muck about and there is time and clothes to be clean.

pizzachickenhotforyou · 15/04/2014 09:31

Parents take their children to creative and messy play sessions and then hold them on their lap watching other children get stuck in whilst making snide comments about how messy and unladylike the other girls are. I think this isn't just stupid but cruel too.

Jumble sakes. 5p (yes really) togs for playing in a bowl of baked beans with a side of corn flour. Fancy dresses for fancy birthday teas. They get messy there too but really who cares- save it for best and they'll of grown out of it by the time that comes around anyway.

IShallCallYouSquishy · 15/04/2014 09:53

I always make sure DD is immaculate when we leave the house/arrive anywhere so people know I do look after her. Once she's playing though it's a case of what ever happens, happens. If she's grubby and dirty then fine. I have a washing machine and a bath.

We are meeting friends at the park this morning so she's in Matalan leggings and a Primark top. She can run around until her hearts content. Yesterday we were visiting family so was in a slightly nicer outfit. She still got food all over her top though

5madthings · 15/04/2014 10:04

Oh my mil can be like this and it drives me mad. She Will fuss that the kids are getting dirty etc and I just say clothes go in the machine, kids go in the bath, it doesn't matter!

Sadly her attitude has rubbed off on dp a bit as yesterday ds4 and dd were playing with chalk in the front garden and dp got stress that they were getting dirty. Tbd dd was covered in chalk, but I said it doesn't matter some will brush off the rest will wash off. He was also stressed that when they came into the house the chalk dust was getting on the carpet etc. I just said to him it will Hoover up it doesn't matter! He stopped moaning then.

pizzachickenhotforyou · 15/04/2014 10:04

Idkickjilliansarse you probably go to the same one I do. Drives me mad. I've told them before I don't bring my kid to messy play so she can stand around like a twat watching other children have fun. They even have said to her 'ooh very messy girl' I say 'very CLEVER girl having fun and making a beautiful picture' when what I want to say is fuck off and don't talk to my child you idiot.

MummyPigsFatTummy · 15/04/2014 10:05

I agree with you about them growing out of things before they get to wear them thing, pizza. DD had a lovely dress for a wedding when she was just 3. She only wore it once as another opportunity never really came up - most parties since have been fancy dress. She found it the other day and wanted to wear it (she is now 4.6). It is now much too short really but with a pair of leggings it was fine and at least it is now getting a bit of wear - in the sandpit it turned out.

SelfRighteousPrissyPants · 15/04/2014 10:07

Where are the parents on MN who don't let their children get dirty? We all agree on here (me too!) but there must be some who don't. Do they worry about the germs on this thread

NigellasDealer · 15/04/2014 10:08

yes that is probably why they are not here! too many germs.

momb · 15/04/2014 10:14

My YD loves a frock, so much so that for her 7th birthday I bought her a fabulously over the top party dress, all chiffon and sequins and giant bow on the back. It was, and still is some 2 years on, her 'I want to really dress up and play out' frock. So when she wants to be really really sparkly she wears this and off we go: sandpit, tree climbing, whatever. I particularly like the look on people's faces when she jumps out of the car and gets stuck in!

fuzzpig · 15/04/2014 10:15

YANBU, I feel really strongly about it like you OP

Gileswithachainsaw · 15/04/2014 10:32

This thread has really made me smile, reading all these stories and imagining the state of all these filthy happy children :o

mummywithsmiles25 · 15/04/2014 11:47

When i was a kid , i climbed trees , hunted for worms , swam in puddles ,grazed my knees ,broke my arm and was always filthy ...i survived . I think the worlds gone crazy !

Lanabelle · 15/04/2014 11:57

hahahaha he sounds like the kind of person who screws their nose up at me when I go shopping straight after work of the farm complete with mucky overalls and wellies. I when I see them screw their faces up sometimes I like to get exceedingly close. Not unreasonable but I don't really think theres much you can do. As long as your childs happy playing with the chalk

Bearleigh · 15/04/2014 12:44

My sister's children were always immaculate, & never allowed to get dirty. I remember the disgust with which her daughter said 'dirty' about something when she was about 5. Now, her son who is about 30 suffers from terrible OCD, and lives at home, making his parents' lives a misery by always having to wash things.

I can't help but think it must be connected, but it may be simply that my sister has mild OCD herself, as she's always been neat and tidy and married a man like her.

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