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AIBU?

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Original poster

To ask him not to call me 'angel'

43 replies

JackyDanny · 13/04/2014 23:19

Just that really.
My boyfriend of 9 months keeps calling me 'angel'
I have never liked it but this eve as we were signing off, he messaged 'good night angel' I replied 'I prefer you call me jacky, goodnight'

Aibu?
Feel like I may be.
Especially as he has been doing it for 9 months.

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TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 13/04/2014 23:22

YANBU though maybe there was a better medium than SMS for it.

Someone called me princess once. I never snogged him again Grin

Casmama · 13/04/2014 23:22

The unreasonable bit was waiting 9 months to tell him! He probably thinks you like it. You've told him now so hopefully he'll realise you're serious.

ladymariner · 13/04/2014 23:37

Why would you wait 9 months before telling him? Yes, YABU

cozietoesie · 13/04/2014 23:42

One of my former acquaintances used to call all of his girlfriends by the same pet name on the (I think unconscious) principle that it would lessen the chance of a slip-up. He did seem to have rather a lot of them.

Original poster
JackyDanny · 14/04/2014 00:15

I was besotted initially and though I cringed inwardly I thought could handle it.

It's the biggest misnomer going.

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JackyDanny · 14/04/2014 00:17

And what you said cozie.
He has a couple of ex wives, string of children and step.
It's that blanket nick name.
Ick.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 14/04/2014 00:18

Should have told him months ago

Dp when I met him used to call me luv

Absolutely hate luv from anyone so told him

Now calls me darling or blondes

WorraLiberty · 14/04/2014 00:22

In that case shouldn't you be asking "AIBU to not want my boyfriend to call me the same name as he calls his couple of ex wives, his string of children and his step children?"

If I chose to get involved with him, I would seriously have mentioned this 9 months ago, if it bugged me.

Either way YANBU because I can't really see how you could possibly be unreasonable if you don't like the nick name.

BOFster · 14/04/2014 00:25

It sounds like you don't like him much (and from what you've said, I don't blame you)- what's the point?

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JackyDanny · 14/04/2014 00:26

Sorry, didn't explain that clearly.

I may be the only angel? Don't know...but he does have a bit of a reputation (consistent with Cozies theory)

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cozietoesie · 14/04/2014 00:26

It's also, possibly, a sign of how people think of others - as ciphers, almost. (Wasn't there an old comedy sketch about a guy with a Ford Cortina which had 'Kevin' in white lettering on the windscreen above the driver and 'The Bird' (or something similar) above the passenger seat?) As if anyone could be slotted into the position.

I haven't thought this through properly but I do believe that I'd like to be called by my own name rather than some general thing even if that latter comes easily.

Original poster
JackyDanny · 14/04/2014 00:27

Yes.
Maybe I've had enough of the relationship.
It isn't going anywhere.

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CheesyBadger · 14/04/2014 00:31

My friend calls me Goddess! Very embarrassing in front of people as I feel like they look at me with a 'why would he call her that?' Look on their faces

He's an old bearded hippy!

partialderivative · 14/04/2014 04:46

"Don't let me hear you say life's
taking you nowhere,
angel"

I bet you wouldn't mind so much if it was David Bowie calling you that.

Smile
withextradinosaurs · 14/04/2014 07:11

Yanbu. I hated being called "honey" for similar reasons.

AwfulMaureen · 14/04/2014 07:33

My Dh calls me beautiful and I have to say that it makes me go Confused because I'm not really very beautiful....but he thinks I am so I let him. Maybe your boyfriend sees you as an angel? Are you angelic?
.

RedRoom · 14/04/2014 10:57

Angel is alright. It's 'treacle' and 'sweedart' that I can't stand. Makes me think of 60 year old Cockney jellied eel sellers.

drnoitall · 14/04/2014 11:11

I don't like angel. Reminds me of dead people.
Just tell him, or stop responding to it.

Ludways · 14/04/2014 11:16

An ex of mine started the relationship calling me "our lass", that ended very quickly, he said his exes had liked it but her preferred my not putting up with it, he said he liked me not being his property. I should've seen him for what he was and ended it right then, would've saved me a few years of crap.

Thetallesttower · 14/04/2014 11:43

I call my dd 8 'angel' because she says it makes her feel special when I do, so I've carried on. Not sure what will be the appropriate age to stop!

silkknickers · 14/04/2014 11:55

My xh used to call me Darling, then Little Darling, then Little D and finally progressed on to humming 'Little D' as a warning when I was starting to annoy him.
I divorced the controlling dick of a man.

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 14/04/2014 13:33

My Brother used to call me "Dear" on the phone, especially when avoiding answering a too pointed question and usually in a whiny, patronising voice. I brushed it off a few times but, when I was very annoyed with him, I let rip and told him how patronising, inappropriate and downright irritating I found it. The only time he has done it since, he back-tracked of his own accord very quickly ....

DenzelWashington · 14/04/2014 13:46

DH calls me 'bab' to wind me up. It works.

Just tell him very seriously you really really don't like it, could he pick another endearment.

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 14/04/2014 14:09

I grew up in the part of the world where "Duck" is an endearment, but my Parents weren't local. Apparently, I came home indignant one day saying "Lady at Playschool called me "Duck". Me not "Duck", me "TwoAndTwo"!!".

Crinkle77 · 14/04/2014 14:51

Well my boyfriend calls me piggy and stinky. What started off as a joke has now stuck but I don't mind cos it's all said in a light hearted manner.

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