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AIBU?

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AIBU to pretend I saw nothing?

105 replies

Morgause · 13/04/2014 09:54

We live on a lane just wide enough for 2 vehicles to pass each other. Also we live on a bend at the top of a hill. We 3 families who live in houses on the inside of the bend never park on either side of the road because houses lower down the hill cannot see if the road is clear to pull out. A few of times we have been asked by the police or support officers to move cars that are causing an obstruction outside our houses (we live near a school) but they haven't been ours. Also few years ago there was an accident lower down and we all received letters asking us not to park on the bend.

If cars are parked there it is also very difficult to get in and out of our drives.

Recently a man living 500 yards down the lane has bought himself a huge 4x4. He doesn't have the competence to park it on his drive without several attempts so has taken to leaving it outside our houses on the opposite side of the road - there are no houses opposite just school grounds. Our neighbour has asked him a few times not to but he pays his road tax and can park where he likes, he says. We have resisted talking to the police about it because that seems petty.

Anyway, last night as I was drawing our bedroom curtains I saw a visitor pulling out of next door's drive and he bashed into the 4X4. I heard the scrape. The driver (a friend of the son of NDN) drove off quickly. This morning I can see that the paintwork is badly scratched.

My inclination is to say nothing, even if asked. AIBU?

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picnicbasketcase · 13/04/2014 14:31

There's no such thing as road tax anyway so I don't know why he would think he has paid to park wherever he likes (pedant)

AndHarry · 13/04/2014 14:36

I've had my car badly dented by a neighbour, with witnesses who told me what happened (neighbour denied all knowledge Hmm). I've also watch someone trying to park outside my house and repeatedly bang into someone else's car so taken photos and told the owner of the damaged vehicle.

Victim/good neighbour credentials established, in this instance I would stay well out of it.

Mothergothel99 · 13/04/2014 14:37

Don't get involved. I witnessed a minor crime, ended up with a nutter threatening me at home.

Say nothing and feel relieved he won't park there again.

RedFocus · 13/04/2014 14:43

I wouldn't volunteer the info but I would if asked.
I am concerned about the lad who did it though because there will be evidence on his car and if he comes round and the 4x4 owner figures it out he may turn violent towards the lad and I would feel awful.
Perhaps tell the the neighbours who's son he is friends with and let them deal with it because the lad really shouldn't be able to get away with hitting someone's car regardless of who's it is.

Zucker · 13/04/2014 16:03

Silence is golden in this case I think. Laughing at the image of him playing detectice by looking at all the cars for damage evidence.

Oldraver · 13/04/2014 16:37

Well if he asks just say "well yes thats why we dont park there, we did try to warn you"

RaRa1988 · 13/04/2014 19:26

I'd keep very quiet and hope the bloke's learned his lesson now. Arrogant twat - he's been proved wrong now I hope!

MsDiddlyQuaQua · 13/04/2014 20:32

Keep schtum, nothing to tell.
People are too precious about cars. It's an object to get you from a to b. A paint scratch doesn't stop him doing that, nor will it fail him his MOT. It is an unreasonable expectation to leave something on a public highway and expect it to continue being in showroom condition ad infinitum.
Even if the young lad 'fesses up out of politeness I wouldn't expect him to pay anything for a paint scratch. It's part of normal wear and tear just as stone chipping marks are. If it upsets the guy, he can get rid of a paint scratch easy enough with a bit of elbow grease and not park there again.
If it were a dent however, or a bumper hanging off that's a different matter. On second thoughts, I'd keep your head down on that as well.

RedRoom · 13/04/2014 21:00

So he's noticed the damage, but is his car still there? It's no good if he's learned nothing!

Bogeyface · 13/04/2014 21:07

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Bogeyface · 13/04/2014 21:08

Although for some reason, there is a picture of a naked woman in the top spot Hmm

Bogeyface · 13/04/2014 21:11

You know what? Forget that website.

It used to be fine but is now full of pictures of women dogging. Its horrible :(

It should be www.youparklikeacunt.com

rollonthesummer · 13/04/2014 21:17

Is his car still parked there, OP?

Morgause · 13/04/2014 21:27

It's not there now. It isn't in his drive either.

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Sparklingbrook · 13/04/2014 21:28

It's at the dealer having the dent knocked out.

Bogeyface · 13/04/2014 21:29

He's probably trading it in for a smartcar as we speak!

Sorry for the link above, I have reported it to MN to get it removed Blush

LindyHemming · 13/04/2014 22:04

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CuntyBunty · 13/04/2014 22:08

Do you have something to share with us Bogey? Wink

Pipbin · 13/04/2014 22:10

Its the wrong 'youparklikeacunt'.
I follow them on twitter and they are still happily posting pictures of people being cunts rather than actual cunts.

AchyFox · 14/04/2014 00:07

Do you think the Harry's visitor did it deliberately or was drunk ?

maddening · 14/04/2014 00:20

Campaign for that portion of road to be marked as double yellows

Bogeyface · 14/04/2014 00:35

the uk site used to be ok, but the last time I looked at it was ages ago. Clearly since then it has changed its remit somewhat Hmm

Rather embarrassed! Make sure you use the .com site!

Morgause · 14/04/2014 06:55

Harry is the neighbour on the other side, sorry if I misled. The lad visiting next door was unlikely to have been drunk. Very few young drivers seem to drink and drive, from the ones I know. The father of the lad he was visiting wouldn't allow them to drink if they were driving.

I can see the car is in the drive this morning. So arse has learned a lesson, maybe.

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LettertoHermioneGranger · 14/04/2014 07:08

I don't think you're under an obligation to get involved, and it may not be wise, so far as volunteering information.

However, no matter whether the neighbor is an arse or not, that does not justify that the lad performing a hit and run. That's inexcusable. And I think morally you shouldn't lie or evade if asked.

TheFarceAndTheSpurious · 14/04/2014 09:07

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